Do You Ever Question God

Sweetpea · 02-19-2008, 06:10 AM

I really don't want to here from people that don't believe in God.
For those that do believe: I know you are not supposed to:
I am true believer --- raised and practicing Catholic.
But I am having a hard time right now --- My Brother commited sucide in September, now is wife is near death with cancer. I don't understand why
God lets good people suffer so much. This is really tearing me up. I hate
seeing her this way, I am a wreck.

Mimosa23 · 02-19-2008, 06:12 AM

Mona Mona · 02-19-2008, 06:13 AM

I am soooo sorry.

Yes, I think it is human nature to question. Why me? Why us? Why this, why that???

I can only hope that one day, somehow, we can get answers that put us at peace....

Denise85 · 02-19-2008, 06:50 AM

To answer your quesdtion yes I do. I feel guilty thinking/saying it, but it's true. We've been through so much in the last year, and I keep telling myself it's all for a reason, but there is another part of me that questions it all.

Tea Cozy · 02-19-2008, 06:55 AM

I do believe - although I am not catholic.

You have all my thoughts and prayers for what you are going through.

When you look at the world around you, all the things that walk, and breathe, and grow, plant, animal and mineral alike, you will notice that there are opposites. Night and day, male and female, water and earth, life and death.

Although I don't pretend to know the whys of life, or why things happen, I know that seeing the bad makes me appreciate the good all the more. It makes me realize how little time we may have, and to live each day out to the fullest. For each bad thing that happens, I can see the good that happens.

No matter what is given to us to cope with, I do believe that the divine keeps it all in balance, in the end.

((hugs))

KristenT · 02-19-2008, 06:55 AM

All the time.

Mair · 02-19-2008, 07:17 AM

Yes, I definately question why. My mother in law suffered horribly for about 4 years before she died and there is not a person on earth who was more true and faithful to her lord than her.

vmfatnomore · 02-20-2008, 06:49 AM

Oh yes, and I am a true follower of God. I had a son who was killed instantly in November in a traffic accident. He was the best kid a mom could ask for in this world.
He wanted to live so much and loved his family with all his heart.
My other son, wants to slowly kill himself with alcohol and other stuff. So I question God as to why these things are happening to our family.
I know some day we will know the answers to our questions when we meet again in Heaven, but for now I do question.
But, I still believe and pray each day. My faith in God is a critical part of my life each day. Without this faith, I could not handle what has happened and is happening to us.

Kissmygrits · 02-20-2008, 04:09 PM

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Originally Posted by KristenT

All the time.

Me too--it is something I am really trying to work on but it's so difficult when we see all the suffering going on around us. Have you ever heard of the tapestry comparison? When we look at the world, we see a HUGE mess, like the back of a big tapestry. When God looks at the world, he sees a perfect picture; the front of the tapestry. It might not all be good for us, but it is working exactly the way he wants it to, for whatever reasons. I am trying to remember that the bad stuff isn't to hurt us, but rather to stretch our faith. I'm sorry about your family problems; I'll pray for you...

Determinedtolose · 02-20-2008, 05:25 PM

I totally feel for all of you who have lost a loved one. I lost my grandparents in the late 80's and that was the first time I lost anyone who was close to me.

But you know what I've learned, is that it's okay to question God, about anything. That's how we get to know Him more. But, that doesn't mean He will show us or give us an answer. Sometimes we will never know why He allows things to happen then again He may show us but at a time when He knows we are ready to know and understand. Alot of times when we're upset about a situation, we don't have the understanding to get they why's and the what's because our heart is hurt or upset and we are not open to see or hear, at least in my experience.

In biblical times alot of people questioned God about why He allowed things to happen.
Sometimes He would tell them and sometimes He wouldn't, it just depended on the situation.
But the thing we have to remember is that God is sovereign and He is always in control of everything.

Reading the bible is very comforting and refreshing and we can really get our answers from reading it.

Something else that we have to understand and that everyone forgets or maybe doesn't want to believe, but there is an enemy who wants to steal, kill and destroy. His name is Satan, the adversary, the beast, the Antichrist, etc. But he is the one who wants to destroy and that's what we have to realize as well.

God loves us, He sent His Son to die for our sins. All He wants is for us to believe.

In time He will heal our hurts and wounds because He truly and totally loves us!!

