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randomrina · 08-02-2005, 04:51 PM

Help... i haven't been on for a few months... we finally got internet again today.... but i can't stop eating... its scary how fast i'm gaining like 10 pounds in a week if not more now havent weighed in... i feel soooo out of control and saw alone really need some support please someone help asap i really need accountability and someone to talk to.
thank you so much
Rina

Squiggle · 08-02-2005, 11:34 PM

There's lots of us with the same problem... Check out the beyond the binge thread, all the ladies in there are fabulous and wonderfuly supportive.

randomrina · 08-02-2005, 11:39 PM

just weighed myself.... i'm gained 16 pounds in the last week i went from 135 to 150.5 i feel sooo heart broken.... i was pretty close to goal, which is 118 my husband and i were actually gonna start tryin for a baby when i got to 130 i guess no baby for me i feel like i can't take it and my world is crumbling... i cant even cry all i want to do is eat.... i know i'm a downer but i just have to get my feelings out instead of driving to the store and shoving another 10,000 callories in my mouth.... i wish i could rewind time.... i want my life back i want to try to have the baby.... all of the baby stuff is just extra reminders of the damage i've done in a week and no i dont think its all water weight considering i've been eating 10,000 calories a day and i have a slow metabolism.... so yeah none of my clothes fit i'm stuck wereing my hubby's boxers i cant leave the house HELP!

Squiggle · 08-03-2005, 05:48 PM

The only person who can overcome this behaviour is you. You need to find your own motivation and reasons to stop and get healthy. It's hard, but you're not alone. Finding out I'm not a complete nutball and that I'm not the only one with these binging thoughts and feelings has really helped me start to heal and overcome my eating disorder.

The beyond the binge threads (in this forum) are full of wonderful, supportive ladies (no boys yet) who understand just what you're going through. You're not a downer, many of us share our stories and like myself, just blurt out random paragraphs of what we've done today or how we're doing with our eating...

Check it out

Smythe · 08-04-2005, 05:51 AM

Here's some food for thought (bad pun, I know). Perhaps subconsciously the prospect of being a mom...or even trying to conceive is frightening you, and you are sabotaging your success. As long as you don't hit 130, you don't have to worry about not getting pregnant...or the stress being a new parent can bring. Really examine this, cause starting a family IS scary business. I'm not saying this is the cause of your binge, but there does seem to be a connection... Anxiety (fear of the unknown) is a killer emotion. I emoted right up to 192 lbs

!
Once you figure out what is driving you to medicate with food, you can address it.
I sabotaged myself too....I was so uncomfortable with being sexy, I kept myself fat. (abuse issues as a child).

A few deep breaths, a daily visit to the "Beyond the Binge" thread, and you may find the help you need.

Try to find out what you are running from. What will reaching that goal present you with that may be causing you to turn and run?
This is just my theory...because it was true in my case...and still is! I still fear having a nice body...a fear strangers looking at me...and I fear women being jealous. The jealous thing has already started at work

. I was liked better by the women at work when I was fat...go figure!! But, that is their issue, not mine!!

Anyway, Momma....Peace!

lowcarbfever · 08-18-2005, 07:12 AM

Hi,

Great advice Smythe. You know, I think that this is my problem too (fear of's) and I just wrote about it in the *secret* thread! What's so funny is that I am a hypnotherapist, and all of this stuff (what's going on behind ________) always comes out in sessions! But well, I guess I don't do well in self-hypnosis! haha But seriously, I also teach HypnoBirthing and when baby's are breech we do A LOT of work with releasing fear... there's sooooo much stuff that comes up about not feeling good enough to be a mom, fear of the experience, etc. and that really accounts for MOST major things in our lives.

Rina, sweety, we have ALL been there. I would look at Smythe's advice and talk to your hubby about it. i'm sure he'll understand!! Tell him you want to lose the weight but would prefer to just talk to each other when you're ready about starting a family. No need to be at 'a certain weight' to do that!

Also start looking at the pros and cons of healthy eating and gaining weight back. What's the emotional eating trigger? What space are you trying to fill? When I go on rampages like that, it's always cuz I'm under stress of some kind.. and eating helps soothe away my problems!!!

