Wanted: 220lb LC'er that needs buddy...

[jswalker1992]

Your daughter isn't hanging out with mine, is she?

Thanks for the monk fish idea. I may try that one of these days.

Paula, how are you doing today? Hope that today is better for you today than it was yesterday.

It is gloomy out today. Have a ton of stuff to do, yet no motivation to get started....

B: a little leftover steak
L: hamburger patty
D: meatloaf and caulilower mash

[choconut68]

I was hoping today would be better, but my little brother who is 28 and living in Japan has been dragged into this. He wrote my daughter and told her this and that.. all being kind. But he dont understand what Ive put up with. He wants the family to be happy. Apparently somewhere in a email he wrote he mentioned my mom's written will. I guess she wrote me out.. I really dont care. its a drama queens nightmare!
I cried myself silly yesterday and ate a can of almonds! I had my salad at CrackerBarrel with my oldest DD. and ate cheese before bed. That was it. I was at 203.5 this morning.. can stress make ya drop like that?
I'm trying to be positive. I guess I will have to let my lilBro know that I have no interest in having a relationship with mom, but dont want to lose ours.
I think she was only reaching out because he forced it. Poor guy dont know what he's done. Its a long story, but I appreciate so much you girls letting me vent...
It will pass. And other things will come up. right now my Dh is watching his father die in a nursing home and I cant do anything to help him from the hurt.
I can only be there for him when it hits him the most.
I need a vacation~!!!!! Have you seen the posts about the cruises!!! OH makes me want to go NOW!

HUgs ya'll~!

[jswalker1992]

Wow. Wanna come over for a drink and hang out in the hot tub, just to get away for a little bit? Just yell "Road Trip!", hop in the car, and don't look back.

My MIL sounds a lot like your mom. If they are alike, I am truly sorry for what you are going through. My DH is the middle man in all of her screwed up relationships with different family members. I feel so bad for DH because he just wants everyone to get along. I reached my limits with her about 3 years ago, stood up to her, and she still hasn't forgiven me. Unfortunately, my feelings are, "Whatever." She is coming out this weekend, it has my stomach in knots. I just wanna run away, but I won't. I will stick it out.

I feel for your DH too. I am sorry!

Sure, stress can make you drop weight. So can the Whoosh Fairy! I love her!

If there is anything that I can do for you, let me know.

[Rubyred025]

222 this morning. I was hoping to hit my 2nd goal for my birthday, friday but i'm close.

Im stressed cause they released grandmom and she's sick so she's staying on my couch until Monday. I feel for her. Since she feel and broke her hip she just isn't the same person, my weaker and frail, needs help dressing, bathing and bathroom. I feel like i'm taking care of a much larger toddler.

B: sf jello cup
L: probable tuna and cucumber salad
D: not sure about dinner have alot of running to do

[choconut68]

I think we all need to hop in a car and drive!
My DH father passed away yesterday. I dont like being around his family and so far have avoided it. He is very hurt and I dont know what to do for DH.
I'm going out later to visit with his family... dread. Even my oldest DD dont want to go.
Ive got over mom, i hope she will just go away for awhile. no more emails etc. The quite before the storm eh?

Justine, i hope your grandmother feels better. I understand it has to be so hard esp breaking a hip. I cant imagine.
stacy, thanks for the offer. I would love to toss back a few right now.

I think the B/P is up from the stress. I ve lost my appetite, which I'll get hungry later and indulge! I did manage to eat some Hamburger patties from last night. I made dinner and Dh ate at his moms... ...I put SF spag sauce and cheese on them.. they are sitting on stomach like a rock. Thats it for today.
I have been drinking my water better.. the old hospital size water chugs!
Thanks for letting me vent early.. anyone esle around here would call me names.. hehehe..
If I can get thru the funeral and dealing with family, I'll be okay.. Sounds like I get along with no one.. LOL... Mothers and Mother in laws..thats it.
I miss my dad.. and hated to see DH father go too. He was a great Granpa to the kids!

hugs again!

