Im a Bi***

[needtoloseit]

I know this is terrible !!!!!! Just wondering if anyone eles was here before??
My friend is heavier than me and she started this WOE about 10 days after i did by much influencing ( spell check ??) from me and now im LIKE SOO Jealous, she has already lost more than what i have and its hard for me to be happy for her , i feel really cruel , like sham on me !! I dont know what to do to try to change my mind on it , i keep telling myself to stop being jealous and be happy for her , cause she is doing fabulous ...errr is this normal ?? To be this mean ... she is my best friend.
Kat

[JayFred]

PMS'ing??? LOL...vent to us now..get it out...then get over it! LOL...

[Bobbie]

I was gonna answer but I just can't. But I didnt want you to think you were being ignored. Hang in there.

[DebWI]

Nah, my sister lost some weight and I was so jealous I could have choked. If I had started this WOE first and she passed me up, I'd be grousing up a storm! :lol:

[Heather150]

You have to remember-those who have more weight to lose, lose it faster at first. It's almost a good thing (notice I said almost). She will slowly slow down her loss. Also, not everyone's bodies are the same. She may have one of those super fast metabolisms, while yours may be acting like a snail.
As long as you keep these feelings to yourself...then nothing has been harmed. You let your friend know how you feel, and you may not only lose your friend, but your motivator. Use her losses to motivate you to do better, exercise more, whatever it takes for you to get through this moment!

[karenb]

I was hoping the thread title was that you were bisexual!

The more you have to lose the faster you do lose. And those who haven't dieted often lose it faster. I'd be the same as you.

[Meowser]

Your feelings are perfectly normal. But it is best to keep them to yourself and use them to motivate you to succeed. It might help to remember that weight loss isn't a sprint, but an ultra-marathon. And the goal isn't to win, but just finish.

[needtoloseit]

Originally Posted by Meowser

Your feelings are perfectly normal. But it is best to keep them to yourself and use them to motivate you to succeed. It might help to remember that weight loss isn't a sprint, but an ultra-marathon. And the goal isn't to win, but just finish.

Yes , i like that , very well said , im going to print that up . I think that will help me to keep my jealous face from ever appearing when it comes to her.
I do feel horrible , last night she called me to tell me she had cheated , and even though i gave her ALL the encouragement one could possible get....I actually felt happy , see that right there tells me im very cruel BUT really im not, I really do want to see her succeed. So hopefully I can change it up in my head by reading that over and over again !!!
Now i have some good news, i havent changed it in my siggy yet BUT !!!
I finally am in wonderland as of this morning !!! YES YES it does feel good198 to be exact. Now im to afraid to tell her cause it be like rubbing it in her face so i think im going to keep it to myself , well except for here....thanks everyone
Kat

[needtoloseit]

Originally Posted by karenb

I was hoping the thread title was that you were bisexual!

The more you have to lose the faster you do lose. And those who haven't dieted often lose it faster. I'd be the same as you.

I thought that to after i posted it , QUOTE by Jerry Sinefield "not that there is anything wrong with that " and i agree.
Im not though !!

[ASHLEY1981]

I have had the same feeling towards my boyfriend. He will eat everything in the frig ( while I am watching from my exercise bike) and still remain thin. I have decided it is in his best interest to eat my favorite foods from the backyard patio

[RobinB]

Seems like the more you have to lose, the faster it starts coming off!!!

Hang in there!! Just tell yourself no matter how much weight she loses, that doesn't take away from your own weight loss plan.

[klmeyer]

Everyone loses differently... I'm sure you know that.

But when I put my husband on atkins along with me... and the weight just FELL off of him.

And he was also gorging himself on frankenfoods which made me stall...

So I did feel a little leetle bit justified when the sugar free jelly bellies he was inhaling wreaked havoc in his stomach...

[Lehgrad]

It is fine to feel jealous - that is natural and should give you some extra motivation... but, to feel happy when your friend cheats? I don't think that is right. Obviously, you can't help how you feel, but if one of my good friends was upset then I would be upset too.
Also, I am glad to read that you do not say anything like this to her out loud. I read a lot of posts on this website from people complaining that so and so is different towards them just b/c they lost weight. Then I read all of the responses of people replying that 'they are jealous' or 'not a real friend' etc, etc. You wouldn't want your friend to be writing something like that about you on a message board.
Be happy for her and use it as extra motivation for your weight loss. Believe me, one of my best friends lost a ton of weight and looks great and I am thrilled for her. I am jealous! But now that just pushes me harder!

[Denise85]

I'm in the same boat as you but my friend will constantly cheat and then complain she's not losing as fast although she still loses faster then me. I'm about 10 pounds less then her and we're the same height. I work out 5-6 days a week and eat very healthy and she cheats and doesn't work out and loses much quicker then me. I feel so mean for not wanting her to lose as well and am silently happy when she doesn't lose for a bit. If she really busted her butt I don't think I'd feel that way but I'm jealous that I work out so much and don't cheat and still lose slower then her where she's always cheating (she does WW) and doesn't work out. I too support her 100% and encourage her as much as possible but inside it bothers me.

[robinhood]

I thought I was the only one its good to know that I am not alone with these kinds of thoughts

[LoriWants2Lose]

Kat--you're just human. I agree with the others though about never letting her know it.

I don't tend to get jealous of other people very often but every once in a while I meet someone and just take an instant dislike to them for no reason whatsoever. In the past, I might have just offered them the cold-shoulder (which is opposite of my normal personality), but I am trying to grow into a better person and more Christ-like with each day that passes, so when this happened recently with someone I met, I went out of my way to get to know her. Guess what? She isn't a snob like I thought--just very shy and actually very sweet. I was the one who would have missed out.

Don't beat yourself up. But do celebrate your own milestones. ONEDERLAND!!!! Wahoooo! I can't wait to make it there. I'm so proud of you.