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Old 03-03-2013, 07:39 PM   #181
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Mswoods eek that is scary and definately disturbing! I just subscribed to this thread because I to am in the same boat with drinking. I'm not a problem drinker, don't get crazy or irrational or into any trouble... But I drink pretty much on a daily basis. Sometimes is a glass or two of wine and sometimes I do rum and diet. Drinking has absolutely become my main hurdle because I eat pretty good even off plan but drinkin also makes me reach for the bag of chips ect...my husband is also in the same boat so sometimes when I have it under control he doesn't and vice versa. My goal was to stop drinking during the week, but I wanted to go 15 days since I am stating over with traditional atkins induction. However I already started a drink going with vodka diet coke on advice of another Lc friend. She says its the purest and ill get used to it, lol. Anyhow we are all in this together, it's nice to see an active thread with this kind of issue!
I stopped smoking 2 yrs ago but always had 4-6 drinks daily. Six months ago I switched from bourbon and coke to Miller Lite 2.6 grams can. In the last 2 months I dropped from 4 a day to 1. Keeping my carbs to under 20 for the most part, but still not losing much. Started induction 3 weeks ago and only have lost 3 lbs. Maybe I'm not totaling my carbs close enough. Ketosis only kicked in about 3 days ago. My last weight lose was a week ago. What am I doing wrong. Take paxil and diuretics so maybe thats stalling me. Glad to be here.
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Paxil slows down the metabolism. I took it 12 years ago and had to accept that it would just take longer. 10 years ago I switched to Wellbutrin and it works. But it does not recommend any alcohol as it can interfere with the effectiveness of the meds.
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Welcome Lindy!

I used to be able to lose weight and drink also.. and I still can to a certain extent if I track my calories and carbs and stay within my limit. I find that I am using wine (or whatever) instead of nourishing food.. I am not getting in my necessary protein and veggies and am having wine instead. That doesn't make sense for this 56 year old body that is on the verge of collapse. Right now my issues are structural (knees, back, feet).. but it's just a matter of time that more life threatening illnesses could occur if I don't shed some pounds and eat healthier consistently.

We are about to have a two day snow storm and I am NOT going to get any wine during my errand running.
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ACK! If you're getting a snow storm, that means it's coming our way shortly thereafter. I'm so sick of this winter! Good for you for not shopping for wine pre-storm. I don't think I'd be strong enough to do that, knowing I'd be at home and snow-bound for a while. Hopefully this storm isn't going to be a bad one.

I hear you about being in your 50's and having "structural issues." I just bought some Glucosamine and Chondroitin and I'm about to start taking 2 pills per day, as recommended. I hope they help me with my joint issues. I am supposed to be taking generic Fosamax and can't find where I stashed the over-stock I had. I don't take it weekly the way I should. Guess I'll just order some more, if it's not expired by now.

Lindy, it's impossible to give helpful hints on what might be keeping you from losing without seeing a detailed list of what you're eating and drinking and all that jazz. I'm on antidepressants and other things but can lose when I put my mind to it. WTG on cutting back to one drink a day!
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CherylB, thanks for replying to this....Ilive in NW Louisiana and it's in the 70's almost all the time now... Almost never any snow.. Of course, it's hell in August. Over 100 for weeks at a time...

For my eating habits:
Usually salads, lunch meats, low carb tortillas, some zuchinni, eggs, cream, Dr. Pepper 10 which has 3 gr...I try to stay below 20 gr. I've been reading about Fat bombs but haven't tried them yet. Do they work?
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I've never tried one. They sound pretty gross, if you ask me. Some people swear by coconut oil. If I had to guess, I'd say the tortillas are slowing you down, and maybe the Dr Pepper. For some reason, diet soda can sometimes mess you up. Anyway you can go without it for a few days and see if things improve on the scale?

The lunch meats can be iffy, too. Watch the types you choose and avoid the ones that have fillers and maybe excessive sodium. I hope that helps you.

