Friends not being supportive of weight loss

goofball · 05-13-2006, 06:56 PM

Does anyone have friends who seem annoyed/jealous/generally not supportive of weight loss. My two best friends keep doing things like order french fries, onions rings, nachos, etc. and insist that I share with them. When I tell them I'm doing the low carb thing they roll their eyes and make jokes. They also makes jokes about me going to the gym. Its getting to the point that I'm avoiding them.

sbarr · 05-13-2006, 07:00 PM

Are they heavier than you? Perhaps it's jealousy or comparing themselves to your high standards and feeling negative about themselves?

mikeysmommy33 · 05-13-2006, 07:06 PM

Sorry Goofball,
Sometimes friends/family are just not ready for you to make a change! The only thing that matters is that YOU are ready for a change

Hang in there and when they insist that you eat fries and onion rings etc - just politely say no thanks I'm feeling so much better the way I have been eating and don't feel like going back to feeling like crap!

or perhaps you could say - I don't feel like sharing your heart attack in a basket!

About the gym - keep up the good work and those eye rolls that they are giving you will soon turn into BIG BUG EYES as they see how fit and trim and HEALTHY you are! You are awesome!!!!

mykneesareback · 05-13-2006, 07:10 PM

It's simple, being around you makes your friends feel guilty. And when you lose lots of weight, they may not be your "best" friends anymore either. And so it goes.

southerngrace · 05-13-2006, 07:11 PM

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Originally Posted by mikeysmommy33

Sorry Goofball,
Sometimes friends/family are just not ready for you to make a change! The only thing that matters is that YOU are ready for a change

Hang in there and when they insist that you eat fries and onion rings etc - just politely say no thanks I'm feeling so much better the way I have been eating and don't feel like going back to feeling like crap!

or perhaps you could say - I don't feel like sharing your heart attack in a basket!

About the gym - keep up the good work and those eye rolls that they are giving you will soon turn into BIG BUG EYES as they see how fit and trim and HEALTHY you are! You are awesome!!!!

I totally agree!!

animalcrackers · 05-13-2006, 07:16 PM

Doesn't sound like very good friends. I'm sure it's just a jealousy issue and perhaps they are worried that if you get thin and healthy you may leave them. You are doing this for yourself above all and not your friends. In the end you will be the winner for how you look and feel. Stay strong!

AmyJuli · 05-13-2006, 07:19 PM

Just keep on keepin' on.

I'm more of a "give the benefit of doubt" type, so you can take or leave my advice...

First you have to figure out if they order french fries because they've *always* ordered french fries. I got annoyed for quite awhile about dh's sweets habit until I realized that just because I'm making different choices doesn't mean he has to. And people equate eating with being sociable; eventually they get the point that you're not going to eat the french fries but you are still the same person. Honestly, eating = sociable is a battle you'll fight alot.

On the teasing, I'd just politely mention that it bothers you. They may not mean it maliciously. They could be your biggest cheerleaders once they realize that you're serious.

beckynett · 05-13-2006, 07:32 PM

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Originally Posted by goofball

... friends who seem annoyed/jealous/generally not supportive. My two best friends . . . roll their eyes and make jokes.

Honey, with friends like these, who needs enemies?!

Sometimes those around us feel threatened by our changes.(Heck, most of us don't like change! That's why we stayed the way we were for too long, until the pain of staying the same exceeded the pain of changing.) But if they love and respect you, once they understand what this means to you, they will support you. If they don't respect you that much, you'll just have to respect yourself enough to move on and make room in your life for people who WILL value you! Maybe that's part of the victory you will win!
And

toomuchtolosetogain · 05-13-2006, 07:37 PM

Ditch the "friends"...they aren't really friends. They may hang out with you but they're NOT your friends.

Spider_Lily · 05-13-2006, 07:39 PM

Sounds like they maybe jealous.But your not losing for your friends your doing it for yourself so STAND STRONG and anyway we are your friends and we support you.YOU GO GIRL!!!

mrgarak · 05-13-2006, 09:22 PM

When dealing with people (and not just friends) who are not supportive of my weight loss and makes comments, I just say to them "you are just jealous because you are not as beautiful as I am."