I hope that helps some!

Kissmygrits · 02-20-2008, 06:41 PM

Very nice, Diana.

Sweetpea · 02-22-2008, 10:44 AM

Thank you all so much --- It's nice to know other people feel the way I do.
I hang on to my faith - that is what keeps me going. I am suprised at how many people (on this board alone) who do not believe in God.
But I will continue to

Determinedtolose · 02-22-2008, 02:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Sweetpeasgram

Thank you all so much --- It's nice to know other people feel the way I do.
I hang on to my faith - that is what keeps me going. I am suprised at how many people (on this board alone) who do not believe in God.
But I will continue to

I know! But I hope one day they will come to know the love of God and the peace that He gives if only they will believe!

CarolynF · 02-22-2008, 04:10 PM

Many people question God, "Why did this happen or that happen?" Well, this world is corrupted by sin, to put it bluntly. It's not a perfect world. Only heaven is perfect.

But, the good news is that God is there for US despite all the terrible things that happen in this world..And he is there in the midst of the wonderful things that happen in this world.

I heard one of my favorite preachers R. C. Sproule, say once..The question is NOT "Why me, God?" "Why not me, God?" That makes me ever thankful for all the good moments
in our lives. And, I do believe that those good moments outweigh the bad.

Jesus promised that in this world we would have troubles, but he also promised that he
has overcome this world. What more could we ask???

Determinedtolose · 02-22-2008, 05:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by CarolynF

Many people question God, "Why did this happen or that happen?" Well, this world is corrupted by sin, to put it bluntly. It's not a perfect world. Only heaven is perfect.

But, the good news is that God is there for US despite all the terrible things that happen in this world..And he is there in the midst of the wonderful things that happen in this world.

I heard one of my favorite preachers R. C. Sproule, say once..The question is NOT "Why me, God?" "Why not me, God?" That makes me ever thankful for all the good moments
in our lives. And, I do believe that those good moments outweigh the bad.

Jesus promised that in this world we would have troubles, but he also promised that he
has overcome this world. What more could we ask???

Amen Carolyn!

Pcola Girl · 02-27-2008, 11:02 AM

God has a reason for everyting He does. we may not know the reason but what-ever He does its for the good.
We had our only son pass away with leukemia in 2002 and it broke my heart. I prayed and prayed to for his healing but it did not come and I didn't understand why but now I have learned that it was his time to go be with the Lord. We are only on this earth for a certian time, a time for us to be born and a time for us to die. Gods tells us that doeasn't He?
I just accept the fact that God allowed me the honor to be his mother for the short time he was with us.
We may never know Gods reasons why He does the things He does, but one day we will when we are in Heaven to with Him.
So keep praying and talking to God, He can help you through the tough times.

Kissmygrits · 02-27-2008, 11:42 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pcola Girl

God has a reason for everyting He does. we may not know the reason but what-ever He does its for the good.
We had our only son pass away with leukemia in 2002 and it broke my heart. I prayed and prayed to for his healing but it did not come and I didn't understand why but now I have learned that it was his time to go be with the Lord. We are only on this earth for a certian time, a time for us to be born and a time for us to die. Gods tells us that doeasn't He?
I just accept the fact that God allowed me the honor to be his mother for the short time he was with us.
We may never know Gods reasons why He does the things He does, but one day we will when we are in Heaven to with Him.
So keep praying and talking to God, He can help you through the tough times.

Houston Heather · 03-01-2008, 07:22 PM

Yes.

I know God sends us trials to make us stronger, but sometimes I DON'T WANT TO BE THAT STRONG! I don't know why He allows the things he does sometimes.

I was born with brain damage because my mother drank while pregnant. The main effect it's had on me is it's difficult to hold a job and I can't drive. She also "gave" me bipolar disorder, which was not diagnosed until age 33. I had a lot of hellish years on account of that. Now that I'm medicated my life is a lot better.

5 years ago, my husband was run over while walking to work. He was already blind. It put him in a wheelchair, he had a stroke and brain damage too. My mother and grandmother died shortly after that. Then my 2 cats died. All in one year.

Sometimes I look at our lives and I think WHY? But God can use these things to make us strong, and I am blessed to know that everyone I have lost was "saved" and I will see them again.