Lots of hugs, Mellisa

goalinsight · 08-19-2005, 03:22 PM

Smythe
Very good advice...dealing with the issues is a hard thing randomrina. Discuss it with your hubby also...he can help with and support you in whatever you are dealing with.
I, like smythe, have been hiding behind my weight for many years...same reasons and many more. I am learning to examine my responses BEFORE I reach for the food. Not doing it for the wrong reasons....just no cheating in almost three months.

randomrina · 08-20-2005, 03:19 PM

Hey Smythe, Mdormoy and Longways,

thank you for all of your encouraging posts! I guess alot of the time i am afraid, and lately i have to remind myself to just move away from that fear, that it will do nothing benificial for me, that it doesn't come from God and that it's not good for me. Longways, the scripture i like is 2Timothy 1:7, the one that talks about God not giving us a spirt of fear but of self control. anways i luv ya guys for being sooo supportive and encouraging.
hugs,
Rina

Mary McD · 09-12-2005, 04:39 PM

Rina, are you taking anything like Prozac or anything like that? That could very well be the culprit. It affects some people in very weird ways. Check with your doctor.

randomrina · 09-12-2005, 11:59 PM

Thanks Mary,
But unfortunately i'm not on any pills.... bummer it would have been a great explaination

brilliant100 · 09-13-2005, 08:00 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by randomrina

Thanks Mary,
But unfortunately i'm not on any pills.... bummer it would have been a great explaination

Good one. I wish I could use this as an excuse sometimes too.

08-02-2005, 04:51 PM	#1
randomrina Senior LCF Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: san diego, ca Posts: 122 Gallery: randomrina Stats: (top weight ever172.5)157/113/110, 5'3 WOE: lean for life/Prism	help Help... i haven't been on for a few months... we finally got internet again today.... but i can't stop eating... its scary how fast i'm gaining like 10 pounds in a week if not more now havent weighed in... i feel soooo out of control and saw alone really need some support please someone help asap i really need accountability and someone to talk to. thank you so much Rina

08-03-2005, 05:48 PM	#4
Squiggle MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Ottawa, Canada Posts: 1,970 Gallery: Squiggle Stats: 224.4/181.4/169 BMI: 36/29.7/24 WOE: DANDR Start Date: 5/14/07	The only person who can overcome this behaviour is you. You need to find your own motivation and reasons to stop and get healthy. It's hard, but you're not alone. Finding out I'm not a complete nutball and that I'm not the only one with these binging thoughts and feelings has really helped me start to heal and overcome my eating disorder. The beyond the binge threads (in this forum) are full of wonderful, supportive ladies (no boys yet) who understand just what you're going through. You're not a downer, many of us share our stories and like myself, just blurt out random paragraphs of what we've done today or how we're doing with our eating... Check it out __________________ Heather, 21/5'6" My Fitday Menus and Journal 40 Lbs lost as of 08/28/07! "How many cows do you people actually eat in a year?" "Wait, we figured this out once..." -King of the Hill

08-04-2005, 05:51 AM	#5
Smythe MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: New York Posts: 2,727 Gallery: Smythe Stats: here we go again 10/8/4-6 WOE: Atkins Start Date: August 2004 Goal Nov 2005 reinducting 1/2008	Hi Rina Here's some food for thought (bad pun, I know). Perhaps subconsciously the prospect of being a mom...or even trying to conceive is frightening you, and you are sabotaging your success. As long as you don't hit 130, you don't have to worry about not getting pregnant...or the stress being a new parent can bring. Really examine this, cause starting a family IS scary business. I'm not saying this is the cause of your binge, but there does seem to be a connection... Anxiety (fear of the unknown) is a killer emotion. I emoted right up to 192 lbs ! Once you figure out what is driving you to medicate with food, you can address it. I sabotaged myself too....I was so uncomfortable with being sexy, I kept myself fat. (abuse issues as a child). A few deep breaths, a daily visit to the "Beyond the Binge" thread, and you may find the help you need. Try to find out what you are running from. What will reaching that goal present you with that may be causing you to turn and run? This is just my theory...because it was true in my case...and still is! I still fear having a nice body...a fear strangers looking at me...and I fear women being jealous. The jealous thing has already started at work . I was liked better by the women at work when I was fat...go figure!! But, that is their issue, not mine!! Anyway, Momma....Peace!