[jswalker1992]

Paula, I am sorry to hear about your FIL. Sounds like you are carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders right now. Please remember to take care of yourself in the meantime. Your DH is gonna need you to do that so that you can help him. Remember, if you need to vent, cry, or rant, you can come on here and we will listen and help in any way that we can.

Justine, my thoughts are with you and your grandmom also. Also, if you need to let loose, here we are!

Today I will be running around town with DD. It is her payday. Hopefully by next payday she will have her license. After that, I get to come home and shampoo the living room carpet. I keep putting it off and I can't do that any longer...

B: piece of bologna (I know, blech.)
L: knockwurst on 1/2 Flax flatbread
D: pork loin, veggie, dunno what til I make it....

[jswalker1992]

Good morning, Ladies! How are y'all doing? I know that the week has been pretty hard for you, so I hope that it is getting better.

My in-laws will be here sometime today. They called my DH on Thursday to let him know that they are bringing his brother and sister-in-law along with their 3 kids. You know, they still haven't talked to me at all about coming out and now I get to be hostess for 5 more people? Sheesh! My MIL asks about sleeping arrangements and DH tells her that we have the pullout bed for them and BIL & SIL can sleep on the air mattress. So, darling MIL goes into this long spiel about how that wouldn't be comfortable for BIL and SIL. They each weigh 300+ lbs and the last time they were here and slept on that they didn't like it. I told DH there was NO WAY I am giving up my bed to sleep on the air mattress (cuz the in laws don't want too.) Uh-uh. They can sleep there, on a couch, the floor, or at a hotel but I refuse to give up my bed. My thoughts are if they are gonna make arrangements to come out, not ask me or even call to talk to me, and then bring the rest of the family (still no call) they are gonna have to make do. OK, I think I am done ranting. Sorry bout that.

I will probably be on here sometime tomorrow, but not sure, so I will give my stats a day early. The scale has me at 195.5 Down 5 lbs. this week. Been working really hard at it, so I am quite happy to see results. I haven't exercised at all since a week ago Monday and now I am losing the weight? What is that about? Once the In laws are gone, I should be able to get things back to normal and do them again. I went and bought a pair of jeans, size 16 the other day as my new goal jeans. Tried them on and they fit! Talk about being shocked! They look pretty good too. DH likes them a lot! What's really cool is the fact that my first big goal is to be a size 14 by September so that I could buy this one particular evening gown for the cruise we are going on. It looks as though I should be able to pass that. Which is a really good thing, cuz I went to look at the dress on Thursday and someone else bought it. I guess that means I will have to find a new, smaller one instead.

Yesterdays menu:

B: none
L: scrambled eggs with salsa
D: chicken scampi, "faux" rice, and a glass of red wine


Todays menu:

B: Slim Jim (not good for ya, but they don't stall me. And I luv em. )
L: ?
D: baked "fried" chicken and cauliflower mash

Tomorrows menu:

B: bacon and eggs
L: sandwiches on Revolution rolls
D: pulled pork, brisket, macaroni salad, and green beans
Dessert: Blackberry Almond Crumb Cake with vanilla ice cream (how much will I gain after this? )

[choconut68]

Stacy, the 5lbs sounds great, and getting into the 16s does too!~
I cant wait to get down enough to be in a 16.. thats been years...

I say " HOTEL. If they didint let you know they were coming in advance, I would put them in a hotel or give them a list of local hotels. I wouldnt move out of my bed. MIght move my daugther into my room with me and put her on an air mattress.. but that would be the most I would do.. family dont mean you have to be taken advantage of...
Right now.. family isnt my favorite thing..

can I ask of you ladies.. who makes a parade out of funerals... Im about to lose my mind! Im sorry to sound so cold, but my MIL is making a big deal about everything! from flowers to riding to the funeral home together all at once... we have to meet at her house and all ride at the same time.. I live 2 mins from the funeral home!!!! MY hubby has been dishing out money left and right on things that I find are too much.. I have enough to make the bills for this coming week and with him being out of work this week. next week will be tighter.. I have money in another account, which was money my dad left me.. but Oldest DD says not to let DH use any of it, that its not my place to pay for extravagance.. (sp?) I know my hubby was hinting for cash from me.. Im sorry I dont like his family enough to dish out a penny. I will burn for this I guess...

