My sister in law Lisa died today...

cheri · 01-17-2006, 06:09 PM

A phone call came from the hospital this morning telling us to come right away, Lisa was there... In getting there they said that Lisa had been deteriorating throughout the night and this morning had a massive brain hemorrhage that stopped her breathing and she went into cardiac arrest. After resuscitating her and putting her on a ventilator, they did a catscan of her head and found it affected her brain stem, which controls basic body functions such as breathing, swallowing, heart rate, and blood pressure. The brain stem also controls consciousness. The neurologist said that she was brain dead. After getting family together through phone calls (her daughter is in Houston) we came to accept that there was no reason to prolong the inevitable and decided to have them remove all life support.

Her mother wasn't sure if she wanted to be there or could be there rather, and ended up leaving the room, so I stayed with Lisa until she finally slipped away from this earth. It was the hardest thing I have EVER had to do in my life. Lisa has been one of my closest friends and my "sister" for the last 20 years and to sit there while her body's reflexes were trying to take a breath was something I am not sure I can ever get over. Her mother came back in and we sat with her, saying our final goodbyes... Funeral is in about 5 days... when my neice gets here from Houston.

I just wanted you all to know that I appreciated your support when I talked about the problems Lisa was going through and about her addiction. This is such a sad day... and my heart hurts.

I love you all...

cheri

PamB · 01-17-2006, 06:25 PM

So sorry Cheri. Hugs and prayers to you and the family.

Cutelilsunflower · 01-17-2006, 06:54 PM

I am so sorry Cheri

You're an amazing person for being there with her...

for you and your family.

Jessi · 01-17-2006, 06:59 PM

to Cheri and family

RobinB · 01-17-2006, 07:08 PM

So sorry to hear that.

ShellyW · 01-17-2006, 07:22 PM

:hugs sorry cheri.. call me if you need me hun

Mack · 01-17-2006, 07:28 PM

Cheri,
My sincerest sympathies.
I was unaware of this going on in your life.
Not sure where you post regularly.
Your SIL Lisa is resting from her ills now, you did her right and proper in your love and support.
Think of the better days together over the years and get some comfort from that.
Condolences to her family.

-mack

Dreamer37 · 01-17-2006, 07:45 PM

Im sooo sorry Cheri.

Spoiled Rotten · 01-17-2006, 08:17 PM

Cheri, Bless you for being with her. My thoughts and prayers are with you and the family.

I too was with my sister when they took off the life support. My heart aches for you sweetheart.

Love you!

momacat · 01-17-2006, 08:21 PM

I'm so sorry

Melly · 01-17-2006, 08:45 PM

Sorry to hear this Cheri.........I know that there have been many struggles with Lisa in the past due to "sensative" things with her.......just know that she is finally at peace.......my prayers are with you and your family.....Call if you need ANY thing and remember I love ya

SoHappy · 01-17-2006, 09:44 PM

Cheri, I'm so sorry.

I'm sorry for you and for all of Lisa's family. She is now free of all the problems of mortal life. I'm sure her spirit must be at peace.

CurveControl · 01-17-2006, 09:53 PM

Dang Cheri- I am so sorry for you all.

Groovycadreamr · 01-17-2006, 10:20 PM

So sorry to hear of your families loss!!! Thinking of you all

Kattbelly · 01-17-2006, 10:30 PM

That was a brave and loving thing you did. I'm so sorry for your loss.

sinny · 01-18-2006, 12:41 AM

Cheri

for you and your family.........................I am so sorry

AFwife · 01-18-2006, 01:21 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your family.

I'm a firm believer that when our loved ones are passing on, they do hear what you are telling them before they slip away. I'm sure she heard your goodbyes.

chewtoy · 01-18-2006, 02:27 AM

How wonderful your sister-in-law was to have you all be strong enough to make that decision for her. That is a true test when you love someone enough to let her body go when the spirit is already gone. Bless you.

beckyb17 · 01-18-2006, 03:32 AM

I'm so sorry Cheri

kartmom386 · 01-18-2006, 07:02 AM

microChip · 01-18-2006, 08:29 AM

rootbeer · 01-18-2006, 09:46 AM

I'm so sorry Cheri.

