losing faith in humanity

t'ann · 04-12-2006, 04:27 PM

I don't know if any of you have ever had a friend that nothing good ever happens to. I do, as I write this It breaks my heart. It seems as if every time he turns around something bad is happening to him. Or he has been ripped off by someone. My DH and I wonder sometimes why life has to be so hard for some people, and others just seem to be blessed. This person is a wonderful person. Why Oh Why do some people get all the hard knocks. I'm just losing faith in most people. They no longer seem to do the right thing by others. Thanks everyone for letting me vent. And for being there for others.

Bubbles · 04-12-2006, 05:29 PM

It sounds like your friend has had his share of troubles, but if he is being ripped off multiple times then who's fault is it really? I heard Oprah once say "Lessons are repeated until they are learned." After hearing that I was able to go back through my life and I could see patterns of bad decisions with jobs, men etc. Maybe he is not aware that he is repeating behaviors that force him into bad times.
Just be there for him and pray he turns out alright. You are a good friend to care so much.

t'ann · 04-12-2006, 06:06 PM

Thank you bubbles, I just wonder sometimes why people feel the need to scam, or cheat others. I know it takes all kinds to make up the world. It just makes you think what is wrong with people who hurt others with not even a backward glance. We do have to be responsible for our own choices. I know that. It just makes me sad that there are so many crooks in the world. Thanks for your words of wisdom.

Bubbles · 04-13-2006, 09:17 AM

I have never knowingly hurt another person and cannot comprehend people that do. I am a real girl scout when it comes to honesty. My parents instilled this in me, but I also learned how to spot a bad situation before it got too bad and rarely have had the wool pulled over my eyes by anyone.
Maybe your friend needs a wake up call I really believe you make your own luck good or bad.

t'ann · 04-13-2006, 01:25 PM

I hear you on that one. It's a new day today, and I'm not feeling so down, I do still wish there were more girl scouts, and boy scouts than there is crooks. Well we can't make the world what we want it to be. We can do our own part to keep it honest though. Thanks for the kind words.

LC Lynn · 04-15-2006, 10:31 PM

The crooks are crooks partly because they're good at picking their victims. To put it bluntly, they can spot a sucker from a mile away.

And the victims, for their part, (at least the ones who get ripped off repeatedly) fail to see (or refuse to see) warning signs that most people would see a mile away.

Generally. There are exceptions, of course, but I think that very few people have consistent bad luck that goes on and on and on without at least partly bringing it on themselves by making the same lousy decisions over and over again.

I know a married couple who are like this. Right now they're homeless and broke; they're living with his brother. They're on their third bankruptcy and their house was foreclosed on...and since it was falling apart from lack of maintenance, I suspect it was close to being condemned anyway. They've been ripped off by no-good relatives again and again.

My friend is forever in the middle of some money crisis and she wonders why life is so hard. But I've known this couple for 20 years and every problem they're having today is a result of doing the same stupid things over and over again. They continue to lend money to deadbeat relatives. They continue to spend more than they earn (and their income is well above the median in their area) even though they're paying no rent or mortgage. Honestly, I can't imagine where the money goes, because they don't have anything of value. I know it isn't drugs or gambling. But none of it ever finds its way into a savings account.

But ask them and they'll tell you it's all due to bad luck.

t'ann · 04-18-2006, 02:02 PM

You are right. Some people see suckers from a mile away. I've just been witness to a some pretty awful things lately. It always makes me sad to see others treated poorly!!! I myself don't get taken advantage of often. I guess if people don't have bad times. They might not know what good times are. Well thanks for the post.

Anna · 04-18-2006, 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Bubbles

It sounds like your friend has had his share of troubles, but if he is being ripped off multiple times then who's fault is it really? I heard Oprah once say "Lessons are repeated until they are learned." After hearing that I was able to go back through my life and I could see patterns of bad decisions with jobs, men etc. Maybe he is not aware that he is repeating behaviors that force him into bad times.
Just be there for him and pray he turns out alright. You are a good friend to care so much.

I really agree with this. Of course when you are the one being taken advantage of it's easier to just feel sorry for yourself. But I have to admit each time it's happened to me, I knew it was happening, and I allowed it. The lesson I learned it everyone in my life now has to meet me half way... if they don't then it is better that they are not in my life. Trust me there are a lot of people out there who will not take advantage of your friend he just needs to be more selective.

Anna · 04-18-2006, 02:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LC Lynn

The crooks are crooks partly because they're good at picking their victims. To put it bluntly, they can spot a sucker from a mile away.

And the victims, for their part, (at least the ones who get ripped off repeatedly) fail to see (or refuse to see) warning signs that most people would see a mile away.

well said!

t'ann · 04-18-2006, 03:16 PM

I agree well said. It still makes you sick to hear that it's happend to someone.

