just kindof sad today...

kidj4 · 08-02-2005, 10:34 AM

it's been almost 6 months since my husband told me he was leaving. i'm certainly having more better days than not, but today is just one of those days where i feel really blah, sad. no real reason. how do i fix it ... how long will it take me to get over it? i'm sick of being sad.

shulamite · 08-02-2005, 10:46 AM

hi lady...

i know your sorrow...

i know it so well...

i hope you know how much God cares...

and you can take some comfort in that...

try and find a source of great joy for you...and seek to do that... whatever it may be...

sometimes it feels good to give to someone else that which you yourself need so much...

make a call to someone for no reason....to encourage them...

avoid going to the negative side of your feelings...

its ok to sorrow...but dont dwell on a past that is gone...look to day and the hope of what tomorrow may bring...

tomorrow is a gift you have yet to recieve...

and today is your present from God

open it up

heal

kidj4 · 08-02-2005, 11:07 AM

thank you shulamite for your kind words. my head hears what you say, but my heart has trouble. i know i will be ok.

shulamite · 08-02-2005, 11:17 AM

i used to take deep breaths... imagining taking in good...or "what i needed" or a "miracle" ... id imagine that breath going into the deepest parts of that pain...swirling around it detaching it from 'me'... and i would exhale...letting go...

feeling it leave... as i let it go...

let it out...

id imagine the heat in the tears that welled up... was the pain ...leaving... because i dint want to hold it in...

sometimes i just felt empty...

because i was...

i had become the pain...

the sorrow over the loss of my marraige...consumed me...

i lost myself along the way ...

well.. anyway... dont want to go back there

i hope you try my lil me fix its sometimes...

and i pray that it helps

brilliant100 · 08-02-2005, 11:28 AM

I can relate to how you feel. Its ok to be sad. I don't know how long it takes for the pain to disappear but time really does heal the ache. Two months ago I was crying at work all day on and off due to a relationship ending. Today when I think about it, I feel disappointment and relief that it is over. But the tears are gone. My mother said crying helped cleanse my heart and I think it really did. At the time it did not feel like a cleansing.....it just hurt.

Things that helped me:
crying
sleeping
watching my favorite movies on dvd
talking to friends/family about other topics besides the relationship
spending time with people that made me happy
looking at old pictures/letters/cards

SJN02 · 08-02-2005, 05:48 PM

It is ok to have sad days. It will continue to get better for you as time goes on. If you want to talk pm me and we can exchange numbers again. I have been praying for you and your boys.

RobinB · 08-03-2005, 08:29 AM

It does take time.

Hang in there.

gettingstrength · 08-03-2005, 12:12 PM

I'm sorry you are sad .

kidj4 · 08-03-2005, 02:21 PM

thank you everyone! it helps to hear your words. i do have more good days than bad, but i just seem to notice the bad ones more ... know what i mean?

i WILL be ok ... i WILL be happy again!!!!!

Sweeter-than-Splenda · 08-03-2005, 04:24 PM

Yes you will be happy again!!! God will see to it! Congrats on your great loss! You look fabbbbulous!!! Keep you chin up...things will be brighter soon....May God bless you and keep you.

08-02-2005, 10:34 AM	#1
kidj4 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 1,351 Gallery: kidj4 Stats: 243.4/145.4/134.4 ~~ 5'6" ~~ 33 yrs old WOE: Atkins Start Date: January 1, 2005	just kindof sad today... it's been almost 6 months since my husband told me he was leaving. i'm certainly having more better days than not, but today is just one of those days where i feel really blah, sad. no real reason. how do i fix it ... how long will it take me to get over it? i'm sick of being sad.

