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Big Yapper!!!!
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Babsy, you say that not drinking is so BORING. Well, really think about it. What do you actually DO when you drink? You talked about your husband drinking and then sleeping. That's all he does. That sounds BORING to me.
Why am I saying this? Well, you got used to doing everything with a drink. You have to learn how to do everything without a drink now. You'll find out, that you were lying to yourself (the addicted part). Drinking actually keeps you from doing so many things and truly enjoying them. Drinking keeps you boring. At first it is really hard. Then after time, you realize just how much you have missed out on. How truly enjoyable, every day things can be!!! You have the energy (and a clear mind) to relax and enjoy things. I wish you the VERY BEST!!!!!!!! ![]()
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Way too much time on my hands!
Join Date: May 2004
Location: somewhere over the rainbow
Posts: 15,846
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WOE: PersonalPlan
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I am betting there are online support communities like AA or the other one that was mentioned here. I'm just being honest with you Babsy, you MAY be able to simply "power" through this, but I think your chances of doing that at your level are slim and I believe you are rationalizing it.
You should try googling online AA support communities cuz I'm tellin ya right now. This is a weight loss board. We give support MAINLY for weight loss issues. I don't think many of us are prepared to cope with the amount of support one needs to overcome an alcohol or drug addiction. You will find in time that your threads with pleas for help will fall on mostly deaf ears or people will answer you and then unfairly laugh or ridicule behind your back because they simply aren't equipped and fairly, it isn't THEIR battle. I'm not trying to sound mean, simply trying to let you see that what you are doing is a real thing and a tough battle. But you deserve to get clean! You deserve to do this. You deserve to live a healthy and happy life. Do whatever it takes to do that! I was very much like Fawn a couple of years ago. Then my health started deteriorating badly. I quit and resented it. For a while I was really angry and finally was able to work through the feelings. It took a long while. Today I have a couple of glasses of wine only on special occasions and sometimes not even then. And no. Weekends are not special occasions. I don't think everyone can do this. I may not have been an alcoholic but I was an abusive drinker, especially in my 20s and 30s. As to what I do to replace the booze? I live. I live a normal life. I do normal things in the evening. I talk with Denny, I cook dinner. I clean the kitchen. I prepare for the next day. I read. I watch TV. Health permitting, I will go out into the garden or backyard (I wish I could walk but that's the next step). I work on craft projects time permitting. I take joy in life and in the little things. That's all. There is no magic bullet or pill or drink that transforms everyday, mundane life. But everyday life doesn't have to be mundane. Simply "being" is sometimes just lovely! No drama. No crisis. It's not boring to me. There are groups and activities out there but I'm not much of a group person. Maybe you are? Go DO it! As NIKE says, "Just Do It"! Life is too short girl! and google support forums today, ok?!
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Way too much time on my hands!
Join Date: Sep 2003
Location: Southeastern Coastal SC
Posts: 11,421
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WOE: Atkins Maintenance
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Babsy, you said the closest one to you is in Dallas which is too far. None of these other ones are at all close to you? Please call the # and find out, there may be meetings closer to you. Just call. Or else I will, just to find out. Doesn't hurt to ask
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***************** 11.04.08 ***************** It's ATKINS, not ADKINS!!!!!!!!! It's not a DIET!! Since I'm not on a diet, I can't go off of it 213.5/137/140, 160 original goal, Maintenance Size 22/4-6-8/8 5'5", Age 36 Started 5/23/03 "YES, YOU CAN!"- Teresa Tapp
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Way too much time on my hands!
Join Date: May 2004
Location: somewhere over the rainbow
Posts: 15,846
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WOE: PersonalPlan
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Allie I'm guessin they don't have alcoholics in Plano or McKinney. It's too "chi chi" of an area!
McKinney Texas is north of Dallas about 45mintes to an hour maybe. It's on I-75 toward Sherman TX.Last edited by pooticus : 05-09-2008 at 06:50 AM. |
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Way too much time on my hands!