I know sometimes people look at my husband, staggering along like a drunk (he hates the wheelchair and hobbles as much as possible), blind and somewhat deaf. He's holding onto my arm and we're laughing about something.

I know people look at us and go "Why are they so happy?" We know that God is in control and ALL things work for good. I know I was a good witness just by the way I reacted after the accident.

The guy who ran over my husband is one of our best customers. The policeman investigating the accident robbed my husband and let the guy off. I'm not going to spend the rest of my life hating the man because he ran a red light and neither is my husband.

I always used to tell myself this when I was in the throes of yet another suicidal depression: This is all a bad dream. I'm going to look back on this one day and say "Thank God, my life is better now".

My husband died at the scene of the accident and he says Heaven is indescribably beautiful. He's still angry that God "sent him back".

That says it all to me. I'll be praying for you, and here's a hug.

bilsan · 03-11-2008, 02:09 PM

Hello , I am new to this site and let me tell you I loooooove it . I read Victoria s origanal question about God . First I want to say how sorry I am about your brother and also sister in law . My boyfriend killed himself a long time ago . I was pregnant with our child . What a horrible time in my life . So many unanswered questions . Sucide is a terrible thing to cope with . As the years have past I can only find saddness for the way his heart must have felt on that day . In 1991 our son was hit and killed by a car . I may have had some preperation for this with the 5 1/2 years I had dealing with dad . My son really rocked my world . Sudden deaths are the worse . No time to prepare , end , say anything ect . Just here it is . I learned a new motto over time of not asking why just knowing that I am so not in control . And my favorite is it does not matter why . This is just it . I would never wish this on me or anyone for that matter . I am grateful for the time I had and the me I have become . My son will never be hurt , molested , no drugs , alcohol he is in a far better place than I could ever have provided for him . I miss the boy I raised and held and played with . I also am grateful God chose me to have him and Brice to take instantly . Time and God do heal and maybe not make things ok , just better . After Brice is when I started gaining my weight . I quit cigs before he died because he asked . I have kept my word on that . I have yoyooed for several years now on weight and I have survived alot and I will do this weight thing . Thanks for listening and for being here . Sandy

Sweetpea · 03-12-2008, 09:18 AM

WOW - Heather & Sandy --- I am in awe of both of you --- I feel my problems are so small in comparisson. Thanks for the up lift. Update - My SIL passed last week. It has not been a good 6 months. I miss her so much.
My brother - I am beginning to understand the situation he was in.
I just look foward to the time when we meet again. Life is tough, but God
only gives us what we can handle. Love to you all ----

Jennyl · 03-12-2008, 03:06 PM

bilsan · 03-13-2008, 04:11 PM

So sorry to hear about ur sil . A loss is a loss to the heart . We all seem to grieve different and who is worse to lose is whom evers pain . I do believe God does carry us through all . I am complete proof of this . And the end result is an ok feeling . Now to get ahold of my eating . Maybe I should say now to let go of my eating lol .

Su11 · 03-13-2008, 06:50 PM

I believe God gets us through the bad times. I don't think he chose to have us suffer so, but evil is in the world and His help enables us to keep going and to be enriched with His comfort and His people.

There's nothing wrong with questioning. How else do you have a conversation with anyone, even God?

You are in my prayers. I am so sorry for you loss.

amhouse36 · 03-20-2008, 03:12 PM

Victoria,
I think its normal to question God when we're in intense pain....like 'if God loved me so much...why is this happening'....I don't think it's a sin to question God...but to 'shake a fist' at God or turn your back on Him. My boyfriend, Jeremy, died almost 1 year ago...March 22, 2007. He was a christian, coached softball at his church, loved his family, his mistake was going to work one day and falling several stories down an elevator shaft at his construction site. He was only 32. I'm not saying that to be depressing, but to let you know that others have gone through what your going through...and that you will see the other side of the storm you're going through. Jesus is with you every moment...and with your brother's wife. He care's about you and your family intensely. I think sometimes my boyfriends death happened so that I would lean on Jesus MORE....to help me grow spiritually. Give it time....and pray.

Susie Q · 03-21-2008, 06:20 AM

"Let God be true, and every man a liar." Everything else will pass away and end, but the Word of God never will. He's strong enough for you.

Charliehx · 04-18-2008, 08:55 PM

I'm new to LCF and I truly appreciate these posts. The support and compassion shown are awesome. What would we do if we had to go through life's challenges without God?

