Would would you do or think if......

Toridoll2004 · 06-24-2006, 05:21 PM

your husband asked you to lose weight..not because of how you look because they say they are attracted to you and love you but for your health?

would you be mad, hurt, upset, not care?

just curious as to what other people thought.

Peskie · 06-24-2006, 05:23 PM

I don't know....that's a toughy.

I'd say I'd probably feel hurt, but try not to show it if I truly believed what he said about health vs looks.

Deep down though, it'd hurt from the perspective that it's even in his mind. He's suppose to see me as "perfect" you know.

Sharon · 06-24-2006, 05:24 PM

It sounds like he's concerned about you and wants to make sure that you will live a long life with him.

gotogirl · 06-24-2006, 05:24 PM

I think it shows he cares. Wouldn't you do the same for him?
It looks like you're on your way!!!!

Beaglesaroo · 06-24-2006, 05:24 PM

I'm not married, but had my long term boyfriend said that to me, I'd have been hurt but I think that I'd also realize that he did love and wanted what was best for me.

We had a good relationship - (sounds funny, since we're no longer together, but it was good and a good breakup) - and he never said anything to me to hurt me deliberately or to humiliate me when I was fat, thin, in between or for any reason, so I would've come around to knowing that he said it out of concern, not out of a round about way of speaking.

edited to add: lemme just be clear - I would have been hurt. It's not a 2 second turn around to realize he would've meant it out of concern, but I would have come around to that.

JuliaL · 06-24-2006, 05:30 PM

To be honest I think it would hurt my feelings. But after I got over the hurt I might decide that he is just trying to be a caring husband. After all, if I died form an obesity-related disease and he had never expressed his concerns how could he live with himself?

My husband never said much about my weight but he always tried to get me to go for walks with him and to eat better. He has always been into fitness and a healthy lifestyle and for many years actually weighed less than me. I remember when I decided to lose weight crying on his shoulder and saying that I knew he was less attracted to me because of my weight. He never admitted that and said that it wasn't true, but the point was I felt less attractive. I hurt me to feel that way, but sometimes the truth hurts.

walkingwoman · 06-24-2006, 05:38 PM

I'd probably feel a little bit of all those things.

mrsislandqt · 06-24-2006, 05:44 PM

If the husband was aware of an advisory from a physician and was genuinely concerned, I'd be less hurt. I am not so forgiving of those who push their wives who are at a huge 150 lbs. to lose weight for 'health reasons.' I had almost the same scenario as Julia. I cried to my husband about not feeling attractive and that I knew he didn't think I was as attractive but he denied it and stated that he was just concerned that I'd lose a lot of weight and my bum. Ironically, men are actually at a greater risk of suffering from obesity related illnesses than women.

momto3boys · 06-24-2006, 05:50 PM

Funny you should mention that! My DH, the boys and I were perusing the Super Wallymart today and I said to him "why can't we just be happy with the weights we're at and eat whatever we want" (he's cutting his portion size and exercising to lose weight), he said "because you Need to lose weight to be healthy"...I wasn't mad at all because it's true, I feel like a shlub, and am vearing off plan (I had an apple pie at Mc D's, an oreo and a whole box of strawberries today...I'm a fruit-aholic!). I know I'm the only one who can change my WOE so I'm reinducing Monday and will follow Atkins to the letter...(I'll be on plan tomorrow but my official re-induction will be monday).

Paty · 06-24-2006, 05:55 PM

Hum... Considering that I am and will always be my toughest judge and given that I know I have weight to lose, I think I would be ok with it. It all depends on how dh would say it to me and also what is non verbal gestures would tell me.

My dh is happy that I am losing weight but he always had nice comments on my clothes, hair and make up even at my heaviest so I am happy to see the new twinkle in his eyes but I knew that he loved me even when I was heavier.

AllieCat0817 · 06-24-2006, 07:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Toridoll2004

your husband asked you to lose weight..not because of how you look because they say they are attracted to you and love you but for your health?.

I wouldn't do it. I'd do the exact opposite and eat my azz off till I gained even more. Seriously.