LowCarbRachel · 05-13-2006, 10:51 PM

Yes. I get comments all the time about how "good" I am being, ha. I am not good--I just have a plan I love and I don't enjoy eating starch because it makes me feel icky. I also have "dieting" friends who go off track almost every day and offer me stuff they know I don't eat to justify the fact that they are eating it. We had a company lunch the other day and everyone was trying to justify me eating french fries on the car ride there...at least I give them something to talk about, huh? Instead, I ordered a hamburger with no bun and an ice tea. I've got a stubborn streak, and I'm not going to give into the peer pressure, no matter how many eye rolls I get.

My_Sharona · 05-13-2006, 11:30 PM

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They also makes jokes about me

If you set out your goal, whose going to have the last laugh, you are my dear!

Simple put, they are so jealous of you! You show them girl....KUTGW!

Jennyl · 05-14-2006, 12:16 AM

order something that you love and that is on plan and enjoy it. Maybe some wings or caesar salad or whatever is on the menu that is allowable. Whatever their reasons, your friends making jokes about you trying to make positive changes in your life is extremely rude. They don't sound like very good friends to me either.

charmedpea · 05-14-2006, 01:26 AM

Yes are they heavy them selfves?

Ditch them.. Unless you are not influenced by them.. How long have you been friends with them? Confront them ask them point blank..

charmed

goofball · 05-14-2006, 01:55 AM

Thanks for all the support. To answer a couple of people's questions- one girl is about the same size as when I started induction, the other is much heavier.

I think they may feel that I've somehow abandoned them because junk food is something the three of us used to indulge in regularly...since high school actually. The thing is, I've chosen a healthier lifestyle now, so I wish they wouldn't judge me. I try my best not to judge their lifestyle and eating habits...so I wish they would do the same for me.

pixiegirl01 · 05-14-2006, 05:15 AM

Have to agree with what most of the others have said. I think the poking fun at you is to make themselves feel ok about their choices. Keep moving forward with your new healthy lifestyle. Once they see you're serious about it, what other choice will they have except to stand there gob-smacked as you continue to lose weight and get healthier and healthier.

Because here's the thing ... even though they may make comments and try to make you feel a certain way, you have NO reason whatsoever to feel uncomfortable about choosing LC as a WOE. So, be healthy and proud of yourself for doing something good for your body.

Sharon · 05-14-2006, 07:52 AM

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Originally Posted by toomuchtolosetogain

Ditch the "friends"...they aren't really friends. They may hang out with you but they're NOT your friends.

DITTO

xfatchik · 05-14-2006, 07:57 AM

Keep doing what you are doing and ignore their comments.

ixtapacheryl · 05-14-2006, 08:03 AM

I agree with all the comments above - just tell your "friends" that you are allergic to that type of food and it makes you sick. They are jealous of you and your willpower. Don't let it get to you. You are doing this for YOURSELF not for them.

After I lost 24# - you'd think that a lot of people would make a comment - but hardly anyone at work - and believe it or not - my mother hasn't even said anything. I am sure she can tell (and I know this because my DH even notices)..... tee hee.

Just keep saying to yourself - I don't care what others think or say, I am doing this for myself and my health.

Congratulations and keep up the great work. When you feel down because of what they are doing and saying to you, just come here, we all will support you.

sbarr · 05-14-2006, 08:04 AM

Who knows - if you decide to stick it out with them, one or both of them might learn from you. Lead by example. Would they be interested in other activities like movies or shopping (although clothes shopping could be touchy, shoes would be safe though).

But, if the basis for the friendship and socialization was munching and there aren't other commonalities, (and that's still their priority), then maybe that's a phase of your life that has passed.

ixtapacheryl · 05-14-2006, 08:10 AM

I agree with Sbarr....... maybe it's time to seek out new friends. Remember - people do come in and out of your life. You get and give to a person and when that is fulfilled - different people come into your life. Who knows - maybe the friendships have run their course.....

cleochatra · 05-14-2006, 08:25 AM

People congregate with people because there's a symbiotic relationship. A lot of what happens in America socially revolves around food.

As such, we might have friends who love to eat chicken mcnoogies everyday from McDonalds and we've done that with them for years!

We're the ones who have changed.