Yeah, it's hell where you live in the heat of the summer! I can't do the south east USA as a place to live year-round. I'd die. It was bad enough around San Antonio. I couldn't believe how humid it was down there. It's humid in the summer here too, but we go through uncomfortable "weeks" as opposed to months.
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I've never tried one. They sound pretty gross, if you ask me. Some people swear by coconut oil. If I had to guess, I'd say the tortillas are slowing you down, and maybe the Dr Pepper. For some reason, diet soda can sometimes mess you up. Anyway you can go without it for a few days and see if things improve on the scale?

The lunch meats can be iffy, too. Watch the types you choose and avoid the ones that have fillers and maybe excessive sodium. I hope that helps you.

Yeah, it's hell where you live in the heat of the summer! I can't do the south east USA as a place to live year-round. I'd die. It was bad enough around San Antonio. I couldn't believe how humid it was down there. It's humid in the summer here too, but we go through uncomfortable "weeks" as opposed to months.
Yeah, thanks,CherylB, I'll try to omit the tortillas and have more lean meats. The Dr. Pepper 10 makes such a lovely Pepper float with HWC. I'll give them a miss for a while. Not losing much weight, but my spirits are great.. Love this site.
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I was going to mention coconut oil to Judy as well. They say it helps with all kinds of things including inflammation. I know I feel better when I include it as part of my daily diet. Kudos to you for not buying pre-storm wine. Snow storms are always a good excuse to indulge. I cannot even believe more snow is coming our way. Ugh
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I agree. That's the time when I stock-up, just so I know I'll be ready to hunker down. Speaking of hunkering down, here comes another dang storm in the next couple days. They won't commit to a forecast. Could be rain, could be significant amounts of snow. Here we go again.

Lindy, I don't know how much HWC you're using in those root beers, but cream will stall you too, if you have too much. It's a bummer but it's true.

I have the day off and plan to do a lot of housework. I started reading "Dry." It's brutally honest and very well-written. I'm even marking passages and underlining certain things he says cause they ring so true in my experience with drinking. I'm at the part where he's entering rehab. I won't tell too much in case any of the rest of you want to read it. So far it's very good.

Have a nice day, everyone. Wine is on the menu for me.
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Hi everyone, haven't posted here for a while. My mom was in town last week babysitting my kiddo's during winter break. She is LC too, and the one who told me about this site years ago. We browsed the Main Lobby, but I didn't want her to see me posting about my addiction problems. Same old, same old here. Some nights I drink more, some I drink less. I think the drinking is the reason I've been stalled since January. I want to lose 10 lbs before April 18th (my bday), and I think i"m gonna have to bite the bullet and put down the cocktail.

On a completely unrelated note, it was crazy here yesterday. We got a bunch of snow, combined with horrible winds and zero visibility, and it shut the county down. The interstate was closed from Denver to Vail a large portion of the day. There were wrecks everywhere, some involving 27 cars and a few semi's all at once. It was nuts!
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Wow! What a storm you had. Is it over now? The clean-up is the worst part of it all. Now it's coming our way and they don't know if the current system (that is blowing us to bits) will "sit and spin" a while longer or if it will move East. If it stays, your storm will pass more to the south of us. If it leaves, it will usher in what you just endured. Only time will tell.

I hope your Mom doesn't do a search for posts you've made on LCF. Would she be shocked if she knew about your drinking or don't you think she already has an idea? Sometimes we think we're so good at concealing it but that's the booze talking. If you've ever talked with her on the phone in the evening, I'm guessing she could hear it in your voice.

My oldest sister used to slur so badly on the phone. She had no idea how she sounded. We never do when we're in "that moment." If only we could each have a truly out-of-body experience when we've gone too far with the drink, so we could be a fly on the wall and see ourselves the way others see us, it might make our course of action a lot clearer.

Reading this book is really humbling me. So much of what he says strikes a chord. One time, I had to stop what I was reading and I just closed my eyes because it was like I was reading something I had written. I think it was this:

"It's Tuesday evening and I'm home. I've been home for 20 minutes and I am going through the mail. When I open a bill, it freaks me out. For some reason, I have trouble writing checks. I postpone this act until the last possible moment, usually once my account has gone into collection. It's not that I can't afford the bills- I can- It's that I panic when faced with responsibility."
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Old 03-05-2013, 07:24 AM   #193
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Hi all. I am here to get some accountability for myself. Tonight is date night so it will be a DD for me ( wine). I do want to say it and write however that the next 4 days are dry. I really want to walk the walk.

