No light at the end of the tunnel

melantine · 06-09-2005, 07:37 AM

I usually try to look for the positive in everything but lately it seems there is nothing positive to look forward to. My life is starting to resemble a BAD country music song

Someone please turn the light back on.

beckyb17 · 06-09-2005, 08:41 AM

Its on Woman!!!Big hugs to you (((MEL)))

NCgrl · 06-09-2005, 01:38 PM

I don't have much to add.I feel that way alot myself.

I hope the light comes back on soon.

Fine Mind · 06-09-2005, 03:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by melantine

I usually try to look for the positive in everything but lately it seems there is nothing positive to look forward to. My life is starting to resemble a BAD country music song

Someone please turn the light back on.

As we used to say in the 70's,
"Wanna' rap?"
( it means talk)

Lin

Road2Thin · 06-09-2005, 06:41 PM

Hold fast and keep the faith and I can assure you that things will get better. I know sometimes we think we are having it hard but there is always someone out there that you would not want to trade places with. Pray and things will look better.

shedevil13 · 06-09-2005, 08:16 PM

I learned in the military to "Suck it up and Drive on". That's my motto when I know things aren't going my way.

Trust in the lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding for he will direct your path.

I like that one also.

melantine · 06-10-2005, 07:34 AM

Thanks everyone, today feels better already.

brilliant100 · 06-10-2005, 08:02 AM

During times like these, it helps me to break my day down into smaller parts. On hour at a time, or 30 min or 15 min. What ever it takes to just keep going. It has to get better and typically it does.

Praying for you.......

gettingstrength · 06-10-2005, 08:17 AM

Truth05 · 06-10-2005, 09:04 AM

No matter how bad things get, they could be worse. I had a high school senior come into my class one day balling and crying. Big wet drippy tears were falling on her desk as she wept. I asked her to step outside and after a bit of prodding, she came with me so we could talk in private. I told her, you tell me what's bothering you and I will tell you what's bothering me. She said she was crying because she didn't know if she would get accepted to her college in time to live in the dorms. She is moving across the country so this was not a place she could easily visit and find alternative places to live. I looked at her and told her that my wife was leaving me. She looked straight at me and said "why" with a shocked face. I told her because she just wasn't happy anymore which was the truth. I told her that I had to put my best face on every day just to come to school and teach them. I told her just because things seem bad doesn't mean they couldn't be a whole lot worse. She gave me a hug and kept my secret for the rest of the school year and gave me a big hug on her graduation night. I don't think we will ever forget that moment when she realized in the bigger picture, her problem was very small. Sometimes when things seem so hopeless we have to keep moving forward in our lives regardless of how we feel at the moment.

I have lived with chronic pain from a previous job for years. There was a time when the pain was so bad I didn't want to live. At those times I focused on the good things in my life including my loving wife. I kept my faith that things would get better. I finally found a doctor who operated on my shoulder because it was not stable in its socket. Following physical therapy I felt so much better. I no longer feel that there is a knife twisting in my back 24 hours a day. I always hurt but I can remember days that were much worse. Since my wife has now left, I have returned to working out on a regular basis and my shoulder is feeling a bit better. I am hoping if I can bulk up slowly over time that I might be able to work through the chronic pain so that it is a distant memory.

The point of my two stories is keep the faith. As long as we keep moving forward there will be better times ahead. It is when you stop moving forward that you will sink into a pit of dispare from which you may not return.

Truth05

Wife of a Vet · 06-10-2005, 02:28 PM

Mel, I know its tough. And you know you'll be stronger. Have faith, have hope, and lean on your friends. That's what we're here for.

melantine · 06-10-2005, 09:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Wife of a Vet

Mel, I know its tough. And you know you'll be stronger. Have faith, have hope, and lean on your friends. That's what we're here for.

Hey lady, I've missed you

Where ya been, i was Juicin' all day and must have missed you.