Not them.

So, that said, be kind. Be firm. Be loving.

When people give you a bad time, tell them you're losing weight to keep up with them on the afternoon walks, or at pingpong in the breakroom. Tell them "My doctor made me do it" and then that's end of conversation.

Sometimes they're concerned because they think you could be harming your body (while they're nibbling Burger Queen Woppers). Be patient and know they mean well enough...

Be firm, polite and loving and then be done with the topic. If they don't want to be your friends because of your food choices, they are the ones making that decision and not you.

Besides, think of the excellent example you're setting for them!

ixtapacheryl · 05-14-2006, 08:42 AM

"Sometimes they're concerned because they think you could be harming your body (while they're nibbling Burger Queen Woppers)." Maybe instead of them being concerned because you are harming your body - maybe unconsciously they are concerned because they aren't eating more healthy.

mrsislandqt · 05-14-2006, 08:43 AM

I don't know. It's easy to say 'ditch em' but this scenario plays out in many different relationships- family, friends, significant others- and we usually don't ditch them. The fact is that as you change the dynamics in the relationship(s) change, which forces a change in the role that others may play. Maybe these aren't the best people to share the details of your weight loss journey with. If you choose to remain friends with them, let them adjust to their new roles in time. Again, share as little about the weight loss details as possible.

Jeska · 05-14-2006, 08:43 AM

Friendship isn't friendship until it's challenged.
Success is the most intimidating thing on the planet.
As you metamorphasize into this, people around you will react - stay strong and focused. Your friends will hopefully come around, but if not, just remember your goals and what is most important to you!!

This has been the case for me in many things in my life - especially school... the smarter/thinner/whatever you get,. the more people are intimidated by you. embrace it! This is your time to shine.

Best of luck to you.

beckynett · 05-14-2006, 08:44 AM

Here's a similar situation - I am not proud of it, but many years ago, I was a druggie. Not surprisingly, my friends were druggies, too. By the grace of God, I got out of that life and things turned around 100% for the better. I would never think of going back. But once I started changing, although I was still gracious to my friends, they got uncomfortable and/or disinterested with me, for spoiling their fun just by not doing the same things they were doing anymore. It's like my choices held a mirror up to them. They would have dragged me back if I had let it happen.
We began to spend less and less time together, and eventually I just quit seeing them at all. I was really lonely for a while, honestly, and sometimes it was a temptation to go back, not for the drugs but to ease my loneliness. BUT it was for a short time only. I have forgotten most of the old 'friends', and have moved on to a much better life, full of wonderful people who love and respect me. I traded up, with no regrets.
I am sorry you have to go through this, and I wish you well, sweetie!

05-13-2006, 06:56 PM	#1
goofball Senior LCF Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 273 Gallery: goofball Stats: weight:165/153/135 size:10/8/6 WOE: atkins Start Date: 4/1/07	Friends not being supportive of weight loss Does anyone have friends who seem annoyed/jealous/generally not supportive of weight loss. My two best friends keep doing things like order french fries, onions rings, nachos, etc. and insist that I share with them. When I tell them I'm doing the low carb thing they roll their eyes and make jokes. They also makes jokes about me going to the gym. Its getting to the point that I'm avoiding them.

05-13-2006, 07:06 PM	#3
mikeysmommy33 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 1,464 Gallery: mikeysmommy33 Stats: Highest 302/282/CW:261.2/GW:140 WOE: Low Carb - 20.4 gone already! KEEP going!!!	Sorry Goofball, Sometimes friends/family are just not ready for you to make a change! The only thing that matters is that YOU are ready for a change Hang in there and when they insist that you eat fries and onion rings etc - just politely say no thanks I'm feeling so much better the way I have been eating and don't feel like going back to feeling like crap! or perhaps you could say - I don't feel like sharing your heart attack in a basket! About the gym - keep up the good work and those eye rolls that they are giving you will soon turn into BIG BUG EYES as they see how fit and trim and HEALTHY you are! You are awesome!!!! __________________ My Journal To wearing Cute NORMAL sized Clothing My FitDay Journal Exercise a minimum of 3 days a week January Treadmill Minutes: 15 Drink at least 84 ounces of water per day Only one diet soda per day Starting Induction: 1/6/09 - Induction levels 20 or less per day - 2 weeks/then decide if I want to stay on it OR go to OWL