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Hey all – Happy Tuesday. We are in the middle of our snowstorm today and I’ll be using the day to catch up on work and some cooking, too. As much as I hate winter, I do like snow days where I am forced to stay home. In March I know that this is probably the last one and it’ll all melt soon.. and spring is just a little over two weeks away. It’s also beautiful to look at as I sit here in my house in the woods… at the kitchen table surveying the bird feeder and the wildlife that often treks through the woods in the back of my house.. That’s my “gratitude” moment for the day!!

I did not buy wine when I was out yesterday, but I decided that I need a little something to look forward to. So I bought a six-pack of Michelob Ultra beer.. 2.6 carbs a bottle.. and I never have more than 2. I can control beer because I am sick of it after 2. It’s also sort of filling which helps the before dinner snack-attack. Wine.. well, I enjoy it to the max and can keep going and going…

CherylB – I get what you mean about not realizing how drunk we are. Last August on my birthday I got kicked out of a casino.. First time something like that ever happened to me and I have been much drunker in casinos in Vegas! I nicely argued with the security guy that I was “fine”… but of course I wasn’t. I wasn’t stumbling around, but I am sure my speech was slurred. One of several wake-up calls over the last few months.

Leaving 30Something, I have a ˝ gallon tub of Organic Extra Virgin Coconut Oil, AND MCT oil sitting in my cupboard. Here’s my problem… I jump from one “form” of low carb/paleo to another. Every time I read about a book I just HAVE to have it and download it on my Kindle. So, I buy all the supplies that the author suggests. I play around with their philosophy. Then I cheat and gain the few pounds I lost. Then, I am off to another book/philosophy.. Repeat… Repeat. I use the coconut oil and MCT oil for cooking, salads and baking, but not just tablespoons of it as I’d do if I were on a ketogenic diet.

The latest books I read are: The Perfect Health Diet which is lower carb, but not very low carb.. It is more paleo-like and encourages safe starches like sweet potatoes and squash. For weight loss, the author says you need to have a calorie deficit no matter what.. and, that deficit needs to come out of fat intake. They believe that we must have about 100 carbs a day (the SAD is more like 300, so it is still lower carb) and a certain amount of protein based on our body weight. The rest is fat. They don’t believe ketosis is a good place to be in. The other one is: Diet 101-Low Carb Diets. The author says that we really only need to eat LC/High Fat if we have insulin resistance, pre-diabetes or diabetes. Otherwise, any plan will do as long as we eat healthfully and have a calorie deficit. I bought a glucometer and believe I am insulin resistant. My fasting number is just about the highest of the day no matter what I eat.. which means that my liver is secreting glucose during the early morning hours and my pancreas is secreting insulin to handle the glucose..but the insulin isn’t doing it’s job… I think that’s what that all means anyway..

Sorry for the rant.. thanks for reading!
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Welcome Stevie Renee! The only tips I can give you at this time is to figure out why you want to cut down on your drinking.. make a plan... maybe read one of the books out there. Be accountable and this thread is a good start. I can't say that posting here always helps me to achieve my alcohol related goals, but it helps to know that I am not the only one!
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15 days down, I wavered a bit on Saturday. I was feeling a bit stressed, and The kids were wild and for a moment I debated just giving in. I focused on how good I feel, how well I am sleeping, how much better my workouts are and how I am finally losing weight. I resisted and I am so thankful I did
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Hello to all,
Today is a good day for me. Still trying to find my place on which locarb I need to be on. Obviously, DADR '02 is maybe too much for me carbwise. I might try the '72 one for a while to get a kickstart.

Cheryl, OK..I'll nix the Dr Pepper 10 and curb the HWC, but I'm still going to have my one Miller Lite... Ha.
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Go, Stevie! You can do it. Enjoy your date night.

Dipgal, I like the way you think, regarding this latest snow event. It will indeed melt quickly and be history. I just keep thinking that winter has breathed its last and then it rears its ugly head again. :/

Kicked out of a casino!? Now that's "rowdy!" Not funny I guess, but to us drinkers, we can laugh about it. Why is it that we can be having so much fun under the influence but those around us can be so miserable? If we could "all just get along", there would BE no problem.