08-18-2005, 07:12 AM	#6
lowcarbfever Senior LCF Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: France Posts: 331 Gallery: lowcarbfever Stats: 245/226/160 WOE: Modified Stillmans/CAD Start Date: 2005	Hi, Great advice Smythe. You know, I think that this is my problem too (fear of's) and I just wrote about it in the secret thread! What's so funny is that I am a hypnotherapist, and all of this stuff (what's going on behind ________) always comes out in sessions! But well, I guess I don't do well in self-hypnosis! haha But seriously, I also teach HypnoBirthing and when baby's are breech we do A LOT of work with releasing fear... there's sooooo much stuff that comes up about not feeling good enough to be a mom, fear of the experience, etc. and that really accounts for MOST major things in our lives. Rina, sweety, we have ALL been there. I would look at Smythe's advice and talk to your hubby about it. i'm sure he'll understand!! Tell him you want to lose the weight but would prefer to just talk to each other when you're ready about starting a family. No need to be at 'a certain weight' to do that! Also start looking at the pros and cons of healthy eating and gaining weight back. What's the emotional eating trigger? What space are you trying to fill? When I go on rampages like that, it's always cuz I'm under stress of some kind.. and eating helps soothe away my problems!!! Lots of hugs, Mellisa __________________ November 05: 245 lbs December 05: 233 lbs January 06: 225 February 06: March 06: Current 226.5 mini goal by end January 205 goal: 160 ################ Lowcarbing has taken over my life!

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08-02-2005, 11:34 PM	#2
Squiggle MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Ottawa, Canada Posts: 1,970 Gallery: Squiggle Stats: 224.4/181.4/169 BMI: 36/29.7/24 WOE: DANDR Start Date: 5/14/07	There's lots of us with the same problem... Check out the beyond the binge thread, all the ladies in there are fabulous and wonderfuly supportive.

08-02-2005, 11:39 PM	#3
randomrina Senior LCF Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: san diego, ca Posts: 122 Gallery: randomrina Stats: (top weight ever172.5)157/113/110, 5'3 WOE: lean for life/Prism	just weighed myself.... i'm gained 16 pounds in the last week i went from 135 to 150.5 i feel sooo heart broken.... i was pretty close to goal, which is 118 my husband and i were actually gonna start tryin for a baby when i got to 130 i guess no baby for me i feel like i can't take it and my world is crumbling... i cant even cry all i want to do is eat.... i know i'm a downer but i just have to get my feelings out instead of driving to the store and shoving another 10,000 callories in my mouth.... i wish i could rewind time.... i want my life back i want to try to have the baby.... all of the baby stuff is just extra reminders of the damage i've done in a week and no i dont think its all water weight considering i've been eating 10,000 calories a day and i have a slow metabolism.... so yeah none of my clothes fit i'm stuck wereing my hubby's boxers i cant leave the house HELP!

08-19-2005, 03:22 PM	#7
goalinsight Formally known as longways2go Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: melting it all away... Posts: 831 Gallery: goalinsight Stats: 430+/297/170 WOE: Atkins/Kimmers Start Date: June 2005	Smythe Very good advice...dealing with the issues is a hard thing randomrina. Discuss it with your hubby also...he can help with and support you in whatever you are dealing with. I, like smythe, have been hiding behind my weight for many years...same reasons and many more. I am learning to examine my responses BEFORE I reach for the food. Not doing it for the wrong reasons....just no cheating in almost three months.

08-20-2005, 03:19 PM	#8
randomrina Senior LCF Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: san diego, ca Posts: 122 Gallery: randomrina Stats: (top weight ever172.5)157/113/110, 5'3 WOE: lean for life/Prism	Hey Smythe, Mdormoy and Longways, thank you for all of your encouraging posts! I guess alot of the time i am afraid, and lately i have to remind myself to just move away from that fear, that it will do nothing benificial for me, that it doesn't come from God and that it's not good for me. Longways, the scripture i like is 2Timothy 1:7, the one that talks about God not giving us a spirt of fear but of self control. anways i luv ya guys for being sooo supportive and encouraging. hugs, Rina

09-12-2005, 04:39 PM	#9
Mary McD MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Tustin, California Posts: 1,225 Gallery: Mary McD Stats: 194/159/120 WOE: Low carb Start Date: June 2003	Rina, are you taking anything like Prozac or anything like that? That could very well be the culprit. It affects some people in very weird ways. Check with your doctor.

09-12-2005, 11:59 PM	#10
randomrina Senior LCF Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: san diego, ca Posts: 122 Gallery: randomrina Stats: (top weight ever172.5)157/113/110, 5'3 WOE: lean for life/Prism	Thanks Mary, But unfortunately i'm not on any pills.... bummer it would have been a great explaination