05-13-2006, 07:19 PM	#7
AmyJuli Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Manchester, NH Posts: 7,134 Gallery: AmyJuli Stats: 177 high, 122 low, lots in between WOE: Atkins Start Date: 7/9/03	Just keep on keepin' on. I'm more of a "give the benefit of doubt" type, so you can take or leave my advice... First you have to figure out if they order french fries because they've always ordered french fries. I got annoyed for quite awhile about dh's sweets habit until I realized that just because I'm making different choices doesn't mean he has to. And people equate eating with being sociable; eventually they get the point that you're not going to eat the french fries but you are still the same person. Honestly, eating = sociable is a battle you'll fight alot. On the teasing, I'd just politely mention that it bothers you. They may not mean it maliciously. They could be your biggest cheerleaders once they realize that you're serious. __________________ Amy 7/9/03 169.5/125/140 3/23/07 159/159/129

05-14-2006, 01:55 AM	#16
goofball Senior LCF Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 273 Gallery: goofball Stats: weight:165/153/135 size:10/8/6 WOE: atkins Start Date: 4/1/07	Thanks for all the support. To answer a couple of people's questions- one girl is about the same size as when I started induction, the other is much heavier. I think they may feel that I've somehow abandoned them because junk food is something the three of us used to indulge in regularly...since high school actually. The thing is, I've chosen a healthier lifestyle now, so I wish they wouldn't judge me. I try my best not to judge their lifestyle and eating habits...so I wish they would do the same for me. Last edited by goofball : 05-14-2006 at 01:59 AM.

05-14-2006, 05:15 AM	#17
pixiegirl01 Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: HOTlanta burbs! Posts: 4,679 Gallery: pixiegirl01 Stats: 150/122 (135)/125 5'2" (41YO) WOE: Low carb babeeeee!! Start Date: 04/17/2006	Have to agree with what most of the others have said. I think the poking fun at you is to make themselves feel ok about their choices. Keep moving forward with your new healthy lifestyle. Once they see you're serious about it, what other choice will they have except to stand there gob-smacked as you continue to lose weight and get healthier and healthier. Because here's the thing ... even though they may make comments and try to make you feel a certain way, you have NO reason whatsoever to feel uncomfortable about choosing LC as a WOE. So, be healthy and proud of yourself for doing something good for your body. __________________ Angie Callanetics ... I'm a believer!

05-13-2006, 07:00 PM	#2
sbarr Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Albany, NY Posts: 3,008 Gallery: sbarr Stats: 203/173/135 WOE: Basic Low carb, slow, steady, some stumbles Start Date: Jan 2005 (again)/15-Apr-2008 (after baby)	Are they heavier than you? Perhaps it's jealousy or comparing themselves to your high standards and feeling negative about themselves?

05-13-2006, 07:10 PM	#4
mykneesareback Big Yapper!!!! Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Northern Calif. mountains Posts: 9,163 Gallery: mykneesareback Stats: 234/125-130 WOE: low fat, either Feast or Famine Start Date: March 1, 2004 w/dietitian,doctor	It's simple, being around you makes your friends feel guilty. And when you lose lots of weight, they may not be your "best" friends anymore either. And so it goes.

05-13-2006, 07:16 PM	#6
animalcrackers Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: N. California Posts: 299 Gallery: animalcrackers Stats: 256/226/first goal 160 WOE: Scarsdale Start Date: for the last time March 2006	Doesn't sound like very good friends. I'm sure it's just a jealousy issue and perhaps they are worried that if you get thin and healthy you may leave them. You are doing this for yourself above all and not your friends. In the end you will be the winner for how you look and feel. Stay strong!

05-13-2006, 07:37 PM	#9
toomuchtolosetogain MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Mid Missouri Posts: 1,839 Gallery: toomuchtolosetogain Stats: 229/161/129 18-20/6 & 8/6?4? 52 years old WOE: Low Carb/Atkins Start Date: Oct. 2003 (serious this time)	Ditch the "friends"...they aren't really friends. They may hang out with you but they're NOT your friends.