I hear ya in regard to gearing up for all the prep for a new diet (or hobby, etc) and then losing interest quickly with any friction and changing course. I guess that's our "instant gratification mentality." Addictions are us! I've done that over and over again with hobbies, like crocheting, cross-stitching, digital photography/videography and gold prospecting. Yes; gold prospecting. I used to watch a program about gold prospecting and I started researching and dreaming and planned to go panning in local rivers and places that have shown gold in the past. I got everything I needed and then never dipped the pan in the water. Somehow the dream is always what I'm after, not the results.

Does anyone else have similar stories? That would be really interesting to compare notes! I never could understand that part of me, but I do think the dream is almost always better than the reality. I think that's why I just lose interest before I can become disappointed and disillusioned.

Dipgal, I think the more diet books we read only take us in that many more directions. Ask 10 people how to lose weight and you'll get 10 different answers. I think the best way to lose weight is to consult ourselves! How do we want to eat? What turns us on? What can we live with and are unwilling to live without? I think that's what we need to figure out. And we're each so unique that it really doesn't matter which path we choose. Diabetes definitely complicates your situation, but as the weight comes off, you might not even BE diabetic anymore. Wouldn't that be wonderful?

Cyvamp, ! We're very proud of you for resisting the temptation and sticking to your plan. We know how hard it is to not give-in.

Lindy, I'm not trying to strangle your diet but just try to change one thing at a time and see which of the things is the reason you are stalling. If you stop everyone at once, you'll never know what was holding you back. Don't listen to me at all! What do I know? I'm not even dieting right now.

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I remember hearing, "my first reaction to life is to have a drink" and thought" my first reaction to life is to eat, stop at a restaurant, buy a treat at a drive through, but all food related, when I stopped drinking. Today, my first reaction to life is to take an action, whatever the next right action might be, read, pick up my house, go for a walk, talk to a friend, go onto LCF BB, send a friend a note, go out with my hubby, anything but over eat or drink. Those two actions always got me in trouble. Today, I try to keep food and alcohol in one hand and life in the other and not clap.

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I like that very much, Mary. Don't clap!
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I'm learning that I have to take this one day at a time. I know that I'll have setbacks on any journey. Cheryl, maybe I am trying too much at once. But it's a learning time in my life. Getting down to one beer a day wasn't easy. I did it once before and was so pleased but then one of my daughters gave me a beautiful bottle of eggnog at Christmas. Ha... That's all it took and I was back up to 4-6 bourbon and cokes a day. Sometimes more. This went on for over another year until Sept '12.

A little slip is very easy. One note that may help anyone planning a big night out. Before bed take 2 of the motion sick (generic Dramamine). Next morning, you will not have near the headache. It's not a magic pill, but it will help. On my way to bed, have a nice night.
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That's as simple as it is, and that's how insidious our condition. Why do we let a desire for a substance take so much "hold" of us? Is it a choice or is it beyond our control? I think therein lies the question; is it alcoholism or is it just a lack of control? Seems like it's one and the same to me.

I hate the term or label "alcoholic." It's sticks like old chewed up gum to the sole of your shoe. You can't get rid of it and did your really deserve it in the first place? I personally don't believe that alcoholism is a "disease" because diseases can't be acquired like that, unless it's AIDS and then it's through bodily secretions. That's why I could never fall down on my knees at an AA group and say, "My name is Cheryl and I'm an alcoholic." I don't want or deserve the label and I won't lower myself to something so inherently judgemental.

My name is Cheryl and I like to drink. I have been imbibing since around 12 years old and my life has been a botched up, complicated mess. I abuse substances as well as food. My addiction doesn't only lie in alcohol but in all things pleasurable. So I prefer to think of myself as simply "an addictive personality." Or someone who doesn't know "when to say when."

Good night, friends. It's almost 1:30 am here and I should be off the keyboard. Time to go to sleep and hopefully get a restful night's sleep. I hope we all have one!
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Wow! What a storm you had. Is it over now? The clean-up is the worst part of it all. Now it's coming our way and they don't know if the current system (that is blowing us to bits) will "sit and spin" a while longer or if it will move East. If it stays, your storm will pass more to the south of us. If it leaves, it will usher in what you just endured. Only time will tell.