Truth, What a wonderful way of looking at things and a great thing you did for your student. Thanks for sharing. Things will get better for me, they usually do. Sometimes it just feels like there is not one good thing left.

I appreciate everyone who has came in here an offered me support. I love this place.

Thanks!

sososo · 06-10-2005, 10:11 PM

God Bless You, Melatine.
Please don't think I am "making light" of your feelings. Sometimes I find it helps to rember how much worse life could be. This is an old story, but maybe worth a smile.

One of the villagers was wery unhappy. He dispared of ever having his life as he would like. His wife was disrespectful, his children disobedient, he was poor and sometimes hungry. Now his Mother in Law was moving in with them.
He approached the village Wise-Man with his sorrows.
"Oh, the solution is near" advised the Wise-Man. "Move all your chickens and the dog into the house with you."
The unhappy villager was puzzled, but did as told.
Next week, upon seeing the Wise-Man, he screamed. "My life is worse, my wife is even more disrespectfull, my children still disobey, my mother-in-law is still with us."
"Not a problem: simpley bring your horse and 2 cows in to live in the house with you."
One week later, the unhappy man, tearing his hair and crying, told the wise-man his life was intolerable!
"I can fix that, said the wise-man, get rid of all those animals. I quarentee you will feel better."
The man and his family live happy ever after.

06-09-2005, 07:37 AM	#1
melantine Stacy's Mom Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: BFE Nebraska Posts: 8,366 Gallery: melantine Stats: 178/140 (ugh holiday weight)/ 130 WOE: strict l/c Start Date: July 5, 2004	No light at the end of the tunnel I usually try to look for the positive in everything but lately it seems there is nothing positive to look forward to. My life is starting to resemble a BAD country music song Someone please turn the light back on.

06-10-2005, 09:04 AM	#10
Truth05 Junior LCF Member Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 37 Gallery: Truth05	No matter how bad... No matter how bad things get, they could be worse. I had a high school senior come into my class one day balling and crying. Big wet drippy tears were falling on her desk as she wept. I asked her to step outside and after a bit of prodding, she came with me so we could talk in private. I told her, you tell me what's bothering you and I will tell you what's bothering me. She said she was crying because she didn't know if she would get accepted to her college in time to live in the dorms. She is moving across the country so this was not a place she could easily visit and find alternative places to live. I looked at her and told her that my wife was leaving me. She looked straight at me and said "why" with a shocked face. I told her because she just wasn't happy anymore which was the truth. I told her that I had to put my best face on every day just to come to school and teach them. I told her just because things seem bad doesn't mean they couldn't be a whole lot worse. She gave me a hug and kept my secret for the rest of the school year and gave me a big hug on her graduation night. I don't think we will ever forget that moment when she realized in the bigger picture, her problem was very small. Sometimes when things seem so hopeless we have to keep moving forward in our lives regardless of how we feel at the moment. I have lived with chronic pain from a previous job for years. There was a time when the pain was so bad I didn't want to live. At those times I focused on the good things in my life including my loving wife. I kept my faith that things would get better. I finally found a doctor who operated on my shoulder because it was not stable in its socket. Following physical therapy I felt so much better. I no longer feel that there is a knife twisting in my back 24 hours a day. I always hurt but I can remember days that were much worse. Since my wife has now left, I have returned to working out on a regular basis and my shoulder is feeling a bit better. I am hoping if I can bulk up slowly over time that I might be able to work through the chronic pain so that it is a distant memory. The point of my two stories is keep the faith. As long as we keep moving forward there will be better times ahead. It is when you stop moving forward that you will sink into a pit of dispare from which you may not return. Truth05

06-10-2005, 02:28 PM	#11
Wife of a Vet Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Having Fun in Killeen/CopperasCove/Kempner - ish (TX) Posts: 13,802 Gallery: Wife of a Vet Stats: Highest 280/LC start-222/210 (grr)/145 5'8" WOE: Low Carb (Diabetic) Start Date: 8/26/03	Mel, I know its tough. And you know you'll be stronger. Have faith, have hope, and lean on your friends. That's what we're here for. Last edited by Wife of a Vet : 06-10-2005 at 02:33 PM.