Join Date: Sep 2003
Location: Southeastern Coastal SC
Posts: 11,421
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Stats: 213.5/137/140
WOE: Atkins Maintenance
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I am just sure there is a group in Baby's area that can help her
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Junior LCF Member
Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: Work in Manhattan. Live in Forest Hills, Queens
Posts: 18
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Stats: 174/164/160 - Body Fat 10%. Height 5'10"
WOE: Atkins
Start Date: 11/1/07
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Social Distortion
Kinderhore,
Great advice you have proffered. By the way, I am impressed that you are a Social Distortion fan. I have hung out with Mike Ness after a show once and he was a genuinely good guy. The simple fact of the matter is that alcohol will severly hamper your weight loss efforts. The precending is irrefutable. Living in NYC (and originally from New Orleans) I am intimately familar with the bar scene and the physical toll it takes on habitual nightcrawlers. While I am a frequent patron myself (trust me I am not above the fray) without question it has prevented me from obtaining the holy grail of physicality, namely the coveted six-pack. Cut back on the booze, you will feel and look better
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MAJOR LCF POSTER!
Join Date: May 2007
Location: Montreal
Posts: 2,156
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Stats: Goal+75/Goal+70!/Goal
WOE: Crack the Fat Code
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Way too much time on my hands!
Join Date: May 2004
Location: somewhere over the rainbow
Posts: 15,846
Gallery: pooticus
Stats: 314/268.4/150
WOE: PersonalPlan
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Plano and McKinney Resources
DRUG AND ALCOHOL ABUSE RESOURCES AL-ANON ODAAT – 1901 W. Parker Rd., Suites 201/213, Plano (972) 867-1115 Offers support groups for Adults/Teens who have an alcoholic family member or friend. Dallas Intergroup Association - Home Alcohol Anonymous Living Support Group: Reformed Church in Plano, 5333 Independence – Call for Meeting Schedule (972) 571-9676 Allen Narcotics Anonymous – 601 Greenville Ave., Allen, HELP-LINE! (972) 699-9306 Alliance Drug Testing Service—2600 K Ave., Ste 224, Plano, Tx 75074 (972) 578-5959 (MUST SET AN APPOINTMENT) Betty Ford Center Children’s Program – Seay Child Care Center of Presbyterian Hospital of Plano, Coord., Pam Newton – (972) 753-0552 Provides intervention and prevention services to children ages 7-12 yrs. A $400 fee is charged to this 4-day program for children affected by drug and/or alcohol abuse. However, no child is turned away for lack of funds. Scholarship assistance is available. Child & Family Guidance Center – 4031 W. Plano Pkwy, #211, Plano (972) 612-5989 Drug Assessment/Counseling – Monday thru Friday 8:00 am to 5:00 pm COLLIN CO. SUBSTANCE ABUSE PROGRAM – 825 N. McDonald, McKinney, Ste #110 (1/2 mile past Court House) (972) 424-1460 x5570 Drug assessments and testing are available. Contact Sabina Stern, Director Dallas Challenge, Inc., - 7777 Forest Lane, #B410, Dallas, TX – Drug/Alcohol and Addiction Information (972) 566-4680 DRUG TESTING / PDT-90 Personal Drug Test Hair Analysis – Tests for marijuana, cocaine, opiates, methamphetamines and PCP (angel dust). Detects drug use for the previous 2-3 day period and use within the previous 90-day period. Approximately $59.95 at Eckerd’s or Walgreen’s. You can also contact Psychemedics at 1-800-997-3890 for a test kit through the mail. Psychemedics Corporation | Superior Detection of Drug Abuse. The Patented Hair Analysis Method. Drug Test Your Teen – Kim Hildreth, 12801 Midway Rd., #212, Dallas, TX, 75244 (214) 797-8378; Stop Teen Drug Use - Home Drug Testing Kits - Teen Drug Test - Drug Test Strips Families Anonymous – Support for those affected by the destructive behavior of a family member caused by drugs/alcohol/emotional problems. (972) 540-1945 & (972) 562-5111 – McKinney Group – Meets Tues., @7:00 pm, Our Savior Lutheran, 2708 W. Virginia Pkwy, McKinney (thru Old Sanctuary) Greater Dallas Council on Alcohol & Drug Abuse –4525 Lemmon Avenue, Ste 300, Dallas, Texas 75219 (214) 522-8600. GDCADA | Greater Dallas Council on Alcohol & Drug Abuse Imagine Program – 1947 Avenue K, Ste 125, Bld B, Plano, 75074 – Dir. Jim Savage, LCDC – (972) 423-6007Adolescent Svcs: An intensive outpatient treatment program for youth (13-20). Designed for substance abuse and clients with a psychiatric diagnosis. "Imagine Program is changing the face of adolescent substance abuse treatment" Mental Healthcare Concepts – 2321 Coit Road, Suite D. Plano, TX 75075 (972) 964-7730 Provides After-Care for those re-entering the community after drug/alcohol treatment. NAR-ANON – Disciples Christian Church, 2001 Independence Pkwy, Plano, Texas (972) 596-3212 Relocate NARCONON—35059 Bend Road, Denham