Don't know how to handle this

LeanLioness · 02-22-2006, 03:49 PM

I think my husband is cheating on me. We have a family plan through our cell phone provider and there are women's phone numbers listed on his call log. I have been able to look a couple of the phone numbers and got names.

How do I handle this..............???

CarolynF · 02-22-2006, 04:18 PM

Hi,

Well, I think I would ask for an explanation..and see what he says...

You can probably tell if he's lying or not..can't you?

Hopefully, it is very explainable..but you have a right to know who he is talking to..

Hugs to you..Carolyn

SoHappy · 02-22-2006, 10:30 PM

Are there phone numbers of several women on your call log? Surely you don't suspect him of having affairs with several women at the same time? Maybe there's a very reasonable explaination for these calls. I agree with Carolyn. Ask him to explain these phone numbers and calls to you.

RobinB · 02-23-2006, 07:15 AM

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Originally Posted by SoHappy

Maybe there's a very reasonable explaination for these calls. I agree with Carolyn. Ask him to explain these phone numbers and calls to you.

Agreed!

LeanLioness · 02-23-2006, 09:14 AM

Well, he told me it is non of my business and turned it around and blamed me for snooping. I only looked at it because I was curious as to where all of our minutes were going.......

Yes, he is talking to several different girls that he met on a cell phone chat line service.....

www.vibeline.com
www.livelinks.com

momacat · 02-23-2006, 09:23 AM

In an previous thread I thought that you had already decided to leave him this month????

Cindy P · 02-23-2006, 09:38 AM

I really think your marriage needs to be helped...... go see a marriage councelor, It is your business and if he has to defend himself by turning it around on you it is showing he is feeling guilty of something, or just very immature. You both seriously need to get some counceling to help each other thru this, marriage is hard work.

LeanLioness · 02-23-2006, 12:50 PM

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Originally Posted by momacat

In an previous thread I thought that you had already decided to leave him this month????

Yes, I had and began snooping. We had decided that we were gonna stay together and work everything out, now this.

Tylar_Connar · 02-23-2006, 03:59 PM

I understand your need to snoop. when you dont trust ur dh you wanna know whats going on. And have every right too. I am sure some ppl think its snooping but how else would you find out if u didnt. My dh says I am snooping when he gets caught as well. Must be the defensive phrase!!

SoHappy · 02-23-2006, 04:42 PM

When THEY call it snooping, you should say that YOU call it uncovering stuff that they have tried to HIDE!!!!!

lvmom24 · 02-25-2006, 07:34 AM

when he says it's none of your business, you should tell him that "as your wife, you are my business". A marriage is a team, there is no I in team. sorry you are going through this.

JanMarie3 · 02-27-2006, 01:41 PM

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Originally Posted by lvmom24

when he says it's none of your business, you should tell him that "as your wife, you are my business". A marriage is a team, there is no I in team. sorry you are going through this.

I agree with this one..........sorry for your pain and

I hope you get this worked out

Denise85 · 03-06-2006, 04:39 PM

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Originally Posted by JanMarie3

I agree with this one..........sorry for your pain and

I hope you get this worked out

Ditto.

Bubbles · 03-11-2006, 01:52 PM

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Originally Posted by lvmom24

when he says it's none of your business, you should tell him that "as your wife, you are my business". A marriage is a team, there is no I in team. sorry you are going through this.

Cancel the cell service, email, internet etc and do not pay for one more minute of them until you get this straightened out.

PS: You need to leave. He's a liar and they cannot be stopped.

T42 · 03-11-2006, 08:18 PM

I agree with all of the above - Follow your intuition! If you truly feel that he is cheating, then give up on him. I know it is a difficult situation - I have been there. You are worththy of being treated with respect = Cheating is disrespectfull.

gettingstrength · 03-11-2006, 10:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Bubbles

Cancel the cell service, email, internet etc and do not pay for one more minute of them until you get this straightened out.

PS: You need to leave. He's a liar and they cannot be stopped.

ditto

LeanLioness · 03-13-2006, 08:04 PM

Thanks everyone. We really had it out tonight and he put his hands on me in the wrong way. I am battered and bruised now and emotionally drained. I am calling an attorney tomorrow. He told me that he hates me and that he wished he never laid eyes on me.

I am devestated and heart broken..........

I will not let this deter me from losing weight and becoming healthy. I just quit smoking and need a cigar right about now!!!! I never smoked cigarettes, but rather black and mild cigars.......

Cindy P · 03-13-2006, 08:20 PM

tyler43836 · 03-14-2006, 08:27 AM

I hope you filed a police report and got a restraining order.

Tylar_Connar · 03-14-2006, 08:40 AM

sry that you are going through this. i say get out now!! Get a restraining order. And same ? did you file a police report. That is the straw that would break the camels back for me!!

Denise85 · 03-14-2006, 03:22 PM

Make sure to take pictures and file a report. I'm glad you're getting away from him.

ColoradoSweethart64 · 03-15-2006, 06:43 PM

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Originally Posted by LeanLioness

Thanks everyone. We really had it out tonight and he put his hands on me in the wrong way. I am battered and bruised now and emotionally drained. I am calling an attorney tomorrow. He told me that he hates me and that he wished he never laid eyes on me.

I am devestated and heart broken..........

I will not let this deter me from losing weight and becoming healthy. I just quit smoking and need a cigar right about now!!!! I never smoked cigarettes, but rather black and mild cigars.......

Oh Sweetie, I am sooo sorry you were abused like that. I hope you called the cops and are gone from him. Keeping you in my prayers!!!

