I need advise ...

Acura · 10-03-2005, 06:35 PM

For those that dont know my story here is the first thread

What I wanted to say but knew it wouldnt help, but wanted to be heard

A few days ago, I sent my J an email

Hello..
I have been thinking for a while of how to get in touch with you and or even if you would be receptive, if I wrote to you. And even of you never read this, at least I can say what I feel I need to. I guess I just wanted to let you know that I do think of you from time to time, miss ya. The days have gotten a lot easier and my life has changed over the last months.

I guess all things happen for a reason, even though I haven’t figured out the reason we were in each others life.

I really am writing to let you know, that I no longer am angry at you (feels good to say that, I would have rather told you this in person but I know you aren’t allowed to see or talk to me), and I do understand as best as I can why you had to do what you did. I do believe that you loved me, and were honest with me while we were together. It was the emotional side that was lashing out at you when I called you a lair.

Life takes turns and we all have to make decisions / choices, I guess I decided it was time to tell you that part of me will always love you, miss you.

I hope you can look back, as I can now at the time we spent together and remember all the good and happiness we shared. I do hope to hear from you one day….
^^^^^^^
than he wrote back and said .....

It was very nice to hear from you, I truly hope that you are feeling better now. I hope that you understand. I did not hurt you on purpose.

Being honest is one of the best things we had. I do missing you. I honestly miss our chats most, online, on the phone and in person. Have lost a good friend. I find in very hard not to chat with you in game.

I know you want to know, no, I’m not sure I made the right decision.

I have wondered what you told your family about us?

And, I hope your sister was ok the accident.

Miss you.

^^^^^^^

what should I do, should I write back or just think it was nice for him to write me and continue moving on ??

Any advise would be great !!!

Bubbles · 10-04-2005, 05:57 AM

Move on. This man hurt you deeply and his woman is a bit of a psycho too. By continuing to contact him even if the anger is gone, gets you nowhere. It is impossible to let go of the past if you continue to question people's motivations and wonder WHY month's later.
So he is unsure of his decision? How convenient. He left YOU for HER. Whether he intended to hurt you or not the fact remains is he dumped YOU for HER. Now he isn't sure if SWHE is right for HIM?????
The man does not know what he wants but he knows you are a sure thing if he whines enough. Do not give him the time of day.
You deserve better, why travel down a road that cost you so much. There are men out there with no entanglements, no drama and no BS. A man who truely loves you would step in front of a moving bus to protect you. A man who loves you will never do anything to cause you that kind of pain. A man who loves you will want to spend every free moment with you and OTHER WOMEN will not exist for him EVER.
This man is a waste of your time.

gavinsmom · 10-04-2005, 08:55 AM

I suggest that you move on too. Deep in your heart if you write back to him it is a way of holding on to him. Just use this letter as closure that there are no harsh feelings between you too, and just know that you are wishing him the best, and he for you.

10-03-2005, 06:35 PM	#1
Acura Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Rockledge, Fl Posts: 579 Gallery: Acura Stats: 5'9 Start BMI 53.3 310 7/22/2007 WOE: RNY exercise, lots and lots of cardo Start Date: 7/22/2007	I need advise ... For those that dont know my story here is the first thread What I wanted to say but knew it wouldnt help, but wanted to be heard A few days ago, I sent my J an email Hello.. I have been thinking for a while of how to get in touch with you and or even if you would be receptive, if I wrote to you. And even of you never read this, at least I can say what I feel I need to. I guess I just wanted to let you know that I do think of you from time to time, miss ya. The days have gotten a lot easier and my life has changed over the last months. I guess all things happen for a reason, even though I haven’t figured out the reason we were in each others life. I really am writing to let you know, that I no longer am angry at you (feels good to say that, I would have rather told you this in person but I know you aren’t allowed to see or talk to me), and I do understand as best as I can why you had to do what you did. I do believe that you loved me, and were honest with me while we were together. It was the emotional side that was lashing out at you when I called you a lair. Life takes turns and we all have to make decisions / choices, I guess I decided it was time to tell you that part of me will always love you, miss you. I hope you can look back, as I can now at the time we spent together and remember all the good and happiness we shared. I do hope to hear from you one day…. ^^^^^^^ than he wrote back and said ..... It was very nice to hear from you, I truly hope that you are feeling better now. I hope that you understand. I did not hurt you on purpose. Being honest is one of the best things we had. I do missing you. I honestly miss our chats most, online, on the phone and in person. Have lost a good friend. I find in very hard not to chat with you in game. I know you want to know, no, I’m not sure I made the right decision. I have wondered what you told your family about us? And, I hope your sister was ok the accident. Miss you. ^^^^^^^ what should I do, should I write back or just think it was nice for him to write me and continue moving on ?? Any advise would be great !!! __________________ PROUD WIFE OF A U.S. AIRMAN Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but the moments that take our breath away RNY DATE 3/12 March 08 316 / Nov 08 221 ... 50 more Lbs to go !!

10-04-2005, 05:57 AM	#2
Bubbles Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Live Free or Die Baby!!!!! Posts: 10,100 Gallery: Bubbles Stats: 140 lbs of flabby fun WOE: All the time Start Date: Feb 2003	Move on. This man hurt you deeply and his woman is a bit of a psycho too. By continuing to contact him even if the anger is gone, gets you nowhere. It is impossible to let go of the past if you continue to question people's motivations and wonder WHY month's later. So he is unsure of his decision? How convenient. He left YOU for HER. Whether he intended to hurt you or not the fact remains is he dumped YOU for HER. Now he isn't sure if SWHE is right for HIM????? The man does not know what he wants but he knows you are a sure thing if he whines enough. Do not give him the time of day. You deserve better, why travel down a road that cost you so much. There are men out there with no entanglements, no drama and no BS. A man who truely loves you would step in front of a moving bus to protect you. A man who loves you will never do anything to cause you that kind of pain. A man who loves you will want to spend every free moment with you and OTHER WOMEN will not exist for him EVER. This man is a waste of your time. __________________ I don't have a problem with anger, I have a problem with idiots. Just because I don't care, does not mean I don't understand. Last edited by Bubbles : 10-04-2005 at 06:04 AM.

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10-04-2005, 08:55 AM	#3
gavinsmom MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Houston, Tx Posts: 2,351 Gallery: gavinsmom Stats: 215/199/140 WOE: Low Carb Start Date: 9/22/08	I suggest that you move on too. Deep in your heart if you write back to him it is a way of holding on to him. Just use this letter as closure that there are no harsh feelings between you too, and just know that you are wishing him the best, and he for you.