Springs, La 70706—(866) 422-4650 or (225) 243-5047. Drug Rehab center that has a 76% success rate backed by a solid guarantee. If any student of this program has any difficulty within six months of the program completion, they will re-admit them at no cost. Narconon Drug Rehab for Abuse & Addiction National Drug & Alcohol Treatment Referral Routing System, U.S. Dept. of Health & Human Services – 1-800-662-4357 Government Agency: Provides information on treatment centers, who they serve, and what they provide. Welcome to NIAAA NEXUS Recovery Center, Inc. – Sliding Scale/North Star participant – Director Beverly Carroll (214) 321-0156 x3118 (60-90 day Out-Patient) 8733 Laprada, Dallas, TX (60-day Intensive Outpatient & 70-day Supportive Outpatient) 2519 Oaklawn, Dallas Shoreline After-Care –Call Plano office for meeting schedule. 2600 Ave. K, #232 , Robert Eakins 1-800-628-3265 St. Joseph’s Adolescent & Family Services (CATHOLIC CHARITIES) –4500 W. Davis St., Dallas, 75211 – (214) 623-9976 fax (214) 623-9647 . A NORTH STAR PROJECT; Provides Supportive Out-Patient Care; Intensive Out-Patient Care; U.A. Drug Assessment; Psychological Testing and Extensive U.A. Testing: BASC (Behavioral Assessment Scale for Children) English/Spanish counselors for adolescents/family. Sliding Scale. No one is turned away. Sur-Scan Drug Testing- 2030 Ave G, Ste 110, Plano, Tx 75074 (972)633-1388 Open Monday thru Friday 9 am to 6 pm. Saturday from 10am to 1 pm. (No appointment necessary.) Turning Point Counseling Center – 1701 N. Greenville, #500, Richardson, Texas 75081 – Dir. Ron Deage (972) 234-8636 Fax (972)234-8639 Individual Family/Marital Counseling/ADHD/Blended Family – Outpatient Addiction Recovery Groups (Adults/Adolescents) Plan 21 Provider A Turning Point - Home Tough Love – Information and Meeting Locations throughout the Metroplex (Not a Crisis Line) (972) 4790428 Support group for parents whose families are being torn apart by unacceptable behavior of teenagers. Education, support, assistance and sharing are provided during times of crisis and to increase parenting skills. Tough Love is a support group for parents and not teenagers. www.toughlove.com Coming Soon! UNIVERSITY BEHAVIORAL HEALTH— 2026 West University Drive, Denton, Texas 76201(940) 320-8100 or (888)320-8101—Regional Mental Health & Chemical Dependency Care University Behavioral Health of Denton TX Also, you could call some places like Catholic Ministries and they should be able to refer you to a group in McKinney: Avenues Counseling Center (formerly McKinney Council on Substance Abuse) – 201 W. Louisiana, McKinney – (972) 562-9647 Specializes in adolescent, family, substance abuse and general counseling. A North Star Agency and sliding scale fee. T.A.P.P.S PROGRAM – Counseling services especially designed for Youth of Collin County CATHOLIC CHARITIES COUNSELING –3725 Blackburn Street, Dallas, Texas 75219 (214)520-6590 Professional individual, family and marital counseling/therapy based on ability to pay. (Both English and Spanish counseling provided.) Catholic Charities of Dallas > Home Immigration & Counseling Services – 5415 Maple Ave., #400, Dallas – (214) 634-7182 – Provides assistance and counseling for persons seeking legal immigration status, political asylum or U.S. citizenship, as well as, special assistance for abused immigrant women. St. Joseph’s Adolescent and Family Services – 4500 W. Davis, Dallas, Texas 75211 (214) 623-9976 Serves 13 to 17 year olds. (See Drug & Alcohol Abuse Resources of this list for information on St. Joseph’s Adolescent & Family Services) Child & Family Guidance Center of Collin Co. – 4031 W. Plano Pkwy, #211, Plano – (972) 612-5989 / Dallas (214) 351-3490 Services: 1) Specialist in psychological treatment of children, adolescents, and families: 2) Family Therapy, Step-Family, and Single Parent issues; 3) Spanish speaking therapist on staff: 4) psychological testing including ADD/ADHD: 5) insurance filed by Clinic. Fees based on income and family size Safety Net Program – Provides professional individual/family/group counseling, crisis and intervention counseling, drug/alcohol/tobacco education and curriculum-based support groups for teens 13-17. Funded by a grant from the Texas Commission on Alcohol and Drug Abuse – (972) 612-5989 www.childrenandfamilies.org Hope some of these help. |
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Babsy I think you're heading in the right direction... One thing I would suggest to you is to look into Al-Anon as well as AA or maybe even before if it's easier for you. Al-Anon is for the folks who have to deal with alcoholics and I think it might be a way for you to sidle up to the AA as well as help you deal with your husband and break loose of the habits and routine you are in and I think while you have the strength for yourself you are going to have to learn how to deal with him too. Al-Anon can benefit everyone, IMO, it's just about responsibility, coping and standing on your own two feet.
