So low...

littlemiss2k · 05-13-2005, 07:37 AM

I don't really have anyone I can tell this to so I thought here was the best place, I need to get it out.

Today I was having lunch with a friend and we were sitting close to these 2 other girls who were speaking another language that I fully understand. It was all good and I was just having a good time and then the 2 girls got talking about diets, excersise etc.

Anyway, 1 of the 2 girls was really slim and the other 1 was what I would call 'average'. The 'average' girl was talking about how she'd like to tone up and that and the slim girl was giving her advice about excersise, healthy eating etc. She was explaining to the 'average' girl how if she just made a few changes she could really change her shape. And then she said "don't get me wrong, you're not fat, they're fat."

This comment was directed at me and my friend (we were sitting opposite them on some sofas) and I just froze. There and then I just put my fork down and wanted to burst into tears. The friend that was with me was blissfully unawaire and there's no one else that I could talk about this with.

I've been doing Atkins now for a month and lost 18lbs which I was so happy about. This morning I felt so confident, almost attractive and now that's all gone...I just wanted to tell them that I'm working so hard and that they have no idea about a real battle, day in day out with food.

Sorry to have gone on for so long it's just this is the only place where I know I can share something like this.

Sophia

JunkintheTrunk · 05-13-2005, 07:59 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by littlemiss2k

This morning I felt so confident, almost attractive and now that's all gone...I just wanted to tell them that I'm working so hard and that they have no idea about a real battle, day in day out with food.

(((Sophia))) You should have told them exactly that.

Don't let it get you down, though. Your the same size you were this morning when you felt so good. And you're more than a stone lighter than you were a month ago.

As far as the really young girls go.... screw 'em. They'll be fat one day, too. They just don't know it yet.

reitzell · 05-13-2005, 08:46 AM

larryt · 05-13-2005, 08:51 AM

That sticks and stones rhyme is a sham.
Words really do hurt.
Sorry.

Larry

Lehgrad · 05-13-2005, 08:58 AM

That was so rude. Even if I didn't think that someone was listening to me I would never say that about anyone. That just goes to show how shallow and self centered this girl is. So, you may not be as slim as she, but you sure are a much better person. I have just come to realize just how important that is.
Keep up with your diet and you will be where you want to be in no time. Though, it is tough to have to keep up with a diet, losing weight is fun! Please don't get discouraged from hearing that. Don't forget, also, it is all about perspective. I'm sure there are people out there who would love to be at the weight you are at and think you look great as is.

TXLoser · 05-13-2005, 09:00 AM

Too bad you didn't say something to them in the language they were speaking so they knew you were aware -- but I guess that wouldn't help either but that was my first thought. Her being thin doesn't make her any better than you are.

DO NOT let this get you down...prejudice against overweight people is everywhere but you know you are working on being healthier and that is what matters.

Continue with your plan, hold your head high and you strut your stuff today.

Sophia - 18 lbs in a month is a fantastic loss...be proud of what you have accomplished so far.

IwillCHANGE · 05-13-2005, 09:48 AM

SOPHIA

and congrats on your wonderful loss

i know it hurts so bad these words, i encounter them too often. and i really wish to god that i'm a stone or some lifeless thing sometimes, so i won't feel the hurt. or that i can be strong enough to not feel hurt.

but the truth is, i am me. and those words do twist the knife.

but then i have to think.. those people who say hurtful hateful things.

they don't love me. they don't care about my growth or success. they are just inconsiderate and miserable people who need to lash out from time to time to feel good about themselves.

because truely kind and considerate people (the one you would want to care and care about you) will not say these things.

maybe it's just ignorance. maybe it's just carelessness. but in the end, we don't want to be involve with these people anyway. avoid them like plague, my good friend used to say.

u were just unlucky that u heard those words. but please don't let their words determine your worth and destroy your good feelings.

JoyPaige · 05-13-2005, 10:49 AM

Sophia, I am sorry your feelings were hurt.

I have had this happen on several occassions: where thin people (family, friends, even perfect strangers) have described me as "fat", either directly or indirectly.

It would hurt. It would be embarrassing. But I overcame that by realizing that they were right. Rude, but right. I AM fat! I mean, call it what it is, right?