05-13-2006, 07:39 PM	#10
Spider_Lily MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Alabama Posts: 1,188 Gallery: Spider_Lily Stats: 224/198/150 WOE: Atkins Start Date: recommit 5-5-08	Sounds like they maybe jealous.But your not losing for your friends your doing it for yourself so STAND STRONG and anyway we are your friends and we support you.YOU GO GIRL!!!

05-13-2006, 09:22 PM	#11
mrgarak Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Newton, NJ Posts: 646 Gallery: mrgarak Stats: Happy as long as size 29 jeans keep fitting WOE: Moderate Carbs	When dealing with people (and not just friends) who are not supportive of my weight loss and makes comments, I just say to them "you are just jealous because you are not as beautiful as I am."

05-13-2006, 10:51 PM	#12
LowCarbRachel Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Salt Lake Area Posts: 12,209 Gallery: LowCarbRachel Stats: size 4/6 (maintaining) WOE: eating healthy foods	Yes. I get comments all the time about how "good" I am being, ha. I am not good--I just have a plan I love and I don't enjoy eating starch because it makes me feel icky. I also have "dieting" friends who go off track almost every day and offer me stuff they know I don't eat to justify the fact that they are eating it. We had a company lunch the other day and everyone was trying to justify me eating french fries on the car ride there...at least I give them something to talk about, huh? Instead, I ordered a hamburger with no bun and an ice tea. I've got a stubborn streak, and I'm not going to give into the peer pressure, no matter how many eye rolls I get.

05-14-2006, 12:16 AM	#14
Jennyl Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: calgary Posts: 24,145 Gallery: Jennyl Start Date: manana	order something that you love and that is on plan and enjoy it. Maybe some wings or caesar salad or whatever is on the menu that is allowable. Whatever their reasons, your friends making jokes about you trying to make positive changes in your life is extremely rude. They don't sound like very good friends to me either.

05-14-2006, 01:26 AM	#15
charmedpea MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: May 2005 Location: ohio Posts: 2,080 Gallery: charmedpea Stats: 234/203.5/150 WOE: atkins Start Date: may 2005	Yes are they heavy them selfves? Ditch them.. Unless you are not influenced by them.. How long have you been friends with them? Confront them ask them point blank.. charmed

05-14-2006, 07:57 AM	#19
xfatchik Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Viva Las Vegas! Posts: 15,460 Gallery: xfatchik Stats: size 22/4/4 WOE: Atkins ( 126 lbs gone! ) Start Date: June 9, 2003	Keep doing what you are doing and ignore their comments.

05-14-2006, 08:03 AM	#20
ixtapacheryl Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Florida Posts: 5,932 Gallery: ixtapacheryl Stats: 183/147/130-135 - 5'7.5" WOE: '72 Atkins	I agree with all the comments above - just tell your "friends" that you are allergic to that type of food and it makes you sick. They are jealous of you and your willpower. Don't let it get to you. You are doing this for YOURSELF not for them. After I lost 24# - you'd think that a lot of people would make a comment - but hardly anyone at work - and believe it or not - my mother hasn't even said anything. I am sure she can tell (and I know this because my DH even notices)..... tee hee. Just keep saying to yourself - I don't care what others think or say, I am doing this for myself and my health. Congratulations and keep up the great work. When you feel down because of what they are doing and saying to you, just come here, we all will support you. __________________ "You will never find out what you can do until you do all you can to find out!" - John Maxwell

05-14-2006, 08:04 AM	#21
sbarr Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Albany, NY Posts: 3,008 Gallery: sbarr Stats: 203/173/135 WOE: Basic Low carb, slow, steady, some stumbles Start Date: Jan 2005 (again)/15-Apr-2008 (after baby)	Who knows - if you decide to stick it out with them, one or both of them might learn from you. Lead by example. Would they be interested in other activities like movies or shopping (although clothes shopping could be touchy, shoes would be safe though). But, if the basis for the friendship and socialization was munching and there aren't other commonalities, (and that's still their priority), then maybe that's a phase of your life that has passed.

