Prayers, Please. Sorry, Long

Vickielee · 05-19-2005, 12:12 PM

I am beginning to be completely overwelmed with the tragedies our families have faced this year. In August 2004, my 26 year old nephew was paralized in an ATV accident. Since that time I have helped him, his SO and children cope with the life they are left with and since neither he or his SO have any clue about the value of money, I have taken over their finances and by the end of the month we should have closed on their first home. I spend so much time just listening, talking and trying to help them through this situation.

On December 26, 2004, my SIL was diagnosed with Acute Myeloid Luekemia. This has devasted all of us, she was a picture of health, never smoked, didn't drink, watched what she ate, walked 6 miles daily, etc. She has been fighting for her life ever since. She underwent a bone marrow transplant on April 28th and is currently doing well, but will still have to reside in a "safe house" 90 miles from our home for 3 more months. Her and her husband own a tanning salon, so since December I have been running the salon, planning and putting on a steak dinner benefit to help with the mounting bills (over 500 people attended and we made over $15,0000), being there for her 2 girls and her husband and fitting in time to go and visit her each weekend. She is my husband's sister, but we have known each other all our lives and I am as close to her as I am my own sister.

Last night, the home of our Lay Minister of Sunday School burned down. We are a very small congregation and are always there for one another. I went to be with her and her family last night and it is devastating. The church has been so good to our families with the tragedies we have been going through, I know that I am going to do whatever I can for them.

We still have our own boys at home, who I feel I am neglecting at times. They are 15 and 13 and they say they understand, but for the first time in their lives, I am not at every sporting event or activity they are in.

I feel like I am taking on too much, neglecting my husband and boys, and am sooooooo tired, but I have always been the one everyone in my own family and my husbands family turns to in times of need, so how can I say no????

All I guess I am asking is for your prayers to get us all through these things and hopefully the worst is behind us.

Thanks for listening

Vickie Lee

SueShopper · 05-19-2005, 12:14 PM

Sounds like you are doing alot..but I hope it won't go unnoticed or unappreciated!!!

KY_LOSER · 05-19-2005, 12:15 PM

Prayers sent

Boujie · 05-19-2005, 12:16 PM

Oh jeeze - overwhelmed is an understatement

Munka213 · 05-19-2005, 12:22 PM

Even tho you aren't there as much as you used to be or would like to be for your boys, I think that you're setting a WONDERFUL example for them. They are learning first hand compassion and caring for others.

mickyzzzzz05 · 05-19-2005, 12:27 PM

It sounds like you are are answering God's call to service. Your children have a wonderful example of love and giving presented to them by your actions. My prayer is for strength, continued love and God's Holy Spirit to uplift and fill you. God's blessings on you and all those you love.

snowrose · 05-19-2005, 12:30 PM

VickieLee, you sound like a wonderful person but, honey, who's gonna help those folks when you totally burn out from overwork? We all have to take care of ourselves in order to help care for others. Make sure you find some time just for *you*.

And there's more to teaching children then just helping others, though that is wonderful. You need to also teach them that their health and happiness are also incredibly important, and that they're the ones who are in charge of those things.

Kellees24 · 05-19-2005, 12:39 PM

It sounds like you have some mature kiddos on your hands. Perhaps your 15 year old can take over a shift or two at the tanning salon, and the 13 year old can help watch your SIL's daughters. It sounds like they are active, but maybe this will prevent some symptoms of burn-out on your end. I admire your desire to help people around you, but I also hope you know your limits. It is possible to have TOO much on your plate.

Timmy's Wife · 05-19-2005, 12:40 PM

You have taken on an awful lot. God bless you and your family for being so giving.

Livewell · 05-19-2005, 12:49 PM

Vicki,

Reading your post actually brought tears to my eyes. I pray that you find some time to do something nice for Vicki and soon. Even tho you continue to give of yourself and your heart, you need to slow down just a tad. I'm also certain that your boys understand too. You truly are teaching them a WONDERFUL example. They are learning first hand compassion and caring for others.

Here's a thought, why not include the boys (and the husband) in one of your contributions? It will give them a chance to feel what you feel while doing something nice for others.

Lisa Marie · 05-19-2005, 12:53 PM

Vickie Lee,

I will pray for you, your family, and your church family. Sometimes it seems that everything hits us at once, and you are an amazingly strong person to carry so much on your shoulders.

You have done so much for so many others, but please don't forget to take care of yourself as well. If you feel overwhelmed, let your family know that you need to step back for a while.

I'll keep you in my thoughts...