I hope your Mom doesn't do a search for posts you've made on LCF. Would she be shocked if she knew about your drinking or don't you think she already has an idea? Sometimes we think we're so good at concealing it but that's the booze talking. If you've ever talked with her on the phone in the evening, I'm guessing she could hear it in your voice.

My oldest sister used to slur so badly on the phone. She had no idea how she sounded. We never do when we're in "that moment." If only we could each have a truly out-of-body experience when we've gone too far with the drink, so we could be a fly on the wall and see ourselves the way others see us, it might make our course of action a lot clearer.

Reading this book is really humbling me. So much of what he says strikes a chord. One time, I had to stop what I was reading and I just closed my eyes because it was like I was reading something I had written. I think it was this:

"It's Tuesday evening and I'm home. I've been home for 20 minutes and I am going through the mail. When I open a bill, it freaks me out. For some reason, I have trouble writing checks. I postpone this act until the last possible moment, usually once my account has gone into collection. It's not that I can't afford the bills- I can- It's that I panic when faced with responsibility."
The funny thing about my mom is she never drank while I was growing up, but she got remarried to someone who enjoys scotch and beer, and now she is always game to have a drink in the evening. She knows I drink, but has never said anything about it.

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Good morning everyone.
I woke up so happy today is a new day, and I have a plan. I want to live in a grateful state of mind, without alcohol this week. That is a very clear plan; the next 4 days of no drinking.

We are heading out Sunday to camp for 3 nights. I will have some drinks then but keep it light as we have kids all around us. Plus many parents do not drink so it makes it easier to keep it light.

Dipgal;
thank you for the plan tip. I appreciate it. I also thank you for your candor about the casino. Thank you.

Cyvamp,
15 days is fantastic! I love how you wrote how you felt. There is a clear headedness, better sleep, just an all around feeling better.

Lindy in Louisiana,
are you new to the world of low carb plans?

Cheryl,
I am in agreement with you about the label. I do not believe alcoholism is a disease. I know that is not always popular to say out loud.

Hi Snow dancer


I am hoping to start the plan Whole30 March 24th. A friend did it, survived it and looks amazing. I am almost 50and having premeno symptoms. The Whole30 is a fresh start to see what is causing some inflammation issues. Alcohol has to go.
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Well, I suppose this is as good of a place to confess as any: I fell off the wagon last night.

My boredom got to me and I decided one of my favorite activities (video games) would be a lot more entertaining if I drank with it. I started my first drink around 7:30PM (silver rum on the rocks - so low carb at least?). And finished my last around midnight. I went through just a little over half a fifth. Luckily I was so focused on my game I didn't have any chance to embarrass myself via drunk text messaging other than to tell my main group of friends good night (haha).

I never seem to make it past the 9 day hump. Though to my credit (maybe I'm just trying to justify falling back down), I surpassed urges on Sunday and Monday (triggered by boredom).

I enjoy this thread. We all seem to drink for different reasons, but the pattern seems to be simple: Some emotional trigger happens and our first response is to drink. (Or maybe it's not the first response, but it seems to end up there--I might be wrong, but it's the pattern I identified and I don't mean to impose it upon any of you). For me, the trigger is boredom. Need to find another/better coping mechanism.

Oh well, life happens. Starting fresh today.
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Old 03-06-2013, 10:34 AM   #207
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Just wanted to pop in, read the latest posts and offer hugs. I think I might not buy more wine for this week, since I'm going to be "wine-ding down" and beginning the Antabuse next Monday. It's time I gave it another shot, to see if it is something that I can tolerate. But if I start feeling really depressed again, I will have to give up on it once more. I can't afford to sink down into one of those never-ending valleys. It's no way to live.

I am enjoying the Dry book less now that he's in rehab. One thing that I wish I'd been aware of before buying the book is that the man is gay and in his brutal honesty he goes into much more detail than I'd really care to know about his life. I'm not judgemental but I do try to not leave my mind open to everything that is out there in this big, wide world. Anyway, those are just my thoughts and I thought I'd share them.