02-22-2006, 03:49 PM	#1
LeanLioness Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Du Quoin, IL Posts: 4,307 Gallery: LeanLioness Stats: 230/224/120 WOE: Starting over, Atkins Phase 1 Start Date: Started Induction Again, Oct. 5 2008	Don't know how to handle this I think my husband is cheating on me. We have a family plan through our cell phone provider and there are women's phone numbers listed on his call log. I have been able to look a couple of the phone numbers and got names. How do I handle this..............???

03-13-2006, 08:04 PM	#17
LeanLioness Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Du Quoin, IL Posts: 4,307 Gallery: LeanLioness Stats: 230/224/120 WOE: Starting over, Atkins Phase 1 Start Date: Started Induction Again, Oct. 5 2008	Thanks everyone. We really had it out tonight and he put his hands on me in the wrong way. I am battered and bruised now and emotionally drained. I am calling an attorney tomorrow. He told me that he hates me and that he wished he never laid eyes on me. I am devestated and heart broken.......... I will not let this deter me from losing weight and becoming healthy. I just quit smoking and need a cigar right about now!!!! I never smoked cigarettes, but rather black and mild cigars....... Last edited by LeanLioness : 03-13-2006 at 08:05 PM.

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02-22-2006, 04:18 PM	#2
CarolynF Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Kansas Posts: 20,522 Gallery: CarolynF Stats: 195/150/139 WOE: Eat Fat, Get Thin/I Can Make You Thin Start Date: January 2001	Hi, Well, I think I would ask for an explanation..and see what he says... You can probably tell if he's lying or not..can't you? Hopefully, it is very explainable..but you have a right to know who he is talking to.. Hugs to you..Carolyn

02-22-2006, 10:30 PM	#3
SoHappy MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 2,816 Gallery: SoHappy	Are there phone numbers of several women on your call log? Surely you don't suspect him of having affairs with several women at the same time? Maybe there's a very reasonable explaination for these calls. I agree with Carolyn. Ask him to explain these phone numbers and calls to you.

02-23-2006, 09:14 AM	#5
LeanLioness Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Du Quoin, IL Posts: 4,307 Gallery: LeanLioness Stats: 230/224/120 WOE: Starting over, Atkins Phase 1 Start Date: Started Induction Again, Oct. 5 2008	Well, he told me it is non of my business and turned it around and blamed me for snooping. I only looked at it because I was curious as to where all of our minutes were going....... Yes, he is talking to several different girls that he met on a cell phone chat line service..... www.vibeline.com www.livelinks.com

02-23-2006, 09:23 AM	#6
momacat Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 7,074 Gallery: momacat	In an previous thread I thought that you had already decided to leave him this month????

02-23-2006, 09:38 AM	#7
Cindy P MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: South Georgia Posts: 1,247 Gallery: Cindy P Stats: 347/278/150 WOE: atkins/again after slacking off :( Start Date: june 18, 2003	I really think your marriage needs to be helped...... go see a marriage councelor, It is your business and if he has to defend himself by turning it around on you it is showing he is feeling guilty of something, or just very immature. You both seriously need to get some counceling to help each other thru this, marriage is hard work.

02-23-2006, 03:59 PM	#9
Tylar_Connar Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 12,439 Gallery: Tylar_Connar Stats: 198177150 WOE: 27 lbs to go for now Start Date: 10/14/06-165, 11/23/07 180	I understand your need to snoop. when you dont trust ur dh you wanna know whats going on. And have every right too. I am sure some ppl think its snooping but how else would you find out if u didnt. My dh says I am snooping when he gets caught as well. Must be the defensive phrase!!

02-23-2006, 04:42 PM	#10
SoHappy MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 2,816 Gallery: SoHappy	When THEY call it snooping, you should say that YOU call it uncovering stuff that they have tried to HIDE!!!!!

02-25-2006, 07:34 AM	#11
lvmom24 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 504 Gallery: lvmom24 Stats: 130/125/115 WOE: Atkins Start Date: 12/26/08	when he says it's none of your business, you should tell him that "as your wife, you are my business". A marriage is a team, there is no I in team. sorry you are going through this.

03-11-2006, 08:18 PM	#15
T42 Junior LCF Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Southern Maryland Posts: 1 Gallery: T42 Stats: 160/160/115 WOE: Atkins / KE	I agree with all of the above - Follow your intuition! If you truly feel that he is cheating, then give up on him. I know it is a difficult situation - I have been there. You are worththy of being treated with respect = Cheating is disrespectfull.

03-13-2006, 08:20 PM	#18
Cindy P MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: South Georgia Posts: 1,247 Gallery: Cindy P Stats: 347/278/150 WOE: atkins/again after slacking off :( Start Date: june 18, 2003

03-14-2006, 08:27 AM	#19
tyler43836 Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: New York, NY Posts: 11,484 Blog Entries: 1 Gallery: tyler43836 Stats: ugh WOE: Atkins Start Date: Restart 3/31/08	I hope you filed a police report and got a restraining order.

03-14-2006, 08:40 AM	#20
Tylar_Connar Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 12,439 Gallery: Tylar_Connar Stats: 198177150 WOE: 27 lbs to go for now Start Date: 10/14/06-165, 11/23/07 180	sry that you are going through this. i say get out now!! Get a restraining order. And same ? did you file a police report. That is the straw that would break the camels back for me!!

03-14-2006, 03:22 PM	#21
Denise85 Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Chicago burbs Posts: 21,978 Blog Entries: 11 Gallery: Denise85 Stats: 261/141/140-5'5" WOE: Dietician's plan	Make sure to take pictures and file a report. I'm glad you're getting away from him.