Lisa

SmokiesLil · 05-19-2005, 01:10 PM

absolutely - prayers for all involved

yellowrose · 05-19-2005, 01:14 PM

Vickielee · 05-20-2005, 01:55 AM

Thanks everyone. I guess I just needed some encouragement. My boys do help at the tanner, they beg me to work more!!! My husband does what he can, but he owns his own painting business, so this is his busy time. One thing this past year has taught us is that life can change in a second, this has brought my husband and I much closer, we cherish each other and thank God everyday for each other, our health and that we have our two healthy sons.

Once again, thanks for the support.

Vickielee

gettingstrength · 05-20-2005, 06:00 PM

RobinB · 05-20-2005, 06:39 PM

wow, hang in there.

dimepiece1 · 05-20-2005, 06:53 PM

I think it is great that you are helping all of the people around you. I do think you need to make sure that you are not getting over extended and you and your family will be in need. Please make sure that you are taking care of yourself. I am sending lots of

your way.

Dawns40 · 05-20-2005, 07:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Munka213

Even tho you aren't there as much as you used to be or would like to be for your boys, I think that you're setting a WONDERFUL example for them. They are learning first hand compassion and caring for others.

I agree. Prayers and positive thoughts to you.

kaisergirl · 05-22-2005, 08:41 AM

05-19-2005, 12:12 PM	#1
Vickielee Junior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Vassar, MI Posts: 46 Gallery: Vickielee Stats: 254/209/160 Start Date: 07/07/03	Prayers, Please. Sorry, Long I am beginning to be completely overwelmed with the tragedies our families have faced this year. In August 2004, my 26 year old nephew was paralized in an ATV accident. Since that time I have helped him, his SO and children cope with the life they are left with and since neither he or his SO have any clue about the value of money, I have taken over their finances and by the end of the month we should have closed on their first home. I spend so much time just listening, talking and trying to help them through this situation. On December 26, 2004, my SIL was diagnosed with Acute Myeloid Luekemia. This has devasted all of us, she was a picture of health, never smoked, didn't drink, watched what she ate, walked 6 miles daily, etc. She has been fighting for her life ever since. She underwent a bone marrow transplant on April 28th and is currently doing well, but will still have to reside in a "safe house" 90 miles from our home for 3 more months. Her and her husband own a tanning salon, so since December I have been running the salon, planning and putting on a steak dinner benefit to help with the mounting bills (over 500 people attended and we made over $15,0000), being there for her 2 girls and her husband and fitting in time to go and visit her each weekend. She is my husband's sister, but we have known each other all our lives and I am as close to her as I am my own sister. Last night, the home of our Lay Minister of Sunday School burned down. We are a very small congregation and are always there for one another. I went to be with her and her family last night and it is devastating. The church has been so good to our families with the tragedies we have been going through, I know that I am going to do whatever I can for them. We still have our own boys at home, who I feel I am neglecting at times. They are 15 and 13 and they say they understand, but for the first time in their lives, I am not at every sporting event or activity they are in. I feel like I am taking on too much, neglecting my husband and boys, and am sooooooo tired, but I have always been the one everyone in my own family and my husbands family turns to in times of need, so how can I say no???? All I guess I am asking is for your prayers to get us all through these things and hopefully the worst is behind us. Thanks for listening Vickie Lee __________________ Vickie Lee Started 07/07/03 254/206/160

05-19-2005, 12:49 PM	#10
Livewell MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 2,408 Gallery: Livewell	Vicki, Reading your post actually brought tears to my eyes. I pray that you find some time to do something nice for Vicki and soon. Even tho you continue to give of yourself and your heart, you need to slow down just a tad. I'm also certain that your boys understand too. You truly are teaching them a WONDERFUL example. They are learning first hand compassion and caring for others. Here's a thought, why not include the boys (and the husband) in one of your contributions? It will give them a chance to feel what you feel while doing something nice for others. __________________ ¸..·´¨¨)) -:¦:- ¸.·´ .·´¨¨)) ((¸¸.·´ ¸.·´ -:¦:- Livewell-:¦:- -:¦:- ((¸¸.·´ *I usually just give em a wink and a smile. If they're lucky I let them kiss my ring. - KateSmack*

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05-19-2005, 12:14 PM	#2
SueShopper Guest Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: ~~>TX<~~ Posts: 6,937 Gallery: SueShopper Stats: ~40 lbs. gone~ Start Date: Atkins Again 2-20-06	Sounds like you are doing alot..but I hope it won't go unnoticed or unappreciated!!!

05-19-2005, 12:15 PM	#3
KY_LOSER Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Chuck's World Posts: 6,296 Gallery: KY_LOSER Stats: BIG/STOCKY/MED WOE: I do it myyyy way!!! Start Date: May/2003	Prayers sent

05-19-2005, 12:16 PM	#4
Boujie Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 47,299 Gallery: Boujie Stats: Rubenesque / Fluffy / VaVaVoom!	Oh jeeze - overwhelmed is an understatement

05-19-2005, 12:22 PM	#5
Munka213 Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Michigan Posts: 3,692 Gallery: Munka213	Even tho you aren't there as much as you used to be or would like to be for your boys, I think that you're setting a WONDERFUL example for them. They are learning first hand compassion and caring for others.