My hugs and thoughts go to you and your family.

JoyPaige · 01-18-2006, 10:21 AM

My condolences for your loss, cheri.

zay · 01-18-2006, 10:33 AM

I'm so sorry Cheri

mis-informed · 01-18-2006, 04:33 PM

Oh, I am so sorry. God bless you and the rest of the family. It is so hard.

abbynormal · 01-18-2006, 04:48 PM

Peace be with you during this time.

shanes_grrl · 01-18-2006, 05:42 PM

I am so terribly sorry to hear of your loss, I have not followed this story, so I am not for sure what the problem with Lisa was, however, My heart breaks for you and your family and I know you all made the right decision to let her be and not keep her hooked to those machines...
I pray God will send you his Comforter and will be with you thru the upcoming days ahead.

cheri · 01-18-2006, 09:05 PM

Thank you everyone.. I appreciate all your support and I have let the rest of the family know how wonderful you are... they are very touched.

My neice came in tonight and had dinner here... Monday we will be having the visitation/funeral. Her daughter has decided to take her mothers remains back to Houston for burial.

Thank you again... your thoughts and prayers have been comforting and very much appreciated.

cheri

XxSpacegirlxX · 01-19-2006, 04:57 AM

karenmarie · 01-19-2006, 05:28 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss.

01-17-2006, 06:09 PM	#1
cheri Administrator Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: Illinois Posts: 15,320 Gallery: cheri Stats: Over 130 pounds lost!	My sister in law Lisa died today... A phone call came from the hospital this morning telling us to come right away, Lisa was there... In getting there they said that Lisa had been deteriorating throughout the night and this morning had a massive brain hemorrhage that stopped her breathing and she went into cardiac arrest. After resuscitating her and putting her on a ventilator, they did a catscan of her head and found it affected her brain stem, which controls basic body functions such as breathing, swallowing, heart rate, and blood pressure. The brain stem also controls consciousness. The neurologist said that she was brain dead. After getting family together through phone calls (her daughter is in Houston) we came to accept that there was no reason to prolong the inevitable and decided to have them remove all life support. Her mother wasn't sure if she wanted to be there or could be there rather, and ended up leaving the room, so I stayed with Lisa until she finally slipped away from this earth. It was the hardest thing I have EVER had to do in my life. Lisa has been one of my closest friends and my "sister" for the last 20 years and to sit there while her body's reflexes were trying to take a breath was something I am not sure I can ever get over. Her mother came back in and we sat with her, saying our final goodbyes... Funeral is in about 5 days... when my neice gets here from Houston. I just wanted you all to know that I appreciated your support when I talked about the problems Lisa was going through and about her addiction. This is such a sad day... and my heart hurts. I love you all... cheri __________________ My Low Carb Story My end of 2008 update! Check out the Newbiesite The Newbiesite has a LOT of information... the rules for induction... acceptable food list...a carb/nutritional counter.. Menu samples.. FAQ... Fitday to track your progress, several tools no matter what phase of lowcarbing you are in and a whole lot more. It is a great site for newbies as well as the seasoned lowcarber. . Don't be a victim of Dieters remorse.. Don't cheat.. stay on plan!

01-17-2006, 06:25 PM	#2
PamB Senior LCF Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 957 Gallery: PamB Stats: 147/Maintain 130-135 WOE: Low carb Start Date: 02/2003	So sorry Cheri. Hugs and prayers to you and the family.

01-17-2006, 06:54 PM	#3
Cutelilsunflower Low Carbin' Italian Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: A McNugget sleeping in a Big Mac box. Posts: 10,020 Gallery: Cutelilsunflower Stats: Oy Vey/Ugh/Bride -Go Team Pink! WOE: Che Bella Vita! Short and Proud! Start Date: Dec 1- May 1st	I am so sorry Cheri You're an amazing person for being there with her... for you and your family.