But I don't HAVE to be fat, and only I can control that. Only I can control how "they" make me feel, too.

Chin up, Sophia. Rest in the knowledge that one day you'll show them.

Anna · 05-13-2005, 12:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by larryt

Words really do hurt.

so true.

I'm sorry Sophia, people are just so thoughtless sometimes.

USMCmom · 05-13-2005, 01:24 PM

Sophia I'm sorry.

There are some really cold and inconsiderate people in this world. Shame on that girl for saying that. She has the problem, not you. You have done very well by losing 18 lbs so far. Keep up the good work and when you get to your goal, nice and thin, vow to never make the mistake that girl made. Look at it this way, unpleasant things happen to us which actually make us stronger. Words do hurt most people but let it make you stronger, not insecure. Have a nice weekend!

Bubbles · 05-13-2005, 01:39 PM

What a couple of pigs! I can never understand how someone can say something so nasty to another person.
Your weight loss is something to be proud of Sophia, do not let a few bad apples spoil your day. BIG HUGS!

littlemiss2k · 05-14-2005, 08:48 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lcforlife

Keep up the good work and when you get to your goal, nice and thin, vow to never make the mistake that girl made. weekend!

This is definately a very important thing that I have now vowed to adhere to.
Sophia

BAMA-GAL-60 · 05-26-2005, 11:58 AM

Try not to let it bother you to much Sophia. I once met a simialar incident over 5 years ago about being critized about my weight but I was determined to stick to my low carb and lose it no matter what others said about me being fat and I know you can do it to.
Some people are really rude to others who are not like they are and it feel that its those people who are missing out on the best part of life by not knowing or caring about others who are different. They don't know a beautiful person when they see one because they are so self-centered.
Just tell yourself that you don't care what others say and go on like you were and be proud of the weight you have lost and and of yourself and remember that you are Gods child and He is with you every moment of the day and will pick you up when you fall down.
If you need a friend just PM mail me ok and i will write you back.

FitinCO · 05-26-2005, 01:43 PM

I'm sorry that happened to you. hug

Toridoll2004 · 05-29-2005, 10:18 AM

I'm sorry this happened to you and just know you are a beautiful person. Be proud of yourself. Forget them. They are losers.

I do know how you feel though. Before I started a weight loss plan I had two teenage boys moo at me like a cow in front of all this people in the grocery store. But they are losers too. So screw'em.

rosyposy · 05-29-2005, 12:46 PM

You've lost well over a stone - which is a fantastic achievement. You will achieve your goal, but she'll always be rude.

You're right, they have no idea what it's like to battle with food and to be unhappy with your body. You do know, and you are fighting that battle and winning. Don't let them and their ignorance destroy what you have accomplished so far, or what you will accomplish in the future

Mimosa23 · 05-31-2005, 08:45 AM

So sorry that this has happened to you! Some people are just so quick to judge.
You have done incredibly well so far, don't let their simplemindedness ruin your progress!

Sophia, if you want a nice non judgemental support group, come join us on the Challenge Boards. We start a weekly new thread every Monday, and post daily to encourage eachother and just catch up and stuff. We'd love for you to join us!

Here's the link to this week's thread:
uk/europe w/c 30th May

Sue1975 · 05-31-2005, 11:12 AM

Sorry about that.....I guess there are always people out to take your sunshine away. You hang on to it.

daisyblue · 05-31-2005, 11:42 AM

letmesee130 · 05-31-2005, 11:55 AM

some people are so ignorant~!