04-12-2006, 04:27 PM	#1
t'ann Margarita tart Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: arizona Posts: 17,062 Gallery: t'ann WOE: with silverware Start Date: 01-2006	losing faith in humanity I don't know if any of you have ever had a friend that nothing good ever happens to. I do, as I write this It breaks my heart. It seems as if every time he turns around something bad is happening to him. Or he has been ripped off by someone. My DH and I wonder sometimes why life has to be so hard for some people, and others just seem to be blessed. This person is a wonderful person. Why Oh Why do some people get all the hard knocks. I'm just losing faith in most people. They no longer seem to do the right thing by others. Thanks everyone for letting me vent. And for being there for others.

04-15-2006, 10:31 PM	#6
LC Lynn MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 1,978 Gallery: LC Lynn	The crooks are crooks partly because they're good at picking their victims. To put it bluntly, they can spot a sucker from a mile away. And the victims, for their part, (at least the ones who get ripped off repeatedly) fail to see (or refuse to see) warning signs that most people would see a mile away. Generally. There are exceptions, of course, but I think that very few people have consistent bad luck that goes on and on and on without at least partly bringing it on themselves by making the same lousy decisions over and over again. I know a married couple who are like this. Right now they're homeless and broke; they're living with his brother. They're on their third bankruptcy and their house was foreclosed on...and since it was falling apart from lack of maintenance, I suspect it was close to being condemned anyway. They've been ripped off by no-good relatives again and again. My friend is forever in the middle of some money crisis and she wonders why life is so hard. But I've known this couple for 20 years and every problem they're having today is a result of doing the same stupid things over and over again. They continue to lend money to deadbeat relatives. They continue to spend more than they earn (and their income is well above the median in their area) even though they're paying no rent or mortgage. Honestly, I can't imagine where the money goes, because they don't have anything of value. I know it isn't drugs or gambling. But none of it ever finds its way into a savings account. But ask them and they'll tell you it's all due to bad luck. Last edited by LC Lynn : 04-15-2006 at 10:51 PM.

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04-12-2006, 05:29 PM	#2
Bubbles Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Live Free or Die Baby!!!!! Posts: 10,100 Gallery: Bubbles Stats: 140 lbs of flabby fun WOE: All the time Start Date: Feb 2003	It sounds like your friend has had his share of troubles, but if he is being ripped off multiple times then who's fault is it really? I heard Oprah once say "Lessons are repeated until they are learned." After hearing that I was able to go back through my life and I could see patterns of bad decisions with jobs, men etc. Maybe he is not aware that he is repeating behaviors that force him into bad times. Just be there for him and pray he turns out alright. You are a good friend to care so much.

04-12-2006, 06:06 PM	#3
t'ann Margarita tart Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: arizona Posts: 17,062 Gallery: t'ann WOE: with silverware Start Date: 01-2006	Thank you bubbles, I just wonder sometimes why people feel the need to scam, or cheat others. I know it takes all kinds to make up the world. It just makes you think what is wrong with people who hurt others with not even a backward glance. We do have to be responsible for our own choices. I know that. It just makes me sad that there are so many crooks in the world. Thanks for your words of wisdom.

04-13-2006, 09:17 AM	#4
Bubbles Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Live Free or Die Baby!!!!! Posts: 10,100 Gallery: Bubbles Stats: 140 lbs of flabby fun WOE: All the time Start Date: Feb 2003	I have never knowingly hurt another person and cannot comprehend people that do. I am a real girl scout when it comes to honesty. My parents instilled this in me, but I also learned how to spot a bad situation before it got too bad and rarely have had the wool pulled over my eyes by anyone. Maybe your friend needs a wake up call I really believe you make your own luck good or bad.

04-13-2006, 01:25 PM	#5
t'ann Margarita tart Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: arizona Posts: 17,062 Gallery: t'ann WOE: with silverware Start Date: 01-2006	I hear you on that one. It's a new day today, and I'm not feeling so down, I do still wish there were more girl scouts, and boy scouts than there is crooks. Well we can't make the world what we want it to be. We can do our own part to keep it honest though. Thanks for the kind words.

04-18-2006, 02:02 PM	#7
t'ann Margarita tart Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: arizona Posts: 17,062 Gallery: t'ann WOE: with silverware Start Date: 01-2006	You are right. Some people see suckers from a mile away. I've just been witness to a some pretty awful things lately. It always makes me sad to see others treated poorly!!! I myself don't get taken advantage of often. I guess if people don't have bad times. They might not know what good times are. Well thanks for the post.

04-18-2006, 03:16 PM	#10
t'ann Margarita tart Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: arizona Posts: 17,062 Gallery: t'ann WOE: with silverware Start Date: 01-2006	I agree well said. It still makes you sick to hear that it's happend to someone.