Pita420 · 06-24-2006, 07:03 PM

When I met my boyfriend the first thing I told him, *we met online* is that I was overweight and wanted to lose so that I could look good in clothes and be healthier. He agreed that I needed to be healthier and immediately began helping me come up with plans for a better way to eat. Now that we live together he is my biggest supporter. We workout and plan our meals together. Heck he even does the grocery shopping! I'm so happy to have him supporting me and loving me enough to want me healthy and yes even thin. Why not? He loves taking me shopping and he knows once I'm thinner buying me clothes will be lots more fun for the both of us.

ToothPick · 06-24-2006, 07:31 PM

I am so upset with my husband for not telling me to lose weight! I look in the mirror and see a normal form. He tells me I'm beautiful and that added to my morphed sense of self...had he been honest 6 years ago I probably would not be here now...no I would never get angry if someone that loves me tells me I should lose weight...that is unless I'm already thin...

RITA04 · 06-24-2006, 08:08 PM

It would all depend on how he said it... It would probably hurt my feelings... It would make me think he wasn't attracted to me !!! Then I would prolly slap him!!

BFL Chick · 06-24-2006, 09:38 PM

Seriously, don't feel hurt *AT ALL*!!!! Make him your official personal trainer!

BFL Chick · 06-24-2006, 09:40 PM

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Originally Posted by ToothPick

I am so upset with my husband for not telling me to lose weight! I look in the mirror and see a normal form. He tells me I'm beautiful and that added to my morphed sense of self...had he been honest 6 years ago I probably would not be here now...no I would never get angry if someone that loves me tells me I should lose weight...that is unless I'm already thin...

I totally agree...I wish my loved ones had told me that I was getting fat. It's like if someone has spinach between their teeth & they were about to walk into an interview...What would be the right thing to do?

randtbrown · 06-24-2006, 11:05 PM

My DH did actually push me the first time around. Not because of my looks but because of my negitive attitute about everything. Not wanting to go anywhere or do anything because I was uncomfortable with myself. His telling me how he felt about that helped me get serious. It did hurt, but all in all I am thankful for his honesty.

aussiesarah · 06-24-2006, 11:52 PM

I'd do it. I possibly could get my feelings hurt though. I'm a fiesty red head, and can be quite demanding most of the time. If there was something that was unhealthy for DH2B I'd want him to improve it too. Looking attractive to your spouse is important, but looking attractive for you is something else.

takerr · 06-25-2006, 12:56 AM

My DH always told me I was beautiful - but I could really tell by how he looked at me - it was with disgust...

Sludge · 06-25-2006, 03:11 AM

I guess it all depends on how many of us here have husbands or SO's who have no weight problem and are able to talk about weight issues without having fingers pointing back at them.

it's a toughie for sure.

TaDa! · 06-25-2006, 05:24 AM

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Originally Posted by AllieCat0817

I wouldn't do it. I'd do the exact opposite and eat my azz off till I gained even more. Seriously.

I think we are twins seperated at birth Allie ...

But seriously, dh and I were married 10 years when I began lowcarbing at a bmi of 41 (qualified for gastric bypass surgery) and he never said a word to me about my weight. I had enough guilt and self-hatred inside of me and the results of family members' "caring words" to last a few lifetimes. I believe that if he had ever said a word about it then .. or now .. I probably would have left him.

Fat people are not walking around in a daze oblivious to the fact that we are killing ourselves.

mrsislandqt · 06-25-2006, 06:42 AM

I just feel that weight is such a subjective thing. There are some that feel 110 pounds on a 5'2 woman is very unhealthy! I'm sorry but this is much different than telling someone that they have spinach in their teeth. I'm hard on myself as it is and I know much better than most about potential health complications- I don't need the undercover food and weight police around, posing as health conscious, concerned people.

Toridoll2004 · 06-25-2006, 10:02 AM

I still dont know what I want to think

I mean I believe that he did it because he loves me. not because he isnt attracted to me or has a problem. and I believe that he believes he did the right thing.

BUT, i cant help but think......does he really think Im that stupid? I KNOW that being fat isnt healthy. i know that its not a good thing. and most people really wont lose weight till they are ready too anyways, and ur husband asking you isnt necc. going to make you ready. i dont know.

mrsislandqt · 06-25-2006, 11:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Toridoll2004

I still dont know what I want to think

I mean I believe that he did it because he loves me. not because he isnt attracted to me or has a problem. and I believe that he believes he did the right thing.