05-13-2005, 07:37 AM	#1
littlemiss2k Senior LCF Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Bournemouth, UK Posts: 408 Gallery: littlemiss2k Stats: 210/141/126 WOE: Atkins Start Date: April 8th 2005	So low... I don't really have anyone I can tell this to so I thought here was the best place, I need to get it out. Today I was having lunch with a friend and we were sitting close to these 2 other girls who were speaking another language that I fully understand. It was all good and I was just having a good time and then the 2 girls got talking about diets, excersise etc. Anyway, 1 of the 2 girls was really slim and the other 1 was what I would call 'average'. The 'average' girl was talking about how she'd like to tone up and that and the slim girl was giving her advice about excersise, healthy eating etc. She was explaining to the 'average' girl how if she just made a few changes she could really change her shape. And then she said "don't get me wrong, you're not fat, they're fat." This comment was directed at me and my friend (we were sitting opposite them on some sofas) and I just froze. There and then I just put my fork down and wanted to burst into tears. The friend that was with me was blissfully unawaire and there's no one else that I could talk about this with. I've been doing Atkins now for a month and lost 18lbs which I was so happy about. This morning I felt so confident, almost attractive and now that's all gone...I just wanted to tell them that I'm working so hard and that they have no idea about a real battle, day in day out with food. Sorry to have gone on for so long it's just this is the only place where I know I can share something like this. Sophia Last edited by littlemiss2k : 05-13-2005 at 07:39 AM.

05-13-2005, 09:00 AM	#6
TXLoser Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 10,733 Gallery: TXLoser Stats: 354/248.5 WOE: LC Start Date: January 2004	Too bad you didn't say something to them in the language they were speaking so they knew you were aware -- but I guess that wouldn't help either but that was my first thought. Her being thin doesn't make her any better than you are. DO NOT let this get you down...prejudice against overweight people is everywhere but you know you are working on being healthier and that is what matters. Continue with your plan, hold your head high and you strut your stuff today. Sophia - 18 lbs in a month is a fantastic loss...be proud of what you have accomplished so far. __________________ Diane Last edited by TXLoser : 05-13-2005 at 09:02 AM.

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05-13-2005, 08:46 AM	#3
reitzell MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: San Diego, CA Posts: 1,813 Gallery: reitzell

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larryt MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Jacksonville Florida Posts: 1,586 Gallery: larryt Stats: 205/188.5/179 WOE: organic Start Date: 12/01/02	That sticks and stones rhyme is a sham. Words really do hurt. Sorry. Larry

05-13-2005, 08:58 AM	#5
Lehgrad MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Boston Posts: 2,017 Gallery: Lehgrad Stats: 170/141/135, 5'5" WOE: IR Diet Start Date: June '04	That was so rude. Even if I didn't think that someone was listening to me I would never say that about anyone. That just goes to show how shallow and self centered this girl is. So, you may not be as slim as she, but you sure are a much better person. I have just come to realize just how important that is. Keep up with your diet and you will be where you want to be in no time. Though, it is tough to have to keep up with a diet, losing weight is fun! Please don't get discouraged from hearing that. Don't forget, also, it is all about perspective. I'm sure there are people out there who would love to be at the weight you are at and think you look great as is.

05-13-2005, 09:48 AM	#7
IwillCHANGE Guest Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 128 Gallery: IwillCHANGE WOE: m is for moderation	SOPHIA and congrats on your wonderful loss i know it hurts so bad these words, i encounter them too often. and i really wish to god that i'm a stone or some lifeless thing sometimes, so i won't feel the hurt. or that i can be strong enough to not feel hurt. but the truth is, i am me. and those words do twist the knife. but then i have to think.. those people who say hurtful hateful things. they don't love me. they don't care about my growth or success. they are just inconsiderate and miserable people who need to lash out from time to time to feel good about themselves. because truely kind and considerate people (the one you would want to care and care about you) will not say these things. maybe it's just ignorance. maybe it's just carelessness. but in the end, we don't want to be involve with these people anyway. avoid them like plague, my good friend used to say. u were just unlucky that u heard those words. but please don't let their words determine your worth and destroy your good feelings.

05-13-2005, 10:49 AM	#8
JoyPaige Senior LCF Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Behind you. Posts: 147 Gallery: JoyPaige Stats: Blah/Blah/Blah WOE: Taking suggestions. Start Date: Next Monday for SURE!	Sophia, I am sorry your feelings were hurt. I have had this happen on several occassions: where thin people (family, friends, even perfect strangers) have described me as "fat", either directly or indirectly. It would hurt. It would be embarrassing. But I overcame that by realizing that they were right. Rude, but right. I AM fat! I mean, call it what it is, right? But I don't HAVE to be fat, and only I can control that. Only I can control how "they" make me feel, too. Chin up, Sophia. Rest in the knowledge that one day you'll show them.