As for the not drinking, I've been on the wagon just to lose weight through the winter and spring and what I notice is there are little urges to drink b/c of the habit, when DH first gets home and we're chatting about our days, sitting in the yard on a nice day, camping, the times when we always have a drink. So at those times I feel a little nudge-but if you get past the nudge the urge will go away again until the next nudge. So have a plan in place for those times, someone to call (your daughter?), grab that paint-by-number, walk to the mailbox, have something there to fill the void b/c if it's just you and the void you're going to have a very hard time and suffer needlessly! What I've been doing to stay away from food and drink: playing with the dog, gardening, brushing the horses, playing with the kids, walking a lot, doing little projects that I've been putting off, talking to my mom on the phone, catching up on paperwork, ect... Fill those "empty hours", get a job, take an evening class, get out and about, do things that are incompatible with drinking... you can do it, people do it every day. It's hard to change any habit or break any addiction but it's do-able! Get all the help and support you can, surround yourself with it and steer yourself away from the traps and slippery slopes...
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Big Yapper!!!!
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Babsy, you do need to find support other then "Just us".
You see, your problem got this bad because you fooled yourself and everyone else around you. The promises, the justification...etc. Being with others who have been through the same thing keeps you accountable. Your family members are enablers and you have enabled yourself. You need to be around people that can "Spot" that behavior (in you and your family memebers) and nip it in the "bud" and give you tools to "change" the behavior. It's not as simple as not having a drink again. You also have to learn how to cope with your problems and actually learn how to deal with them. After all, Alcohol was your escape from dealing with them. It's not just about you. Your children, your husband, your friends and other family members have been involved in this "Merry go round" too. You Consciously and subconsciously know how to "Play" people to get what you want (The same thing can be said for them). Without the knowledge and "tools" to not only Spot this, but learn how to change it and deal with it... It would be hard. It would be extremely easy for you to fool yourself. Could you do it on your own? Maybe, but your circumstance with your husband makes it even harder for you. By you not drinking, he will subconsciously have behavior to set you up for a fall (it's to protect him and justify his own drinking). Things will get much worse, before they will get better. Without the Knowledge, support and the Tools, it would be easy to just "Give up" You need Tools, you need Knowledge and you need someone to help you spot the pitfalls along the way and how to actually "deal" with them. By all means, we will all be here for you, but you need a stronger support system to help you with all that. They say it takes 18 months to get over any addiction (including food) to feel normal and to not actually think about it ALL The time. |
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MAJOR LCF POSTER!
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I don't really have any advice for you, just some big hugs and encouragement for you.
My husband is 8 years clean and sober, and he did it without AA. He did get some counseling from our family minister though. For the most part, he did it on his own. It's not impossible, but works much better with a great deal of support. Don't let the distance that AA is from you be a roadblock. You can do this! Life is so much better this way. We were ll <--- this close from separating. Now, life is very good. |
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I have pulled those same ones up. None are close to me. |
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Way too much time on my hands!
Join Date: May 2004
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Plano isn't too far from McKinney. I used to live in N. Dallas so I know.
AL-ANON ODAAT – 1901 W. Parker Rd., Suites 201/213, Plano (972) 867-1115 Offers support groups for Adults/Teens who have an alcoholic family member or friend. Dallas Intergroup Association - Home Alcohol Anonymous Living Support Group: Reformed Church in Plano, 5333 Independence – Call for Meeting Schedule (972) 571-9676 Why not look at the list I posted? MANY resources there. |
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