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tammy4262 11-17-2012 09:24 AM

Time to stop crying?
 
Hi all
I am back and will try my best to be more active in this group I am 43 married with 3 Adult childern my husband works away from home and is not here very often I am very over wieght and my body hurts because of it
I need to loss 200 pounds. I cant do this on my own so I hope this group can give me the extra push i need I know it will be a lot of hard work on my account and I am willing to give it my all I have lost weight 82 pounds in the past yup put it back on and some extra. I sit and cry because I am lonely and Depressed and do not like who I have let myself become.
This it my day to turn myself around and make changes to my kife that I can follow I hope to make many friends here and help anyone who needs my support something I dont have at home. well here goes its about me now.:shake: please follow me and do this together. I am from Manitoba Canada.

trishthedish 11-17-2012 11:38 AM

:welcome:

Tammy, I have learned more about proper nutrition and the psychological contributors to my morbid obesity on this site than any other resource. Come often, read often, post often.:hugs:

Leo41 11-17-2012 11:58 AM

Hi Tammy-

As you can see from my stats, I've done it--and I was post-menopausal at the time, so it was tough. So don't wait like I did--do it NOW.

In my experience, weight loss is 95% 'mental.' We have to believe that those foods are killing us and responsible for all those aches and pains. I began seriously because I was finally so big that I was uncomfortable in my body. I had no goal other than to lose enough weight to feel better.

I never believed I would get to a 'normal' size because I've been morbidly obese since childhood. But as I began to lose and feel better, I also began to see food differently--less as a 'temptation' and more as a 'danger.'

I've been maintaining for almost 2 years, but I am not 'cured' of my food issues. Like any alcoholic, I'm simply in recovery, and I need to take it one day at a time. Weight management will be a lifetime challenge for me--but it's WORTH every effort.

I hope you stay with us for encouragement and support. Losing weight is the best gift you can give yourself. And you can do it!

luckyme 11-17-2012 03:28 PM

Welcome! Welcome!

tammy4262 11-17-2012 08:31 PM

Thank you

Z 11-18-2012 09:27 PM

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Originally Posted by tammy4262 (Post 16084509)
Hi all
I am back and will try my best to be more active in this group I am 43 married with 3 Adult childern my husband works away from home and is not here very often I am very over wieght and my body hurts because of it
I need to loss 200 pounds. I cant do this on my own so I hope this group can give me the extra push i need I know it will be a lot of hard work on my account and I am willing to give it my all I have lost weight 82 pounds in the past yup put it back on and some extra. I sit and cry because I am lonely and Depressed and do not like who I have let myself become.
This it my day to turn myself around and make changes to my kife that I can follow I hope to make many friends here and help anyone who needs my support something I dont have at home. well here goes its about me now.:shake: please follow me and do this together. I am from Manitoba Canada.

I can definitely relate to your story, because it sounds a lot like my story.

I'm 36, married with 2 adult children (don't dwell on the math, too much, I got my family ready-made). I'm on the border of Class IV obesity, and my body hurts because of it. I'm living 1,205 miles, 184 feet, and 9.6 inches from home in order to take a work opportunity. I don't know anyone here, and I miss my family very much. I am lonely, and I often struggle with depression. I spend my non-work days sitting in an empty room by myself. No matter how I run the math, or what adjustments I make, I won't be able to afford to move my wife down until February.

When I started low carb 10 weeks ago, I needed to lose 189 pounds. I'm not going to pretend like I've got some story of dramatic transformation, but I have whittled that number down to 158 pounds to lose (from 344.6 down to 313).

A mere 31.6 pounds... a good start, but nothing more. I'll have to wait to write my weight loss book - unless I want to call it "How to Lose 16.7% of Your Unwanted Bodyweight").