BUT, i cant help but think......does he really think Im that stupid? I KNOW that being fat isnt healthy. i know that its not a good thing. and most people really wont lose weight till they are ready too anyways, and ur husband asking you isnt necc. going to make you ready. i dont know.

It really doesn't matter what the rationale is behind the request- it hurts just the same. Please take care of yourself emotionally and physically. Perhaps you could let him know that you're well aware of the POTENTIAL health complications associated with obesity. Being overweight doesn't automatically enter you into the 'I'm going to get very sick and die' club. Get a health assessment from your physician and assure your husband that you're on top of it- you'll be fine. All the best.

Orphalie · 06-29-2006, 02:51 PM

If my husband said that to me I would certainly be hurt, not because I suspect he thinks I'm fat or unattractive but because I "know" in some way he is disappointed in me. I'm on the other said of this debate when it comes to my husbands smoking and I think the two things are very simular. We have weekly talks about his smoking, about how much he was able to cut back this week and how hes feeling about quiting ect. In the begining when I told him he HAD to quit he knew it was because I loved him, I wanted him to grow old with me and not get sick. But he admitted to me that he was hurt that in some way he was disapointing me and before he told me that, that he was almost angry with me for telling him that. I think for many of us, no matter when the issue, being told that what were doing is not good enough in what ever way and that we need to change is always hurtful even when we know its true.

Pcola Girl · 06-29-2006, 07:04 PM

You should feel great about it..Your hubby can be your greatest support.
I needed to lose for my health to and I got on the board here and printed up new recipes to try and my hubby and I would cook them together and have the most fun in the kitchen.
Your hubby loves you thats why he is concerned about your health.
Most my health problems I am having now are due to me being so overweight for so many years. So the sooner you can get the weight off the better it will be for your health. Don't wait till you are my age to start losing it, lose it now..
Be proud that he is concerned..........

Shantony · 06-29-2006, 10:17 PM

It wouldn't bother me because my DH has said it. What would bother me if he had said he wanted me to lose weight becuz he was beginning to find me unattractive. That would have hurt. Because for so long I was powerless to do anything. Nothing would work after the 3rd baby. So I would have been upset becuz that probably woulda meant I woulda ate more and got fatter from depression.

Lehgrad · 06-30-2006, 08:54 AM

06-24-2006, 05:21 PM	#1
Toridoll2004 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Richmond, VA Posts: 2,007 Gallery: Toridoll2004 Stats: 314.5/308/110 WOE: my own thing	Would would you do or think if...... your husband asked you to lose weight..not because of how you look because they say they are attracted to you and love you but for your health? would you be mad, hurt, upset, not care? just curious as to what other people thought.

06-24-2006, 05:24 PM	#5
Beaglesaroo Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Tampa Bay area Posts: 19,931 Gallery: Beaglesaroo Stats: 232.8/228/150 WOE: 1300-1500 calories as of 5/11/08 /diabetic type Start Date: 4/11/08	I'm not married, but had my long term boyfriend said that to me, I'd have been hurt but I think that I'd also realize that he did love and wanted what was best for me. We had a good relationship - (sounds funny, since we're no longer together, but it was good and a good breakup) - and he never said anything to me to hurt me deliberately or to humiliate me when I was fat, thin, in between or for any reason, so I would've come around to knowing that he said it out of concern, not out of a round about way of speaking. edited to add: lemme just be clear - I would have been hurt. It's not a 2 second turn around to realize he would've meant it out of concern, but I would have come around to that. __________________ God will pardon me; that's his job. ~ last words of Heinrich Heine My mom got diagnosed with diabetes 4/11/08. We're changing our lifestyles and for weight purposes, our 'official' start date is 4/13/08. 120 days: Me: My mother is holding steady for now: down from tight 12s and comfy 14s, to loose 12s and tight 10s. Last edited by Beaglesaroo : 06-24-2006 at 05:38 PM.