The human side of us questions....but the spiritual side knows that God does not make mistakes. I recently lost my mom, and my husband has some serious medical issues which necessitates full time caregiving. This was hardly the way we dreamed of spending our "Golden Years". It doesn't seem right or fair and I don't understand why, but I am thankful that He provides the strength for his children to get through difficult times. On another thread there were posts about favorite songs. One of my favorites is by the Gaither Vocal Band called "Through".

When I saw what lay before me,
"Lord", I cried, "What will you do?"
I thought he would just remove it,
But He gently lead me through.
Without fire there's no refining.
Without pain, no relief.
Without flood, there's no rescue,
Without testing, no belief.

Through the fire, through the flood
Through the water, through the blood
Through the dry and barren places
Through life's depths and maddening mazes
Through the pain and through the glory
You will always tell the story
Of a God whose power and mercy will not fail to take us through.

02-19-2008, 06:10 AM	#1
Sweetpea MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: South Louisiana - LSU Country Posts: 2,981 Gallery: Sweetpea Stats: 165/110 WOE: lc/atkins Start Date: 04/02/2007	Do You Ever Question God I really don't want to here from people that don't believe in God. For those that do believe: I know you are not supposed to: I am true believer --- raised and practicing Catholic. But I am having a hard time right now --- My Brother commited sucide in September, now is wife is near death with cancer. I don't understand why God lets good people suffer so much. This is really tearing me up. I hate seeing her this way, I am a wreck.

02-19-2008, 06:55 AM	#5
Tea Cozy Senior LCF Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Fargo, North Dakota Posts: 975 Gallery: Tea Cozy Stats: 228/199/125 WOE: Atkins 72 Start Date: May 2007	I do believe - although I am not catholic. You have all my thoughts and prayers for what you are going through. When you look at the world around you, all the things that walk, and breathe, and grow, plant, animal and mineral alike, you will notice that there are opposites. Night and day, male and female, water and earth, life and death. Although I don't pretend to know the whys of life, or why things happen, I know that seeing the bad makes me appreciate the good all the more. It makes me realize how little time we may have, and to live each day out to the fullest. For each bad thing that happens, I can see the good that happens. No matter what is given to us to cope with, I do believe that the divine keeps it all in balance, in the end. ((hugs)) __________________ Stacey Next Goal: Couch to 5 K

02-20-2008, 06:49 AM	#8
vmfatnomore MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: ??????????? Posts: 2,693 Gallery: vmfatnomore Stats: 240/???/140 WOE: Atkins Start Date: January 2002	Oh yes, and I am a true follower of God. I had a son who was killed instantly in November in a traffic accident. He was the best kid a mom could ask for in this world. He wanted to live so much and loved his family with all his heart. My other son, wants to slowly kill himself with alcohol and other stuff. So I question God as to why these things are happening to our family. I know some day we will know the answers to our questions when we meet again in Heaven, but for now I do question. But, I still believe and pray each day. My faith in God is a critical part of my life each day. Without this faith, I could not handle what has happened and is happening to us. __________________ http://community.webshots.com/user/vmfatnomore

02-20-2008, 05:25 PM	#10
Determinedtolose Blabbermouth!!! Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Glendale, AZ Posts: 6,825 Gallery: Determinedtolose Stats: Changes with every new day!! WOE: Atkins/Eating Fat Start Date: I started on 4/2007. Goal by 9/2008	I totally feel for all of you who have lost a loved one. I lost my grandparents in the late 80's and that was the first time I lost anyone who was close to me. But you know what I've learned, is that it's okay to question God, about anything. That's how we get to know Him more. But, that doesn't mean He will show us or give us an answer. Sometimes we will never know why He allows things to happen then again He may show us but at a time when He knows we are ready to know and understand. Alot of times when we're upset about a situation, we don't have the understanding to get they why's and the what's because our heart is hurt or upset and we are not open to see or hear, at least in my experience. In biblical times alot of people questioned God about why He allowed things to happen. Sometimes He would tell them and sometimes He wouldn't, it just depended on the situation. But the thing we have to remember is that God is sovereign and He is always in control of everything. Reading the bible is very comforting and refreshing and we can really get our answers from reading it. Something else that we have to understand and that everyone forgets or maybe doesn't want to believe, but there is an enemy who wants to steal, kill and destroy. His name is Satan, the adversary, the beast, the Antichrist, etc. But he is the one who wants to destroy and that's what we have to realize as well. God loves us, He sent His Son to die for our sins. All He wants is for us to believe. In time He will heal our hurts and wounds because He truly and totally loves us!! I hope that helps some! __________________ DIANA "Wilkommen, bienvenu, welcome, c'mon in" "Your a Daisy if you do!" Pressing towards the Goal! Philippians 3:12-14 http://www.lowcarbfriends.com/bbs/weight-loss-journals/520225-narrow-road-31.html