And yet, 31.6 pounds is already making the difference in my health. I'm moving around more and I'm finding it easier to become motivated to get out and do something.

about a month ago, my 4x bowling shirt fit again. And now it's starting to get a little big on me. I went shopping for work clothes and had to purchase a 3x shirt (though to be fair, it's a 3x from the Big and Tall, which is a dash bigger than a regular 3x).

That feeling is better than any carbohydrate you might choose to name. A sense of progress towards the goal. It happens quickly - in hindsight at least.

You are not alone.

You've done this before, so you already know that there's going to be some hard times in the first few weeks, but we are here for you. I found, getting started, that I needed to eat nearly twice as much meat to compensate for the carbs I wasn't eating.

Don't starve yourself in an effort to rush things along. Hunger doesn't cause weight loss - a functioning metabolism does. Eat to the point of satiety - even if it seems like an insane amount of food. Hunger is the enemy. Read every label, and remember that there's no such thing as a free carb. You have to be careful with vegetables, because they'll put you right over the top - but DO take advantage of subtracting your fiber from the carb count.

Know your plan, and follow it to the letter. Two carb binges spaced just right can ruin an entire month (I've got the graph to prove it). Know your weaknesses, and find a way to avoid it. Commit to success.

Low carb works best when you forget everything you know. Whole wheat is bad. Oatmeal is bad. Carrots are bad. Butter is good. Bacon and eggs are good. Heavy cream is good. Ham? Trick question - read the label. Most ham has sugar. but some ham doesn't. In fact, read all the labels. You'll find carbs in the craziest places.

Whatever approach you use to make your way back to where you want to be, health wise, find ways to celebrate your new way of life. Revel in those foods you love. Obviously, inception doesn't count, but if you make every day of your diet a punishment and a struggle, you'll never have a chance to replenish your willpower. So love the foods you can eat. And don't dwell on the ones you cannot.

I look forward to seeing your progress!

Welcome back. :cool:

greybb1 11-19-2012 03:33 PM

Hi Tammy! During my "girls" vacation with my sister (equally overweight if not more than me) to Florida in Sept. 2011, I finally said "NO MORE!" and as soon as I got home, I changed the way I eat.

I follow a higher-carb low-carb diet, meaning I do roughly 100 carbs or less a day. I managed to do this by cutting out all sugar, rice, potatoes and dairy. (except cheese and sour cream) I also quit drinking alcohol, which wasn't a big deal for me because I didn't drink much anyway.

It was tough at first, but just like anything else, it's become a habit. Have I cheated? At first yes. After 20 pounds I went sugar crazy and gained almost all of the 20 back. But I jerked a knot in my tail (my mother used to say that lol) and cut all that out.

I finally decided that slow and steady wins the race for me. I'm not posting dramatic weight loss numbers like a lot of people do, but I figure it took me 54 years to get this fat, it's gonna take me some time to lose it. So I average about 5 pounds a month. Some months I lose more, some months I lose less. I just finally broke a 2 month plateau!

I've lost about 60 pounds so far this year, about 80 total from Sept of 2011. I've gone from a size 26 to a loose 20. Every day I see something that has changed on my body. Some good, some not so good. LOL My arms look like Dumbo's ears. :rofl:

I haven't suffered or gone hungry. I haven't really been tempted in the last few months. I've pretty much settled into a routing of about 5 things I like to eat that are easy to fix and I just rotate through them, eating the leftovers for lunch. And I do love my sugar-free ice cream for a snack! For the first time in my life I don't really think about food much at all.

I've gone through some hardships in this last year, I lost my job, then started a new job and my dear friend committed suicide in my garage while I was out of town in September. I've had some happy times, too. Most notably a 4th of July family vacation at our favorite resort. :) Through it all I was determined that it would not set me back and it didn't.

You can do it, really you can! Find something that works for you and do it. Spend time here and check out "THE PLAYGROUND" group on this board for lots of non-weightloss conversation.