Oh k. Im over venting.. im on high bi-polar mode today... you should see what I got done this morning in my yard... I'll crash emotionally tonite...

EVeryone behave this weekend.. cus I'm gonna raise enough hell for all of us...!

[jswalker1992]

Ok, Paula, my advice, that money was left to you by your dad. What would he want you to do? Spend it on yourself? Yup. Spend it on something fun to do with your family. Probably also a yup. Spend it on an over the top funeral for in laws? Absolutely not. I have always made it clear to all of my family, kids included, that they are to not go over the top. I want to be cremated, scattered up in the mountains, or they can suffer the wrath of having me haunt them. I know what my parents, my DH, and my kids (heaven forbid!! ) want when they die. Yup, I even said my kids. We have talked about it a lot. Especially after my Grandpa died five years ago. There were a lot of things that didn't get handled well and I was determined to make sure that didn't happen in our family. I am sorry that you are having to deal with this right now.

As far as my in laws go, I ain't worried about 'em. They can take it or leave it. I will smile, bite my tongue, and know that my honey will owe me so big when they leave. I sure am looking forward to that full body massage that he will be giving me.

[Ma Bailey]

Hi Kids...sorry I haven't been around much...WEDDINGS (cakes) are about to put me under!

Justine, I hope things are getting better for you and G'ma. My mom is 85 and should be out here with me, but is too stubborn . Anyway to you and keep the faith.

Paula Jean and Stacy, my heart goes out to you two. I moved to TN to escape what you all are going through. My mom and son are the only ones I have anything to do with...the rest can go jump in the lake...to put it mildly. Stacy, don't you dare give up your bed. Nothing like being tired from lack of a good nights sleep to have to get up and WAIT on everyone...cause I bet that is what they have you do
Paula Jean...that money is to stay where YOU want it to...I'm speaking for your Dad .
I swear this all sounds like mine and DH's family back in CA. We never got a bed to sleep on when we visited them, but they more or less suggested we should give ours up for them...sorry, they came uninvited and unexpected most of the time and besides I was working very early to very late hours (only thing that kept my sanity ) so I needed my sleep . And funny how they all thought our money grew on trees and theirs was sacred
OK kids, I'll keep you all in my thoughts....had a few minutes before I deliver this wedding cake. >^.,.^<

[Rubyred025]

Hi ladies

We I celebrated my birthday a little to much so I am going to have to be good the rest of the weekend. Thank goodness I only went up 2 lbs.

My poor sister had her in laws show up last sunday, needless to say she was ready for divorce. LOL. Her in-laws are horrible. My sisters family is on the brink of bankrupcy after they started their own business and these jerks come and just freeload. They wouldn't eat any of the meals my sister prepared. She was on the verge of tears. Thank goodness they left today.

[choconut68]

Oh boy.. this weekend has been wild. I actually behaved and stayed out of the way. Brother in law was arrested for beating on his ex-wife. She was told she was not included at the funeral but dear mother in law would keep saying she was.. all hell broke lose. She filed a report at our house... she had a shiner on her eye. I told Hubby that was final straw. Im over his family. I called it a redneck rumble.

So hows everyones weekend going??

Im down to 202 now. I wish I could say it was from being faithful to this woe.. but its got to be stress. Stacy Im about to catch up with you, by the time I have I may be in an institution.. wonder if they have internet.. LOL>.
I have to laugh all this off.. Its been unbelieveable..