05-13-2005, 01:24 PM	#10
USMCmom Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Texas Posts: 3,149 Gallery: USMCmom Stats: size 14/10/8 WOE: stop eating so much Start Date: 2/2003	Sophia I'm sorry. There are some really cold and inconsiderate people in this world. Shame on that girl for saying that. She has the problem, not you. You have done very well by losing 18 lbs so far. Keep up the good work and when you get to your goal, nice and thin, vow to never make the mistake that girl made. Look at it this way, unpleasant things happen to us which actually make us stronger. Words do hurt most people but let it make you stronger, not insecure. Have a nice weekend!

05-13-2005, 01:39 PM	#11
Bubbles Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Live Free or Die Baby!!!!! Posts: 10,100 Gallery: Bubbles Stats: 140 lbs of flabby fun WOE: All the time Start Date: Feb 2003	What a couple of pigs! I can never understand how someone can say something so nasty to another person. Your weight loss is something to be proud of Sophia, do not let a few bad apples spoil your day. BIG HUGS!

05-26-2005, 11:58 AM	#13
BAMA-GAL-60 Guest Join Date: May 2005 Location: Alabama Posts: 354 Gallery: BAMA-GAL-60 Stats: start-325-current 225- goal 150 WOE: Atkins Start Date: Nov. 2000	Try not to let it bother you to much Sophia. I once met a simialar incident over 5 years ago about being critized about my weight but I was determined to stick to my low carb and lose it no matter what others said about me being fat and I know you can do it to. Some people are really rude to others who are not like they are and it feel that its those people who are missing out on the best part of life by not knowing or caring about others who are different. They don't know a beautiful person when they see one because they are so self-centered. Just tell yourself that you don't care what others say and go on like you were and be proud of the weight you have lost and and of yourself and remember that you are Gods child and He is with you every moment of the day and will pick you up when you fall down. If you need a friend just PM mail me ok and i will write you back.

05-26-2005, 01:43 PM	#14
FitinCO MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Denver, Colorado Posts: 1,679 Gallery: FitinCO Stats: 270/220/125 WOE: Atkins Start Date: Dec 2, 2003	I'm sorry that happened to you. hug

05-29-2005, 10:18 AM	#15
Toridoll2004 MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Richmond, VA Posts: 2,007 Gallery: Toridoll2004 Stats: 314.5/308/110 WOE: my own thing	I'm sorry this happened to you and just know you are a beautiful person. Be proud of yourself. Forget them. They are losers. I do know how you feel though. Before I started a weight loss plan I had two teenage boys moo at me like a cow in front of all this people in the grocery store. But they are losers too. So screw'em.

05-29-2005, 12:46 PM	#16
rosyposy Senior LCF Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Derbyshire, UK Posts: 604 Gallery: rosyposy Stats: 5' 3" 221/204/120 WOE: EFGT Start Date: Restart: 26 November 2007	You've lost well over a stone - which is a fantastic achievement. You will achieve your goal, but she'll always be rude. You're right, they have no idea what it's like to battle with food and to be unhappy with your body. You do know, and you are fighting that battle and winning. Don't let them and their ignorance destroy what you have accomplished so far, or what you will accomplish in the future

05-31-2005, 08:45 AM	#17
Mimosa23 Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: State of perpetual confusion! Posts: 3,807 Gallery: Mimosa23 WOE: High fat/ mediterranean diet	So sorry that this has happened to you! Some people are just so quick to judge. You have done incredibly well so far, don't let their simplemindedness ruin your progress! Sophia, if you want a nice non judgemental support group, come join us on the Challenge Boards. We start a weekly new thread every Monday, and post daily to encourage eachother and just catch up and stuff. We'd love for you to join us! Here's the link to this week's thread: uk/europe w/c 30th May

05-31-2005, 11:12 AM	#18
Sue1975 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 388 Gallery: Sue1975 Stats: 261/170.5/117 WOE: Atkins Start Date: March 11, 2005	Sorry about that.....I guess there are always people out to take your sunshine away. You hang on to it.

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letmesee130 Senior LCF Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Pa Posts: 232 Gallery: letmesee130 Stats: 217/217/130 Start Date: December 30	some people are so ignorant~!