01-17-2006, 06:59 PM	#4
Jessi LCF Game Room Groupie Join Date: Nov 2000 Posts: 40,607 Gallery: Jessi	to Cheri and family

01-17-2006, 07:08 PM	#5
RobinB Heart Writer Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Maryland Posts: 2,170 Gallery: RobinB WOE: Atkins Start Date: restart March '07	So sorry to hear that.

01-17-2006, 07:22 PM	#6
ShellyW the evil twin Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Janesville, WI Posts: 2,490 Gallery: ShellyW Stats: 235/184/145 WOE: Atkins Start Date: January 2001	:hugs sorry cheri.. call me if you need me hun

01-17-2006, 07:28 PM	#7
Mack MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Philadelphia, PA Posts: 1,792 Gallery: Mack Stats: (5/23/08) 51 / 33.8 --> / 0 WOE: Healthy lo-carb,seeds,yogurt	Cheri, My sincerest sympathies. I was unaware of this going on in your life. Not sure where you post regularly. Your SIL Lisa is resting from her ills now, you did her right and proper in your love and support. Think of the better days together over the years and get some comfort from that. Condolences to her family. -mack

01-17-2006, 07:45 PM	#8
Dreamer37 Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Montana Posts: 5,332 Gallery: Dreamer37 Stats: 187/169/130 Start Date: october 26th restarted 1/29/08	Im sooo sorry Cheri.

01-17-2006, 08:17 PM	#9
Spoiled Rotten Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Chesapeake Bay, Md Posts: 25,990 Gallery: Spoiled Rotten WOE: Atkins Start Date: 1/21/02	Cheri, Bless you for being with her. My thoughts and prayers are with you and the family. I too was with my sister when they took off the life support. My heart aches for you sweetheart. Love you!

01-17-2006, 08:21 PM	#10
momacat Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 7,074 Gallery: momacat	I'm so sorry

01-17-2006, 08:45 PM	#11
Melly Its all about me! Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: La La Land Usually Posts: 6,831 Gallery: Melly Stats: CRAP!!/not there yet/comfortable WOE: WW - Core Start Date: June 9, 2003	Sorry to hear this Cheri.........I know that there have been many struggles with Lisa in the past due to "sensative" things with her.......just know that she is finally at peace.......my prayers are with you and your family.....Call if you need ANY thing and remember I love ya

01-17-2006, 09:53 PM	#13
CurveControl Formerlychubchick Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Ohio Posts: 42,465 Blog Entries: 8 Gallery: CurveControl Stats: 200/ 186.0 /135 WOE: moderate carb, 30-60 grams Start Date: 3/25/08 sigh	Dang Cheri- I am so sorry for you all.

01-18-2006, 08:29 AM	#21
microChip Fox Alpha Male Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Alaska Posts: 2,718 Gallery: microChip Stats: 446/242/180 Start Date: 19 April 2004

01-17-2006, 09:44 PM	#12
SoHappy MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 2,816 Gallery: SoHappy	Cheri, I'm so sorry. I'm sorry for you and for all of Lisa's family. She is now free of all the problems of mortal life. I'm sure her spirit must be at peace.

01-17-2006, 10:20 PM	#14
Groovycadreamr Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: a really BIG cocoon! Posts: 4,723 Gallery: Groovycadreamr Stats: 258.7/249.8/130 WOE: Low Carbin' It Start Date: OH, No not again!!!	So sorry to hear of your families loss!!! Thinking of you all

01-17-2006, 10:30 PM	#15
Kattbelly Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: San Fran Posts: 910 Gallery: Kattbelly	That was a brave and loving thing you did. I'm so sorry for your loss.