Got another damn snow/rain/wind storm upon us. It's going to last for several days before it plays itself out. I will need to be out in it this afternoon so I'm hoping it's not bad until I get back home. I can handle wind but driving rain? Not my favorite thing to be out in.

Have a nice day, everyone. Today is another day.
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Old 03-06-2013, 04:22 PM   #208
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Cheryl – I see a lot of me in your post from last night. About your question of whether it’s a choice or beyond our control.. I think that answer is different for everyone. I truly believe that some of us have it in our genes to be full blown alcoholics ( and at that time I do feel it is a disease – and I think that any connotation is our own belief and not necessarily a bad word) and if we are ever to lead a “normal” life, we probably need to abstain. For others of us, it truly is a choice and more often than not it is a habit (that is hard to break), and not a physical addiction.

I often say to my very good friends and DH, if I had the gene for alcoholism I would definitely be one. I definitely have a dependency, but it is emotional. I have the mistaken belief that alcohol equates to FUN. Sometimes it does, and it’s those times that I’d like to save it for. But for other times.. like right now.. I am sipping on a Michelob Ultra – 95 calories and 2.6 carbs.. I am not going to get tipsy since I need much more than that.. but, it is calming because I am satisfying my emotional need. I’ll have dinner in 30 minutes and will have stayed on plan.. but I will have had alcohol today - albeit very little. I do not feel deprived, which is key for me to stay happily on plan. I can tell you that if DH was still drinking (almost 40 days AF for him!) I’d still be trying to mix vodka with LC mixers and trying to fit it into my “plan”. I also abuse food (how else would I be 100 lbs overweight?)… and I like to gamble, but not to excess. I like to think of it as me just being a Fun-Lovin’ Gal.. but, it’s probably a bit more than that.. Cheryl - you beat me.. I didn’t try AL until I was 14!

To everyone else – I’m cheering for you!! You/we CAN do it. As I mentioned before, My Way Out is a great website… there are hypnotherapy CD’s, and of course books.

Hugs and blessings!!
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Old 03-06-2013, 04:50 PM   #209
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Thanks for the heads-up on that website. I'll have to go check it out when I'm done posting. I bought more wine and a 12 pack of beer tonight. I justified it because of the storm coming and I'll be stuck at home for a few days (most likely; not sure how bad the storm will get.) I was shocked at the total. $43! And the wine bottles were only $4 each (ultra cheap wine at Crazy Bruces.) The beer was $16 plus bottle deposits. But my jaw dropped and I said to the check-out lady, "This is an expensive habit."

I fully intend this to be my last alcohol purchase for a long time. Antabuse come Monday! Please, Lord. Let it be better for me this second time around. I need to stop spending all this money on booze, and I need to get this weight off of me. Amen.

I'm glad something I said last night made sense to someone! I was pretty tipsy. Looking forward to drying out next week.
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Old 03-06-2013, 07:19 PM   #210
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Good morning everyone.
I woke up so happy today is a new day, and I have a plan. I want to live in a grateful state of mind, without alcohol this week. That is a very clear plan; the next 4 days of no drinking.

We are heading out Sunday to camp for 3 nights. I will have some drinks then but keep it light as we have kids all around us. Plus many parents do not drink so it makes it easier to keep it light.

Dipgal;
thank you for the plan tip. I appreciate it. I also thank you for your candor about the casino. Thank you.

Cyvamp,
15 days is fantastic! I love how you wrote how you felt. There is a clear headedness, better sleep, just an all around feeling better.

Lindy in Louisiana,
are you new to the world of low carb plans?

Cheryl,
I am in agreement with you about the label. I do not believe alcoholism is a disease. I know that is not always popular to say out loud.

Hi Snow dancer


I am hoping to start the plan Whole30 March 24th. A friend did it, survived it and looks amazing. I am almost 50and having premeno symptoms. The Whole30 is a fresh start to see what is causing some inflammation issues. Alcohol has to go.
Hey Stevie,
Yes, I am new at this. I've been needing to start a long time ago, but didn't know about this site. Glad I'm not alone anymore.
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