You're not alone in this Tammy! Whether you're going up or down on the scales you'll find support here. :high5:

ladyinlove56 11-19-2012 05:05 PM

Hello Tammy....glad I saw your thread as I am starting again...I know that I have gained the most I have ever gained over the last year due to stress and being home now that I am retired...I use to move my body more and now I do alot of craft projects that I sit at so I have to get myself back into moving....I am ready...I have done low carb and I love it...it does work and it really helps when you have alot of encourgement from others on this site..Hope to join you...

debkeversole 11-19-2012 05:11 PM

:hiya::hiya::hiya:

ladyinlove56 11-19-2012 05:35 PM

Hello everyone....

This is my plan:
Food journal
Keep my water intake up ...add fresh cucumber slices....refreshing taste..
Start my body moving....walking in the mornings early..
Keep working on my craft projects to keep my hands busy...I dont snack when I work on them...
Love to read...lots of books...
Plan for holiday menu changes I will make for myself as a goal...

When I am down...I pray....so now God knows that I am starting this new journey so I am ready to go....
Have a great evening all.....

ladyinlove56 11-20-2012 07:47 AM

Goodmorning,
Weighed this morning and the scales smiled so I have a smile:) ...will not change stats until end of month ...you know how scales love you morning and the next..mmmmm make you want cry :( 232.4

Bacon with a touch of vegetable garden creamcheese rolls.
Egg salad...

Dinner ...grilled chicken with garlic/Mrs Dash
green salad/ranch
steamed summer squash
Ice tea...sweet and low and water all day
Sewing cloth Christmas books to keep busy...

Trying to keep my day planned to help me keep on track ....
Hope everyone has a wonderful day...

sya_unit 11-23-2012 08:23 PM

Hey Tammy,

I just wanted to say Hi and that we are here for you. Hugs! You can do it!!

Tami

cindym 11-24-2012 06:14 PM

:welcome: Tammy ~ I'm also from Canada.

There are some great people on this board with lots of excellent advice.

My two cents is slow and steady wins the race and allows your body and mind to get in sync and if you cheat ... get back in the saddle as quickly as possible.

I have also found some great journals on this site.

Big Stevie 11-26-2012 03:50 PM

Welcome. You can do this. Just stick with the plan and don't let yourself get hungry.

MaryMary 12-22-2012 11:39 AM

Hi Tammy,
I have been where you are and started with Atkins in 2001. About two years into it, i had lost 100 lbs, but realized I needed a little more structure, so I found a structured low carb plan, with lots of low carb vegetables, proteins, fats and I keep away from alocohol, sugar, grains, starchy vegetables and dairy (lactose intolerant). I weigh my portions to make sure I eat enough of the vegetables and not too much of the proteins. I could easily be a protein addict.

This year someone on LCFs suggested using ****** to log in my meals to see where it was all shaking out. Doing that helped me tweak a few things to lose some weight that had creeped back on after I was down to 150 lbs. Thankfully, I listened and am almost back there.

It does take vigilance and a commitment to a new, healthier you. I write down what I am going to have in the morning so I have a plan for the day, and that's what I eat. I had always heard that failing to plan was planning to fail. And that is true for me.

Be patient. I am in agreement that slow and steady wins the race and creates a whole new life for you. I lose about a lb a week and get to eat 3 beautiful meals a day. Today I am 64 yrs old and am walking at least 10,000 steps a day. When I was 376 lbs, I could barely get off the couch. I missed a lot of years of my kids childhood. Not any more. I stopped making excuses and have support groups here, on facebook and live meetings that I can attend as well as phone meetings. All free.

It helps me to help you, because it helps me to stay the course. Serving others helps me to get out of my own head. I wouldn't trade my life today for anything. And it all started here on LCFs.

thealything 01-16-2013 05:06 PM

Tammy, how's it going?

anglgrl 01-20-2013 10:25 AM

Welcome, Tammy!
You're not alone. There are people here who understand what you're going through.:hugs:


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