Hugs to you all... I cant wait to start talking about bathing suits and good recipes.. oh speaking of... i tried the micro wave muffins.. flax muffins.. I made me a sandwich of sorts with one of mine.. it was great. Im gonna try to figure out how to make mini reubens.. oh I miss them..

more later girls! Have a good one!

[jswalker1992]

Originally Posted by choconut68

Im down to 202 now. I wish I could say it was from being faithful to this woe.. but its got to be stress. Stacy Im about to catch up with you, by the time I have I may be in an institution.. wonder if they have internet.. LOL>.
I have to laugh all this off.. Its been unbelieveable..

Run, run as fast as you can. You can't catch me I'm the Gingerbread Man! Seriously, that is terrific! I hate the fact that the loss is stress related, but since the stress is there anyway, at least you get something out of it.

My weekend has been wild with the in-laws here. BIL slept on the air mattress. SIL slept in a recliner. I didn't give up my bed. I am sick, was sick yesterday too. How is that for horrible timing? Not only did I get to put up with the family, but I got to do it feeling like crap. Seriously, though, it wasn't bad. I did have to bite my tongue once. My MIL asked DD if she wanted to buy her car from her. DD told her no that she already had a car. DH gave her his Fiat. My DH inherited the Fiat (his dad's car) 13 years ago when he died. It has been up on blocks for the last 3 years. No time or money to fix it. Well, MIL threw a fit when DH mentioned possibly selling it cuz it was taking up room and told him that she wanted it back. After a couple of conversations she told him that she didn't really want it. So, he gave it to DD and told her that we would get the transmission rebuilt, she gets to do the rest of the repairs. Lock, stock, and barrel, she could have it. Well, my MIL told my DD that the car wasn't my honeys to give away. As far as he knew she was gonna take it home with her. She was way rude about the whole thing. She didn't say anything to myself or DH but was telling DD this (in front of me, so I did hear the conversation.) After a few minutes, she finally told DD that she didn't want the car anyway. Luckily, DD knows her memaw is like this and didn't get too offended. I did. So, now DH gets to fix this issue with his mom. I was MAD.

The weekend all in all wasn't too bad. I am wearing the same size jeans as my MIL. She has always been really petite until the last few years. And has always had issues with my size. Oh well. She is shorter than I am, so a 16 looks a lot better on me. (Is this where nanny-nanny boo-boo comes into play? ) Also, my motorcycle jacket is a 3X and we were out and about yesterday and ran across some leather jackets so I tried some on. An XL fit me great!! Also, I was able to squeeze into a size 14 leather vest. My sweeties jaw dropped when I showed him. He looked like he truly enjoyed the way that looked on me. It was a look that I want to see a lot more often. He tells me constantly how great he thinks I look, how attracted he is to me, always has. But, this was a look that I don't know that I have ever seen. I am enjoying this tremendously!

My DD16 is going out on her first date tonight. Her BF is really sweet. They have been friends for a long time. I knew that they would eventually start seeing each other. Last night he came and hung out at the house with her and the family. Everyone was grilling him. Poor guy. He asked both myself and DH if he could take her on a date. I promise, DH is the nicest guy in the world, but he sure gave this kid a run for his money. I hope that he lightens up on him sooner rather than later. The kids are gonna go eat dinner at his house with his parents, then they are going to the movies to see Shrek and will be home by 9:00. I have stressed to DD that if they are home on time and continue to do good that her dad will lighten up on him. You shoulda seen the BF work up the nerve to ask DH if they could go out. It was quite a feat for him. He did good. We were all outside sitting on the deck and DD was on the swing with her BF and whenever he would talk to her she would kinda smile and blush. She was so pretty. She looked both happy and grown up. It was so sweet. Made me both happy and sad.

The in laws left this morning. I was really glad about that. Especially since I am still feeling sick. DH is at work also, kinda wish he was here with me. The poor kids have to be bored to death. I won't be getting too much done around the house. Oh well. It will still be here tomorrow.

[choconut68]

Stacy, how does these weekends become contagious~!