06-24-2006, 05:30 PM	#6
JuliaL Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: May 2003 Location: Louisville, KY Posts: 17,325 Gallery: JuliaL Stats: 190/145/140 16/8/6, height 5'8", age 48 WOE: Atkins/BFFM Start Date: 4/22/03	To be honest I think it would hurt my feelings. But after I got over the hurt I might decide that he is just trying to be a caring husband. After all, if I died form an obesity-related disease and he had never expressed his concerns how could he live with himself? My husband never said much about my weight but he always tried to get me to go for walks with him and to eat better. He has always been into fitness and a healthy lifestyle and for many years actually weighed less than me. I remember when I decided to lose weight crying on his shoulder and saying that I knew he was less attracted to me because of my weight. He never admitted that and said that it wasn't true, but the point was I felt less attractive. I hurt me to feel that way, but sometimes the truth hurts. __________________ *"Our limitations and success will be based, most often, on our own expectations for ourselves. What the mind dwells upon, the body acts upon." -Denis Waitley*

06-24-2006, 05:50 PM	#9
momto3boys Senior LCF Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: MA Posts: 588 Gallery: momto3boys Stats: 175/175/135 WOE: Atkins/low GI/GL Start Date: January 8, 2008	Funny you should mention that! My DH, the boys and I were perusing the Super Wallymart today and I said to him "why can't we just be happy with the weights we're at and eat whatever we want" (he's cutting his portion size and exercising to lose weight), he said "because you Need to lose weight to be healthy"...I wasn't mad at all because it's true, I feel like a shlub, and am vearing off plan (I had an apple pie at Mc D's, an oreo and a whole box of strawberries today...I'm a fruit-aholic!). I know I'm the only one who can change my WOE so I'm reinducing Monday and will follow Atkins to the letter...(I'll be on plan tomorrow but my official re-induction will be monday). __________________ ~Becky~ Help Cure Autism! Goal 1: To do some form of exercise for 15 minutes each day Goal 2: Quit Diet Pepsi, Drink at least 80oz of water per day (goal met 10-20-07) Goal 3: Be Happy!!! (working on it)

06-24-2006, 05:55 PM	#10
Paty MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Montreal, Canada Posts: 1,430 Blog Entries: 1 Gallery: Paty Stats: 5'11 212.5/200.5/155 WOE: Atkins Start Date: 18/11/08	Hum... Considering that I am and will always be my toughest judge and given that I know I have weight to lose, I think I would be ok with it. It all depends on how dh would say it to me and also what is non verbal gestures would tell me. My dh is happy that I am losing weight but he always had nice comments on my clothes, hair and make up even at my heaviest so I am happy to see the new twinkle in his eyes but I knew that he loved me even when I was heavier. __________________ 212.5 - 210 - 205 - 204 - 203 - 202 - 201 - 200 - 199 - 198 - 197 - 196 - 195 - 190 - 185 - 180 - 175 - 170 - 165 - 160 - 155 - 150 --> Goal!

06-24-2006, 05:23 PM	#2
Peskie princess peskironi WIT Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: in anticipation of great things! 9600/3102 Posts: 55,900 Gallery: Peskie Stats: I'm not perfect, but close enough to scare me WOE: waiting on the stork to sprinkle quint dust on me Start Date: tomorrow snort	I don't know....that's a toughy. I'd say I'd probably feel hurt, but try not to show it if I truly believed what he said about health vs looks. Deep down though, it'd hurt from the perspective that it's even in his mind. He's suppose to see me as "perfect" you know.

06-24-2006, 05:24 PM	#3
Sharon Come join us on the Game Board Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: retired now - I ski 40+ days annually and do marathons. 1st TIME GRANDMOTHER 6/18/07 Posts: 100,911 Gallery: Sharon Stats: 156/124/135 5'6" 63 y/o - GO UCLA - BEAT USC WOE: Atkins - low sodium and fresh food - STAY POSITIVE Start Date: 4/5/03	It sounds like he's concerned about you and wants to make sure that you will live a long life with him.

06-24-2006, 05:24 PM	#4
gotogirl MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Texas Posts: 2,142 Gallery: gotogirl Stats: 148/116/120 5'3" WOE: Atkins for Life Maintenance Start Date: August, 2005	I think it shows he cares. Wouldn't you do the same for him? It looks like you're on your way!!!!

06-24-2006, 05:38 PM	#7
walkingwoman Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Paradise Posts: 6,937 Gallery: walkingwoman Stats: 12/4/2-4 WOE: Who knows? Start Date: every day is a new day	I'd probably feel a little bit of all those things.