01-18-2006, 12:41 AM	#16
sinny MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: upstate NY Posts: 1,126 Gallery: sinny WOE: atkins Start Date: 11/14/2004	Cheri for you and your family.........................I am so sorry

01-18-2006, 01:21 AM	#17
AFwife Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: South Carolina Posts: 6,806 Gallery: AFwife Stats: Yeah/About/That WOE: Atkins Start Date: November 5, 2003	I'm so sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your family. I'm a firm believer that when our loved ones are passing on, they do hear what you are telling them before they slip away. I'm sure she heard your goodbyes.

01-18-2006, 02:27 AM	#18
chewtoy Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Jax, FL Posts: 312 Gallery: chewtoy	How wonderful your sister-in-law was to have you all be strong enough to make that decision for her. That is a true test when you love someone enough to let her body go when the spirit is already gone. Bless you.

01-18-2006, 03:32 AM	#19
beckyb17 Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Boilermaker Country Posts: 12,858 Gallery: beckyb17 Stats: 60 pounds ago WOE: Yo~Yo diet	I'm so sorry Cheri

01-18-2006, 07:02 AM	#20
kartmom386 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: SC Posts: 454 Gallery: kartmom386 Stats: Been There/Done That/Yeehaw! WOE: Body Clutter Menu Mailer Start Date: October 2005

01-18-2006, 09:46 AM	#22
rootbeer Chimpy Nuts Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Sitting on the Green Monster Posts: 43,424 Blog Entries: 2 Gallery: rootbeer Stats: 160/149/135 WOE: Hawt Dawgs & Cold Beah Start Date: Which time?	I'm so sorry Cheri. My hugs and thoughts go to you and your family.

01-18-2006, 10:21 AM	#23
JoyPaige Senior LCF Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Behind you. Posts: 147 Gallery: JoyPaige Stats: Blah/Blah/Blah WOE: Taking suggestions. Start Date: Next Monday for SURE!	My condolences for your loss, cheri.

01-18-2006, 10:33 AM	#24
zay Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 3,243 Gallery: zay	I'm so sorry Cheri

01-18-2006, 04:33 PM	#25
mis-informed Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Happy Candy Sweet House Posts: 3,090 Gallery: mis-informed	Oh, I am so sorry. God bless you and the rest of the family. It is so hard.

01-18-2006, 04:48 PM	#26
abbynormal Big Yapper!!!! Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Welcome to the Bluff Posts: 8,169 Gallery: abbynormal WOE: yikes!	Peace be with you during this time.

01-18-2006, 05:42 PM	#27
shanes_grrl Senior LCF Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Texas Posts: 798 Gallery: shanes_grrl Stats: 289.6/286.0/150 WOE: Low Carb Start Date: 10/2/06	I am so terribly sorry to hear of your loss, I have not followed this story, so I am not for sure what the problem with Lisa was, however, My heart breaks for you and your family and I know you all made the right decision to let her be and not keep her hooked to those machines... I pray God will send you his Comforter and will be with you thru the upcoming days ahead.

01-18-2006, 09:05 PM	#28
cheri Administrator Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: Illinois Posts: 15,320 Gallery: cheri Stats: Over 130 pounds lost!	Thank you everyone.. I appreciate all your support and I have let the rest of the family know how wonderful you are... they are very touched. My neice came in tonight and had dinner here... Monday we will be having the visitation/funeral. Her daughter has decided to take her mothers remains back to Houston for burial. Thank you again... your thoughts and prayers have been comforting and very much appreciated. cheri

01-19-2006, 04:57 AM	#29
XxSpacegirlxX Senior LCF Member Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: NY Posts: 701 Gallery: XxSpacegirlxX WOE: Atkins/Stillmans/Fasting/list goes on Start Date: long long time ago

01-19-2006, 05:28 AM	#30
karenmarie Senior LCF Member Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Delaware Posts: 187 Gallery: karenmarie Stats: 220/?/180 WOE: contemplating re-starting Atkins	I'm so sorry for your loss.