Im very proud of you for holding in there. Sometimes family can be so hard to deal with...esp MILs. Arent they special~~~? LOL. Im sure you wanted to tell her what she could do with the fiat... LOL... Im sorry i just couldnt resist!

Kids grow up fast. My oldest is 19 and married. and her hubby was a really good guy too...still is.. a real sweetheart.. but they were caperoned the whole time they dated. I guess we're real tough on our kids but only because we were so wild when we were young. I told girls there's nothing they can try that Mom hasnt already done.. but in this day and age I may be wrong now.. but they know Ive got eyes in the back of my head and I only do it out of love.. my mom didnt know half of what i was into and I paid dearly for it in the long run.. tell ya about that someother time..
You let Dh take care of that young man... ~ ! It will keep that boy in line for a long time... LOL

I've done pretty good today..not as stressful.. trying to get back on a reg schedule..

Oh you wouldnt have a stomach virus???
My DD12 has been throwing up all morning and now has slept all day. I'm so surprised when virus are mentioned... I dont think it matters if youre 5 states away.. seems like when something is going around, its really going around.

I didnt realise you had dropped down to 195. It would take me a while to catch up to that... but at least Im still moving down.. lol...
I bet you cant wait to reach goal. youre doing so good.! Keep it up...

[jswalker1992]

You have NO idea how bad I wanted to tell that lady what she could do with that car... How can people be so nervy?

DD and her BF were home a half an hour early last night. That scored some brownie points with DH. But, he still isn't real thrilled that his little girl is growing up. It may take a little while before he is ok with her having a boyfriend.

Still sick today. Feeling better this evening. I am finally able to breathe. Still stuffy, but doing better. I think it is a sinus infection. I don't get those very often. This one has knocked me flat on my butt. The kids have been really good about taking care of themselves and cleaning up, so I am thankful about that.

My weight loss has kicked in again after stalling for a couple of weeks. This morning I was at 193.5. So, we will see what happens at the end of the week... I am really hoping to get some sort of appetite back, everyone is giving me a hard time over not wanting to eat. I keep having to remind them that I am sick, it isn't cuz I am trying to drastically cut back on food.

We leave for our cruise in 100 days! The countdown is on!! We are all so excited!!

[choconut68]

Dont know whats up with me today. Ive ate everything i can get my hands on.
I was at 200.5 yesterday and back at 205 this morning. I have issues with my scales. I can move it in different areas and it will weight different every time. I guess I have to move it to basement on concrete floor.

I started morning with the 1 min muffin with cream cheese icing on top. Very good. Then headed to the next town to do some shopping and take hubby his cell phone to him. I ended up buying nuts, macadamia nuts on sale, fine.. but also got cashews. I found low carb bars at BigLots and ate all 3 when I got home, tossed down a few meat and cheese stiks. Left over broccoli/caulif from last night. I'm so stuffed and dont know why I couldnt stop. it was like old habits coming back.
I dont think I'll eat dinner tonight, couldnt put anything esle in stomach. I kinda wish Id get the stomach virus dd had.. now I sound crazy but Im confessing today.
I think Im punishing myself for the weight gain. But I played around with a 2 liter water jug. It weighted 4lb,4ozs. I can drink that much all day and thats probably where the added weight comes in.. My mind just dont seem to think about that when I hit the scales. I really want to be down below 200 by mid JUne, I'll be visiting family, unfornuately family that is skinny and seems to concentrate on weight.. I dont want to see them again like i did last year at 235 or so.

Im rambling ..but just had to vent a little .. therapy I guess..
Hope everyone is doing good today. IM gonna induct tomorrow... start over again.. I think portion control is what I need to work on next.

Hugs

[Rubyred025]

Hi ladies did you miss me..