02-22-2008, 04:10 PM	#14
CarolynF Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Kansas Posts: 19,094 Gallery: CarolynF Stats: 195/144/139 WOE: Eat Fat, Get Thin/I Can Make You Thin Start Date: January 2001	Many people question God, "Why did this happen or that happen?" Well, this world is corrupted by sin, to put it bluntly. It's not a perfect world. Only heaven is perfect. But, the good news is that God is there for US despite all the terrible things that happen in this world..And he is there in the midst of the wonderful things that happen in this world. I heard one of my favorite preachers R. C. Sproule, say once..The question is NOT "Why me, God?" "Why not me, God?" That makes me ever thankful for all the good moments in our lives. And, I do believe that those good moments outweigh the bad. Jesus promised that in this world we would have troubles, but he also promised that he has overcome this world. What more could we ask??? __________________ The Heat is On Challenge for July July 4: 144.4

02-19-2008, 06:12 AM	#2
Mimosa23 Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: State of perpetual confusion! Posts: 3,437 Gallery: Mimosa23 Stats: GOAL!!! Maintaining with a smile! WOE: Maintenance Mediterranean diet

02-19-2008, 06:13 AM	#3
Mona Mona Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 10,928 Gallery: Mona Mona WOE: Cuppy Cakes!	I am soooo sorry. Yes, I think it is human nature to question. Why me? Why us? Why this, why that??? I can only hope that one day, somehow, we can get answers that put us at peace....

02-19-2008, 06:50 AM	#4
Denise85 Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Chicago burbs Posts: 21,081 Gallery: Denise85 Stats: 261/163.6/149 WOE: IE (Intuitive Eating)	To answer your quesdtion yes I do. I feel guilty thinking/saying it, but it's true. We've been through so much in the last year, and I keep telling myself it's all for a reason, but there is another part of me that questions it all.

02-19-2008, 06:55 AM	#6
KristenT MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 1,992 Gallery: KristenT WOE: Atkins Start Date: August 15 2005, restarted 12/31/07	All the time.

02-19-2008, 07:17 AM	#7
Mair Very Gabby LCF Member!!! Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Texas Posts: 4,400 Gallery: Mair	Yes, I definately question why. My mother in law suffered horribly for about 4 years before she died and there is not a person on earth who was more true and faithful to her lord than her.

02-20-2008, 06:41 PM	#11
Kissmygrits Senior LCF Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Italy Posts: 265 Gallery: Kissmygrits Stats: 5' 10" WOE: Low Carb Start Date: Feb. 2006	Very nice, Diana.

02-22-2008, 10:44 AM	#12
Sweetpea MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: South Louisiana - LSU Country Posts: 2,981 Gallery: Sweetpea Stats: 165/110 WOE: lc/atkins Start Date: 04/02/2007	Thank you all so much --- It's nice to know other people feel the way I do. I hang on to my faith - that is what keeps me going. I am suprised at how many people (on this board alone) who do not believe in God. But I will continue to

02-27-2008, 11:02 AM	#16
Pcola Girl MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Pensacola, Florida Posts: 2,806 Gallery: Pcola Girl Stats: Start-325 Today-225 Goal 160 WOE: Atkins Start Date: Sarted Nov. 2000---Restarted New January 2008	God has a reason for everyting He does. we may not know the reason but what-ever He does its for the good. We had our only son pass away with leukemia in 2002 and it broke my heart. I prayed and prayed to for his healing but it did not come and I didn't understand why but now I have learned that it was his time to go be with the Lord. We are only on this earth for a certian time, a time for us to be born and a time for us to die. Gods tells us that doeasn't He? I just accept the fact that God allowed me the honor to be his mother for the short time he was with us. We may never know Gods reasons why He does the things He does, but one day we will when we are in Heaven to with Him. So keep praying and talking to God, He can help you through the tough times. __________________ Mary

