Hubby doesn't come to church with us

rachel2writer · 04-18-2005, 02:35 PM

Not that he doesn't want to, but hubbie works long weekends, from 8 am to 7:30 or 8 pm both Saturday and Sunday. He can't come to church with us except rarely (he managed to get out early Easter Saturday so we could attend together than night). Any advice on how to deal with this? I guess I just feel weird taking my girls to church every week, but never being able to talk about the message with DH, etc. I want to live our lives and raise our kids according to God's plan, but it's hard when DH is not really involved in church. We don't really talk about our faith in detail, either. I know he would come with us if he wasn't working, and he really loves his job. No, he can't work different hours. His business is primarily weekend based, so there isn't another choice.
How do you deal with having a SO who either doesn't or can't go to church/synagogue/etc with you? How do you handle faith and religious questions with your kids?

godsbeloved79 · 04-18-2005, 02:52 PM

My advice would be to PRAY and ask GOD to give your husband more free time to go to church with his family. One thing that is a blessing is that he wants to go, BUT he has to work. Many husbands don't want to go at all and they have the time to go. Look at it on that note and I think you will feel much better about the situation.

Fizgig · 04-18-2005, 02:55 PM

I don't belong to a church, but a lot of people I know attend weeknight Bible studies. Maybe your church has something like that available, and you and your husband could go together.

Gini · 04-18-2005, 06:57 PM

Does your church tape/record the sermons?

Do you have a Wednesday night or mid-week service? Youth group can be great for the kids, and I just love our Wednesday night service.

Friends church has a Saturday evening service in addition to Sunday am. You could look in your area.

BigRed · 04-18-2005, 07:30 PM

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Originally Posted by rachel2writer

Any advice on how to deal with this?

We don't really talk about our faith in detail, either.

First, talk to him. Ask him about it.
Most churches that I have ever been involved with have had Wednesday night services (some also share the wednesday night dinner as a fellowship before the bible study.)
Catholic churches that I have been involved with have had mass several times a week, including M-F early 7am and 8am.

BUT most importantly TALK TO HIM about it. I am assuming he believes in God so Perhaps he didn't feel as comfortable with the church you attend as you do. Perhaps he would be willing to check out some other churches. Are you of the same faith? Perhaps that is it. But all of the questions can only be answered by him.

Bubbles · 04-19-2005, 06:10 PM

Does he want to go or do YOU want him to go? If the poor guy has to work weekends then that is just the way it is. Can you not take a bible class during the week together? I am Catholic and my church holds mass daily. Are there larger churches in your area the may hold mid week services?

rachel2writer · 04-20-2005, 09:03 AM

Thanks everyone for your advice. We DO have services the first Wednesday of each month, and date night every other month (where they provide childcare, couples go out alone for dinner, and then meet back at church for coffee and fellowship). We will just make do with getting there together when we can!

CarolynF · 04-20-2005, 11:11 AM

Hi..

Just another thought: I think it would be great to do your own family Bible Study with
the girls at home...After all, God made husbands the spiritual leaders of the family. I'm
sure everyone would get alot out of a family Bible Study..and Dad would get to lead
it..

That will show the girls that God is important to Dad..even though he can't go on Sundays..

But, of course, it's up to Dad..

Tell him the statistic that if a Dad goes to church, there is a 90 percent chance his
kids will..Since that is not possible, then he really needs to show the girls that
he loves God and believes his teachings..so THEY will continue to go to church..

srm · 04-20-2005, 12:35 PM

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Originally Posted by rachel2writer

Not that he doesn't want to, but hubbie works long weekends, from 8 am to 7:30 or 8 pm both Saturday and Sunday. He can't come to church with us except rarely (he managed to get out early Easter Saturday so we could attend together than night). Any advice on how to deal with this? I guess I just feel weird taking my girls to church every week, but never being able to talk about the message with DH, etc. I want to live our lives and raise our kids according to God's plan, but it's hard when DH is not really involved in church. We don't really talk about our faith in detail, either. I know he would come with us if he wasn't working, and he really loves his job. No, he can't work different hours. His business is primarily weekend based, so there isn't another choice.
How do you deal with having a SO who either doesn't or can't go to church/synagogue/etc with you? How do you handle faith and religious questions with your kids?

