Husband Health Rant.......

hey nic

my wife had (prolly has a lot still) of those moments with me with my drinking. She basically just threw her arms up in the air one day and yelled at me "you're drinking yourself to death!!" It kind of made me step back and take a moment.

For me, even tho I know there's things I shouldn't do, I'm still too short sighted to relealize the long term effects. All I can offer is that if you've tried brute strength and it hasn't worked, maybe play the guilt card about "don't you want to be around for your grand kids", or just try some trickery and nudge him in certain aspects of his life towards more exercise and better diet.

Sorry you're having the problems. I struggle every day. I just need to see the long term effects right in my face ALL the time as a deterrent.

Good luck

In a lot of support groups such as Al-Anon(AA), the motto is handing the "alcoholic" over to God. They support each other in being able to let go of the anger, remorse, fear, hatred, and sorrow trying to help the alcoholic brings. They are reminded every meeting that they cannot cure this disease nor can they prevent it. It's a tremendous battle to admit that you cannot stop the people you love from harming themselves and hand them over to God's will. This can totally apply to your husbands health situation. Sometimes actually explaining all this to an alcoholic makes them aware that they are potentially losing somebody or that their loved ones have given up trying for them, which isn't the case, but they actually make steps to improve themselves and realize the support they are given! Try saying this stuff to him and see what you get for a response and if nothing else, try to hand him over to God and not stress yourself about his habits. All it does is dissolve love. Hopefully you'll find the handy and hang in there. This can be the hardest thing somebody does, but in order to love him and show it, you must get rid of the boundary even if it's handing it over to a higher power!