08-02-2005, 10:46 AM	#2
shulamite MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: bakersfield, CA Posts: 2,779 Gallery: shulamite Stats: 190/157/140 5'8.5" 40yrs WOE: low carb low cal Start Date: org1/03 again 12/06 again 1/08	hi lady... i know your sorrow... i know it so well... i hope you know how much God cares... and you can take some comfort in that... try and find a source of great joy for you...and seek to do that... whatever it may be... sometimes it feels good to give to someone else that which you yourself need so much... make a call to someone for no reason....to encourage them... avoid going to the negative side of your feelings... its ok to sorrow...but dont dwell on a past that is gone...look to day and the hope of what tomorrow may bring... tomorrow is a gift you have yet to recieve... and today is your present from God open it up heal __________________ **now can YOU really commit???** challenge

08-02-2005, 11:28 AM	#5
brilliant100 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Western, USA Posts: 2,444 Gallery: brilliant100 Stats: 266/194/169 WOE: Atkins/M&E Feast, Lower fat & Lower calorie Start Date: restarted 6/1/05 M/E, back on the wagon 8-21-07	I can relate to how you feel. Its ok to be sad. I don't know how long it takes for the pain to disappear but time really does heal the ache. Two months ago I was crying at work all day on and off due to a relationship ending. Today when I think about it, I feel disappointment and relief that it is over. But the tears are gone. My mother said crying helped cleanse my heart and I think it really did. At the time it did not feel like a cleansing.....it just hurt. Things that helped me: crying sleeping watching my favorite movies on dvd talking to friends/family about other topics besides the relationship spending time with people that made me happy looking at old pictures/letters/cards __________________ 8-21-07 'Jumpin back on the wagon' 194 169 goal by 9-22 Anniversay

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08-02-2005, 11:07 AM	#3
kidj4 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 1,351 Gallery: kidj4 Stats: 243.4/145.4/134.4 ~~ 5'6" ~~ 33 yrs old WOE: Atkins Start Date: January 1, 2005	thank you shulamite for your kind words. my head hears what you say, but my heart has trouble. i know i will be ok.

08-02-2005, 11:17 AM	#4
shulamite MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: bakersfield, CA Posts: 2,779 Gallery: shulamite Stats: 190/157/140 5'8.5" 40yrs WOE: low carb low cal Start Date: org1/03 again 12/06 again 1/08	i used to take deep breaths... imagining taking in good...or "what i needed" or a "miracle" ... id imagine that breath going into the deepest parts of that pain...swirling around it detaching it from 'me'... and i would exhale...letting go... feeling it leave... as i let it go... let it out... id imagine the heat in the tears that welled up... was the pain ...leaving... because i dint want to hold it in... sometimes i just felt empty... because i was... i had become the pain... the sorrow over the loss of my marraige...consumed me... i lost myself along the way ... well.. anyway... dont want to go back there i hope you try my lil me fix its sometimes... and i pray that it helps

08-02-2005, 05:48 PM	#6
SJN02 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 2,514 Gallery: SJN02 Stats: 220/216/145 WOE: Low Calorie Start Date: Jan. 1, 09 (after a million starts)	It is ok to have sad days. It will continue to get better for you as time goes on. If you want to talk pm me and we can exchange numbers again. I have been praying for you and your boys.

08-03-2005, 08:29 AM	#7
RobinB Heart Writer Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Maryland Posts: 2,170 Gallery: RobinB WOE: Atkins Start Date: restart March '07	It does take time. Hang in there.

08-03-2005, 12:12 PM	#8
gettingstrength Big Yapper!!!! Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Tennessee Posts: 9,523 Gallery: gettingstrength Stats: 184 / 170 / ? WOE: atkins Start Date: 6 / 1 / 2002	I'm sorry you are sad .

08-03-2005, 02:21 PM	#9
kidj4 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 1,351 Gallery: kidj4 Stats: 243.4/145.4/134.4 ~~ 5'6" ~~ 33 yrs old WOE: Atkins Start Date: January 1, 2005	thank you everyone! it helps to hear your words. i do have more good days than bad, but i just seem to notice the bad ones more ... know what i mean? i WILL be ok ... i WILL be happy again!!!!!

08-03-2005, 04:24 PM	#10
Sweeter-than-Splenda MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Southern Minnesota Posts: 1,095 Gallery: Sweeter-than-Splenda WOE: currently following Dr. Oz' plan "You: On a diet" Start Date: restart restart date 1/02/08	Yes you will be happy again!!! God will see to it! Congrats on your great loss! You look fabbbbulous!!! Keep you chin up...things will be brighter soon....May God bless you and keep you.