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Email this Page
Display Modes
Linear Mode Switch to Hybrid Mode Switch to Threaded Mode

06-09-2005, 08:41 AM	#2
beckyb17 Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Boilermaker Country Posts: 12,858 Gallery: beckyb17 Stats: 60 pounds ago WOE: Yo~Yo diet	Its on Woman!!!Big hugs to you (((MEL)))

06-09-2005, 01:38 PM	#3
NCgrl Senior LCF Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Blue Ridge Mountains Posts: 509 Gallery: NCgrl Stats: 424/374/299 WOE: Diabetic/Low carb Start Date: restart July 12,2008	I don't have much to add.I feel that way alot myself. I hope the light comes back on soon.

06-09-2005, 06:41 PM	#5
Road2Thin Senior LCF Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Georgia Posts: 61 Gallery: Road2Thin Stats: 230/208.6/175?? or until satisfied Highest 260 WOE: Low carb Start Date: December 8, 2008	Hold fast and keep the faith and I can assure you that things will get better. I know sometimes we think we are having it hard but there is always someone out there that you would not want to trade places with. Pray and things will look better.

06-09-2005, 08:16 PM	#6
shedevil13 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Milwaukee, WI Posts: 426 Gallery: shedevil13 Stats: 180/149/130 WOE: I FOUND Whatever Works! Start Date: December 2005	I learned in the military to "Suck it up and Drive on". That's my motto when I know things aren't going my way. Trust in the lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding for he will direct your path. I like that one also.

06-10-2005, 07:34 AM	#7
melantine Stacy's Mom Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: BFE Nebraska Posts: 8,366 Gallery: melantine Stats: 178/140 (ugh holiday weight)/ 130 WOE: strict l/c Start Date: July 5, 2004	Thanks everyone, today feels better already.

06-10-2005, 08:02 AM	#8
brilliant100 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Western, USA Posts: 2,444 Gallery: brilliant100 Stats: 266/194/169 WOE: Atkins/M&E Feast, Lower fat & Lower calorie Start Date: restarted 6/1/05 M/E, back on the wagon 8-21-07	During times like these, it helps me to break my day down into smaller parts. On hour at a time, or 30 min or 15 min. What ever it takes to just keep going. It has to get better and typically it does. Praying for you.......

06-10-2005, 08:17 AM	#9
gettingstrength Big Yapper!!!! Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Tennessee Posts: 9,523 Gallery: gettingstrength Stats: 184 / 170 / ? WOE: atkins Start Date: 6 / 1 / 2002

06-10-2005, 10:11 PM	#13
sososo Senior LCF Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Edmonton, Alberta, Canada Posts: 148 Gallery: sososo Stats: 315/188/170 WOE: Atkins Start Date: Feb 2003	God Bless You, Melatine. Please don't think I am "making light" of your feelings. Sometimes I find it helps to rember how much worse life could be. This is an old story, but maybe worth a smile. One of the villagers was wery unhappy. He dispared of ever having his life as he would like. His wife was disrespectful, his children disobedient, he was poor and sometimes hungry. Now his Mother in Law was moving in with them. He approached the village Wise-Man with his sorrows. "Oh, the solution is near" advised the Wise-Man. "Move all your chickens and the dog into the house with you." The unhappy villager was puzzled, but did as told. Next week, upon seeing the Wise-Man, he screamed. "My life is worse, my wife is even more disrespectfull, my children still disobey, my mother-in-law is still with us." "Not a problem: simpley bring your horse and 2 cows in to live in the house with you." One week later, the unhappy man, tearing his hair and crying, told the wise-man his life was intolerable! "I can fix that, said the wise-man, get rid of all those animals. I quarentee you will feel better." The man and his family live happy ever after.