05-14-2006, 08:10 AM	#22
ixtapacheryl Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Florida Posts: 5,932 Gallery: ixtapacheryl Stats: 183/147/130-135 - 5'7.5" WOE: '72 Atkins	I agree with Sbarr....... maybe it's time to seek out new friends. Remember - people do come in and out of your life. You get and give to a person and when that is fulfilled - different people come into your life. Who knows - maybe the friendships have run their course.....

05-14-2006, 08:25 AM	#23
cleochatra Big Yapper!!!! Join Date: May 2005 Location: Denver, Colorado Posts: 7,939 Gallery: cleochatra Stats: 350/264/125 WOE: Atkins Start Date: January 1, 2008	People congregate with people because there's a symbiotic relationship. A lot of what happens in America socially revolves around food. As such, we might have friends who love to eat chicken mcnoogies everyday from McDonalds and we've done that with them for years! We're the ones who have changed. Not them. So, that said, be kind. Be firm. Be loving. When people give you a bad time, tell them you're losing weight to keep up with them on the afternoon walks, or at pingpong in the breakroom. Tell them "My doctor made me do it" and then that's end of conversation. Sometimes they're concerned because they think you could be harming your body (while they're nibbling Burger Queen Woppers). Be patient and know they mean well enough... Be firm, polite and loving and then be done with the topic. If they don't want to be your friends because of your food choices, they are the ones making that decision and not you. Besides, think of the excellent example you're setting for them! __________________ National Low-Carb Examiner Columnist The Lighter Side of Low Carb blog HAPPY HOLIDAYS!

05-14-2006, 08:42 AM	#24
ixtapacheryl Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Florida Posts: 5,932 Gallery: ixtapacheryl Stats: 183/147/130-135 - 5'7.5" WOE: '72 Atkins	"Sometimes they're concerned because they think you could be harming your body (while they're nibbling Burger Queen Woppers)." Maybe instead of them being concerned because you are harming your body - maybe unconsciously they are concerned because they aren't eating more healthy.

05-14-2006, 08:43 AM	#25
mrsislandqt MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Somewhere sunny... Posts: 1,363 Gallery: mrsislandqt Stats: 220/131/carvin' it out... WOE: Atkins/ckd Start Date: March 2003	I don't know. It's easy to say 'ditch em' but this scenario plays out in many different relationships- family, friends, significant others- and we usually don't ditch them. The fact is that as you change the dynamics in the relationship(s) change, which forces a change in the role that others may play. Maybe these aren't the best people to share the details of your weight loss journey with. If you choose to remain friends with them, let them adjust to their new roles in time. Again, share as little about the weight loss details as possible.

05-14-2006, 08:43 AM	#26
Jeska MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: May 2005 Location: Cambridge, MA Posts: 1,505 Gallery: Jeska Stats: 246/212.5/180 WOE: Atkins OWL Start Date: January 8, 2007	Friendship isn't friendship until it's challenged. Success is the most intimidating thing on the planet. As you metamorphasize into this, people around you will react - stay strong and focused. Your friends will hopefully come around, but if not, just remember your goals and what is most important to you!! This has been the case for me in many things in my life - especially school... the smarter/thinner/whatever you get,. the more people are intimidated by you. embrace it! This is your time to shine. Best of luck to you.

05-14-2006, 08:44 AM	#27
beckynett Senior LCF Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: North of Dallas, Texas Posts: 771 Gallery: beckynett Stats: 222/138/118 (5' 1'') WOE: Atkins Start Date: April 28, 2006	Here's a similar situation - I am not proud of it, but many years ago, I was a druggie. Not surprisingly, my friends were druggies, too. By the grace of God, I got out of that life and things turned around 100% for the better. I would never think of going back. But once I started changing, although I was still gracious to my friends, they got uncomfortable and/or disinterested with me, for spoiling their fun just by not doing the same things they were doing anymore. It's like my choices held a mirror up to them. They would have dragged me back if I had let it happen. We began to spend less and less time together, and eventually I just quit seeing them at all. I was really lonely for a while, honestly, and sometimes it was a temptation to go back, not for the drugs but to ease my loneliness. BUT it was for a short time only. I have forgotten most of the old 'friends', and have moved on to a much better life, full of wonderful people who love and respect me. I traded up, with no regrets. I am sorry you have to go through this, and I wish you well, sweetie!