06-24-2006, 05:44 PM	#8
mrsislandqt MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Somewhere sunny... Posts: 1,363 Gallery: mrsislandqt Stats: 220/131/carvin' it out... WOE: Atkins/ckd Start Date: March 2003	If the husband was aware of an advisory from a physician and was genuinely concerned, I'd be less hurt. I am not so forgiving of those who push their wives who are at a huge 150 lbs. to lose weight for 'health reasons.' I had almost the same scenario as Julia. I cried to my husband about not feeling attractive and that I knew he didn't think I was as attractive but he denied it and stated that he was just concerned that I'd lose a lot of weight and my bum. Ironically, men are actually at a greater risk of suffering from obesity related illnesses than women.

06-24-2006, 07:03 PM	#12
Pita420 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Georgia Posts: 563 Gallery: Pita420 Stats: 244/225/150 WOE: Atkins Induction/exercise Start Date: March 20, 2006	When I met my boyfriend the first thing I told him, we met online is that I was overweight and wanted to lose so that I could look good in clothes and be healthier. He agreed that I needed to be healthier and immediately began helping me come up with plans for a better way to eat. Now that we live together he is my biggest supporter. We workout and plan our meals together. Heck he even does the grocery shopping! I'm so happy to have him supporting me and loving me enough to want me healthy and yes even thin. Why not? He loves taking me shopping and he knows once I'm thinner buying me clothes will be lots more fun for the both of us. __________________ March 20,2006,Starting weight ~244 End of the month totals: April '06 ~234 May '06 ~230.5 June '06~224 July '06~228 Vacation gain! August '06 ~225 Sept '06 Oct '06 Nov '06 Dec '06 Jan '07 Feb '07 ~Hopefully Goal at 150 lbs!! I signed up for an exercise class and was told to wear loose-fitting clothing. If I HAD any loose-fitting clothing, I wouldn't have signed up in the first place!"

06-24-2006, 07:31 PM	#13
ToothPick Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 3,658 Gallery: ToothPick Stats: 262.5/254/165 WOE: WW Core	I am so upset with my husband for not telling me to lose weight! I look in the mirror and see a normal form. He tells me I'm beautiful and that added to my morphed sense of self...had he been honest 6 years ago I probably would not be here now...no I would never get angry if someone that loves me tells me I should lose weight...that is unless I'm already thin...

06-24-2006, 08:08 PM	#14
RITA04 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Saint Louis Posts: 1,456 Gallery: RITA04 Stats: Whatever.. WOE: Atkins - Low carb Start Date: March 2006	It would all depend on how he said it... It would probably hurt my feelings... It would make me think he wasn't attracted to me !!! Then I would prolly slap him!!

06-24-2006, 09:38 PM	#15
BFL Chick Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Baltimore Posts: 4,315 Gallery: BFL Chick Stats: 192/136.5/125 (5' 6.5") WOE: Eating healthy and exercising! Start Date: 1/01 Atkins, 6/06 NS, 11/06 cals, 07/07 LFL	Seriously, don't feel hurt AT ALL!!!! Make him your official personal trainer!

06-24-2006, 11:05 PM	#17
randtbrown MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: The Woodlands, Texas Posts: 2,867 Gallery: randtbrown Stats: Before baby: 225/160- Current:209/181/170 (-28) WOE: Atkins Start Date: June 11, 2004/ restart 3/15/06	My DH did actually push me the first time around. Not because of my looks but because of my negitive attitute about everything. Not wanting to go anywhere or do anything because I was uncomfortable with myself. His telling me how he felt about that helped me get serious. It did hurt, but all in all I am thankful for his honesty.

06-24-2006, 11:52 PM	#18
aussiesarah MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: May 2006 Location: Melbourne, Australia Posts: 1,624 Gallery: aussiesarah Stats: Back from my pregnancy! 107/101/75kg WOE: Healthy Start Date: May 11, 2006	I'd do it. I possibly could get my feelings hurt though. I'm a fiesty red head, and can be quite demanding most of the time. If there was something that was unhealthy for DH2B I'd want him to improve it too. Looking attractive to your spouse is important, but looking attractive for you is something else.