Sorry I haven't been posting but with grandmom being out of rehab I have had my hands full. Talk about stress, I took her home on Tuesday morning and live in companion came, after an hour of showing up the girl was on the couch a sleep. So I stayed and talked with grammy, feed her, changed her, helped her to the potty. On top of it grammy has broncitis so she is so weak. The girl called the agency and told them the house was a mess...I don't know what she's talking about my DH, DD and myself vaccumed, dusted, scrubbed, mopped and anything else you could think of before granny came home (house was filthy). I was pissed. Plus when I called granny later to see how things were going she told me the girl never stays with her she stays in the upstairs living room doesn't socialize with her, then the girl came and told grammy that she was leaving for the store at 6:30 to pick up rubber gloves and would be back. I was on the phone with grammy from 7:00 - 8:00 and the girl wasn't back. When I called her back at 8:30 the girl still wasn't back, she didn't show back up until 9:30 in the mean time grammy tried to get up and go to the bathroom without any help, nearly fell knocked over a glass...I had her fired.

I haven't been on fully on plan. I have to get some items to keep at grammys but I have been so stressed I haven't been eating much anyway. I haven't gained still going between 222 and 224.

[Rubyred025]

Hi Ladies, well I just weighed myself (12:00) and I'm down to 222, I wish I would have weighed when I woke up it may have been lower since I have already eatten breakfast and lunch plus have drank water and soda.

[jswalker1992]

Hi Ladies! Hope y'all are doing well. I am ok, still a little under the weather, but getting better. I am able to function as a human being again, so that is a good start.

I am back up to 195 today. Dunno how that happened. The only thing that I can think of is water retention from walking around the zoo yesterday (it is on the side of the mountain.) Or maybe I am not eating enough carbs (cuz I may have eaten 10 of them yesterday?) I don't think that it is PMS yet. I really don't know...

Today's itinerary is clean up the house a little, mainly vacuum and I am gonna take the kids to the nature center and walk around there for a bit.

B: bacon
L: pepperoni and mozzarella
D: stuffed bell peppers

[jswalker1992]

Good Afternoon! Hope that the weekend has started out well for ya! Not a lot going on here today. Getting the house straightened up cuz we are going to Denver tomorrow to watch a law enforcements skills competition (a bunch of motorcycle cops training and doing tricks.) I think that it will be quite fun. We are gonna take the car so that the boys can go with us. I think that they will get a kick out of it.

Getting ready to make some peanut butter cookies. http://www.lowcarbfriends.com/recipe.../cat/16/page/1

Aside from that, it looks to be a pretty quiet day. Let's just hope it stays that way.

[choconut68]

Justine, Im sorry to hear you had to fire the personal companion. I worked for Home Health Agency years ago. I did the bathing/ etc but never the sitting, I know the sitters were hard to come by.. ones that were reliable. The best ones we had were in their 60's. They made great companions. But hard to get. I'm sure the stress is there, but I hope you can find some help.

Stacy, Sounds like fun .. the motorcycles etc. Let me know how the cookies turn out. I'd love to find something sweet... and crunchy!

I took DD12 & her friends to Dollywood Splash Country friday, I'm still tired. I got a little burnt on my chest and back, forgot to put sunscreen in those areas. I did make sure I covered my face. I turn 39 in July and dont want to look 50 from the sun. I dont hardly get out to tan anymore for that reason. And the fact skin cancer runs high in our family. But we had a good time.

Im mad at hubby. I asked him if he wanted to take a shower with me.. something I wouldnt have asked 30lbs ago.. okay , he got in shower.. got to playing around.. Assumed he would finish what he started when we got out. but instead sat in his recliner and watched tv.. Didnt come to bed till 12midnight. I was so pisted~ The worst part is.. he dont know why Im mad at him. more information that you gals wanted. but who else can I tell!!!!
I dont know how much longer I can put up with being ignored by him.

I need to go eat something. Im still munching onthe Maca nuts. Ate 2 hamburger patties with 2 fried eggs this morning.. and havnt wanted much esle beside water.. some kinda veggie... Im so tired of broccoli!!

Welp, Im off here... have a good weekend...
more later..
Paula

204.5 and holding. LOL