05-19-2005, 12:27 PM	#6
mickyzzzzz05 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: NE Iowa Posts: 903 Gallery: mickyzzzzz05 WOE: Atkins 72 Start Date: July 24 2003/ restart 10/31/07	It sounds like you are are answering God's call to service. Your children have a wonderful example of love and giving presented to them by your actions. My prayer is for strength, continued love and God's Holy Spirit to uplift and fill you. God's blessings on you and all those you love.

05-19-2005, 12:30 PM	#7
snowrose Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 20,969 Gallery: snowrose Stats: 18/18/12 WOE: Atkins Start Date: January 2002	VickieLee, you sound like a wonderful person but, honey, who's gonna help those folks when you totally burn out from overwork? We all have to take care of ourselves in order to help care for others. Make sure you find some time just for you. And there's more to teaching children then just helping others, though that is wonderful. You need to also teach them that their health and happiness are also incredibly important, and that they're the ones who are in charge of those things.

05-19-2005, 12:39 PM	#8
Kellees24 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Midtown, Sacramento, CA Posts: 1,954 Gallery: Kellees24 Stats: 150/140ish/125 WOE: depends on my mood	It sounds like you have some mature kiddos on your hands. Perhaps your 15 year old can take over a shift or two at the tanning salon, and the 13 year old can help watch your SIL's daughters. It sounds like they are active, but maybe this will prevent some symptoms of burn-out on your end. I admire your desire to help people around you, but I also hope you know your limits. It is possible to have TOO much on your plate.

05-19-2005, 12:40 PM	#9
Timmy's Wife MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Among the rednecks and hillbilles Posts: 1,881 Gallery: Timmy's Wife Stats: Goal! WOE: What'eva I want :p Start Date: Which time?	You have taken on an awful lot. God bless you and your family for being so giving.

05-19-2005, 12:53 PM	#11
Lisa Marie Big Yapper!!!! Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 8,501 Gallery: Lisa Marie Stats: 230/225/150 Start Date: Restart 1/1/09	Vickie Lee, I will pray for you, your family, and your church family. Sometimes it seems that everything hits us at once, and you are an amazingly strong person to carry so much on your shoulders. You have done so much for so many others, but please don't forget to take care of yourself as well. If you feel overwhelmed, let your family know that you need to step back for a while. I'll keep you in my thoughts... Lisa

05-19-2005, 01:10 PM	#12
SmokiesLil Big Yapper!!!! Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 8,230 Gallery: SmokiesLil	absolutely - prayers for all involved

05-19-2005, 01:14 PM	#13
yellowrose Sassy Tart Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Houston, Texas.. Posts: 62,988 Blog Entries: 1 Gallery: yellowrose Stats: SW 179 ~~ CW 140 WOE: Take it one day at a time.. Start Date: January 2003

05-22-2005, 08:41 AM	#19
kaisergirl MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Edmond, Oklahoma Posts: 1,765 Gallery: kaisergirl Stats: 152~176 (pregnancy)~ 133~130 5'3 WOE: Atkins/low cal Start Date: Jan. 2003

05-20-2005, 01:55 AM	#14
Vickielee Junior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Vassar, MI Posts: 46 Gallery: Vickielee Stats: 254/209/160 Start Date: 07/07/03	Thanks everyone. I guess I just needed some encouragement. My boys do help at the tanner, they beg me to work more!!! My husband does what he can, but he owns his own painting business, so this is his busy time. One thing this past year has taught us is that life can change in a second, this has brought my husband and I much closer, we cherish each other and thank God everyday for each other, our health and that we have our two healthy sons. Once again, thanks for the support. Vickielee

05-20-2005, 06:00 PM	#15
gettingstrength Big Yapper!!!! Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Tennessee Posts: 9,523 Gallery: gettingstrength Stats: 184 / 170 / ? WOE: atkins Start Date: 6 / 1 / 2002

05-20-2005, 06:39 PM	#16
RobinB Heart Writer Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Maryland Posts: 2,170 Gallery: RobinB WOE: Atkins Start Date: restart March '07	wow, hang in there.

05-20-2005, 06:53 PM	#17
dimepiece1 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: houston, texas Posts: 2,561 Gallery: dimepiece1 Stats: 270/263/170 WOE: atkins Start Date: Sigh.. I begin again	I think it is great that you are helping all of the people around you. I do think you need to make sure that you are not getting over extended and you and your family will be in need. Please make sure that you are taking care of yourself. I am sending lots of your way.