06-25-2006, 12:56 AM	#19
takerr Junior LCF Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: North Texas Posts: 16 Gallery: takerr Stats: 186/157/127 ~ 5'6.5" WOE: Atkins Start Date: 4/17/06 reinducting 1/8/07	My DH always told me I was beautiful - but I could really tell by how he looked at me - it was with disgust...

06-25-2006, 03:11 AM	#20
Sludge Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: English born & raised, now living in Atlanta GA Posts: 172 Gallery: Sludge Stats: 245/129/145 WOE: Atkins Start Date: July 5th 04	I guess it all depends on how many of us here have husbands or SO's who have no weight problem and are able to talk about weight issues without having fingers pointing back at them. it's a toughie for sure.

06-25-2006, 06:42 AM	#22
mrsislandqt MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Somewhere sunny... Posts: 1,363 Gallery: mrsislandqt Stats: 220/131/carvin' it out... WOE: Atkins/ckd Start Date: March 2003	I just feel that weight is such a subjective thing. There are some that feel 110 pounds on a 5'2 woman is very unhealthy! I'm sorry but this is much different than telling someone that they have spinach in their teeth. I'm hard on myself as it is and I know much better than most about potential health complications- I don't need the undercover food and weight police around, posing as health conscious, concerned people.

06-25-2006, 10:02 AM	#23
Toridoll2004 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Richmond, VA Posts: 2,007 Gallery: Toridoll2004 Stats: 314.5/308/110 WOE: my own thing	I still dont know what I want to think I mean I believe that he did it because he loves me. not because he isnt attracted to me or has a problem. and I believe that he believes he did the right thing. BUT, i cant help but think......does he really think Im that stupid? I KNOW that being fat isnt healthy. i know that its not a good thing. and most people really wont lose weight till they are ready too anyways, and ur husband asking you isnt necc. going to make you ready. i dont know.

06-29-2006, 02:51 PM	#25
Orphalie MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Dallas Texan misplaced to Mountain Home ID Posts: 1,001 Gallery: Orphalie Stats: 220/189/140 WOE: atkins Start Date: Jan 8th 07	If my husband said that to me I would certainly be hurt, not because I suspect he thinks I'm fat or unattractive but because I "know" in some way he is disappointed in me. I'm on the other said of this debate when it comes to my husbands smoking and I think the two things are very simular. We have weekly talks about his smoking, about how much he was able to cut back this week and how hes feeling about quiting ect. In the begining when I told him he HAD to quit he knew it was because I loved him, I wanted him to grow old with me and not get sick. But he admitted to me that he was hurt that in some way he was disapointing me and before he told me that, that he was almost angry with me for telling him that. I think for many of us, no matter when the issue, being told that what were doing is not good enough in what ever way and that we need to change is always hurtful even when we know its true.

06-29-2006, 07:04 PM	#26
Pcola Girl Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Pensacola, Florida Posts: 3,295 Gallery: Pcola Girl Stats: Start-325 Today-225 Goal 160 WOE: Atkins Start Date: Sarted Nov. 2000---Restarted New January 2008	You should feel great about it..Your hubby can be your greatest support. I needed to lose for my health to and I got on the board here and printed up new recipes to try and my hubby and I would cook them together and have the most fun in the kitchen. Your hubby loves you thats why he is concerned about your health. Most my health problems I am having now are due to me being so overweight for so many years. So the sooner you can get the weight off the better it will be for your health. Don't wait till you are my age to start losing it, lose it now.. Be proud that he is concerned.......... __________________ Mary

06-29-2006, 10:17 PM	#27
Shantony Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Somewhere between USA & CA Posts: 796 Gallery: Shantony Stats: 5' 2" -230/188/150 WOE: Low Carb Start Date: June 3, 2006	It wouldn't bother me because my DH has said it. What would bother me if he had said he wanted me to lose weight becuz he was beginning to find me unattractive. That would have hurt. Because for so long I was powerless to do anything. Nothing would work after the 3rd baby. So I would have been upset becuz that probably woulda meant I woulda ate more and got fatter from depression.

06-30-2006, 08:54 AM	#28
Lehgrad MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Boston Posts: 2,017 Gallery: Lehgrad Stats: 170/141/135, 5'5" WOE: IR Diet Start Date: June '04