Can he adjust or change his career to make Sundays free?

04-18-2005, 02:35 PM	#1
rachel2writer Senior LCF Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 634 Gallery: rachel2writer	Hubby doesn't come to church with us Not that he doesn't want to, but hubbie works long weekends, from 8 am to 7:30 or 8 pm both Saturday and Sunday. He can't come to church with us except rarely (he managed to get out early Easter Saturday so we could attend together than night). Any advice on how to deal with this? I guess I just feel weird taking my girls to church every week, but never being able to talk about the message with DH, etc. I want to live our lives and raise our kids according to God's plan, but it's hard when DH is not really involved in church. We don't really talk about our faith in detail, either. I know he would come with us if he wasn't working, and he really loves his job. No, he can't work different hours. His business is primarily weekend based, so there isn't another choice. How do you deal with having a SO who either doesn't or can't go to church/synagogue/etc with you? How do you handle faith and religious questions with your kids? __________________ *Rach*

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04-18-2005, 02:52 PM	#2
godsbeloved79 Atkineer For Life Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Pompano Bch, FL Posts: 14,706 Gallery: godsbeloved79 Stats: 207/205.5/162 WOE: Atkins - Induction Start Date: 1/3/09	My advice would be to PRAY and ask GOD to give your husband more free time to go to church with his family. One thing that is a blessing is that he wants to go, BUT he has to work. Many husbands don't want to go at all and they have the time to go. Look at it on that note and I think you will feel much better about the situation.

04-18-2005, 02:55 PM	#3
Fizgig Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Space City Posts: 5,770 Gallery: Fizgig Stats: 5'7", usually 135-140 WOE: Moderation Start Date: It's just life	I don't belong to a church, but a lot of people I know attend weeknight Bible studies. Maybe your church has something like that available, and you and your husband could go together.

04-18-2005, 06:57 PM	#4
Gini MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Florida Posts: 2,753 Gallery: Gini WOE: Whole Foods Plan Start Date: June 2003, Jan 1 2005 Challenge	Does your church tape/record the sermons? Do you have a Wednesday night or mid-week service? Youth group can be great for the kids, and I just love our Wednesday night service. Friends church has a Saturday evening service in addition to Sunday am. You could look in your area.

04-19-2005, 06:10 PM	#6
Bubbles Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Live Free or Die Baby!!!!! Posts: 10,100 Gallery: Bubbles Stats: 140 lbs of flabby fun WOE: All the time Start Date: Feb 2003	Does he want to go or do YOU want him to go? If the poor guy has to work weekends then that is just the way it is. Can you not take a bible class during the week together? I am Catholic and my church holds mass daily. Are there larger churches in your area the may hold mid week services?

04-20-2005, 09:03 AM	#7
rachel2writer Senior LCF Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 634 Gallery: rachel2writer	Thanks everyone for your advice. We DO have services the first Wednesday of each month, and date night every other month (where they provide childcare, couples go out alone for dinner, and then meet back at church for coffee and fellowship). We will just make do with getting there together when we can!

04-20-2005, 11:11 AM	#8
CarolynF Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Kansas Posts: 20,522 Gallery: CarolynF Stats: 195/150/139 WOE: Eat Fat, Get Thin/I Can Make You Thin Start Date: January 2001	Hi.. Just another thought: I think it would be great to do your own family Bible Study with the girls at home...After all, God made husbands the spiritual leaders of the family. I'm sure everyone would get alot out of a family Bible Study..and Dad would get to lead it.. That will show the girls that God is important to Dad..even though he can't go on Sundays.. But, of course, it's up to Dad.. Tell him the statistic that if a Dad goes to church, there is a 90 percent chance his kids will..Since that is not possible, then he really needs to show the girls that he loves God and believes his teachings..so THEY will continue to go to church..