03-01-2008, 07:22 PM	#18
Houston Heather MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Houston Posts: 2,048 Gallery: Houston Heather Stats: I lost it before and I'll lose it again! WOE: Atkins 2002 + powerlifting and running	Yes. I know God sends us trials to make us stronger, but sometimes I DON'T WANT TO BE THAT STRONG! I don't know why He allows the things he does sometimes. I was born with brain damage because my mother drank while pregnant. The main effect it's had on me is it's difficult to hold a job and I can't drive. She also "gave" me bipolar disorder, which was not diagnosed until age 33. I had a lot of hellish years on account of that. Now that I'm medicated my life is a lot better. 5 years ago, my husband was run over while walking to work. He was already blind. It put him in a wheelchair, he had a stroke and brain damage too. My mother and grandmother died shortly after that. Then my 2 cats died. All in one year. Sometimes I look at our lives and I think WHY? But God can use these things to make us strong, and I am blessed to know that everyone I have lost was "saved" and I will see them again. I know sometimes people look at my husband, staggering along like a drunk (he hates the wheelchair and hobbles as much as possible), blind and somewhat deaf. He's holding onto my arm and we're laughing about something. I know people look at us and go "Why are they so happy?" We know that God is in control and ALL things work for good. I know I was a good witness just by the way I reacted after the accident. The guy who ran over my husband is one of our best customers. The policeman investigating the accident robbed my husband and let the guy off. I'm not going to spend the rest of my life hating the man because he ran a red light and neither is my husband. I always used to tell myself this when I was in the throes of yet another suicidal depression: This is all a bad dream. I'm going to look back on this one day and say "Thank God, my life is better now". My husband died at the scene of the accident and he says Heaven is indescribably beautiful. He's still angry that God "sent him back". That says it all to me. I'll be praying for you, and here's a hug. __________________ Inducted Feb 26, 2008 Don't just weigh, measure too! My Fitday 227.5/193.5/150 42 inch waist/34.75/30 22W/16 Misses/12 Philippians 4:13 - I can do all things in Him who strengthens me. 1 Corinthians 6:20 You were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

03-11-2008, 02:09 PM	#19
bilsan Junior LCF Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: illinois Posts: 34 Gallery: bilsan Stats: 233/172/150 WOE: started atkins , now more lc that fits me Start Date: 02/22/06	Hello , I am new to this site and let me tell you I loooooove it . I read Victoria s origanal question about God . First I want to say how sorry I am about your brother and also sister in law . My boyfriend killed himself a long time ago . I was pregnant with our child . What a horrible time in my life . So many unanswered questions . Sucide is a terrible thing to cope with . As the years have past I can only find saddness for the way his heart must have felt on that day . In 1991 our son was hit and killed by a car . I may have had some preperation for this with the 5 1/2 years I had dealing with dad . My son really rocked my world . Sudden deaths are the worse . No time to prepare , end , say anything ect . Just here it is . I learned a new motto over time of not asking why just knowing that I am so not in control . And my favorite is it does not matter why . This is just it . I would never wish this on me or anyone for that matter . I am grateful for the time I had and the me I have become . My son will never be hurt , molested , no drugs , alcohol he is in a far better place than I could ever have provided for him . I miss the boy I raised and held and played with . I also am grateful God chose me to have him and Brice to take instantly . Time and God do heal and maybe not make things ok , just better . After Brice is when I started gaining my weight . I quit cigs before he died because he asked . I have kept my word on that . I have yoyooed for several years now on weight and I have survived alot and I will do this weight thing . Thanks for listening and for being here . Sandy

03-12-2008, 09:18 AM	#20
Sweetpea MAJOR LCF POSTER! Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: South Louisiana - LSU Country Posts: 2,981 Gallery: Sweetpea Stats: 165/110 WOE: lc/atkins Start Date: 04/02/2007	WOW - Heather & Sandy --- I am in awe of both of you --- I feel my problems are so small in comparisson. Thanks for the up lift. Update - My SIL passed last week. It has not been a good 6 months. I miss her so much. My brother - I am beginning to understand the situation he was in. I just look foward to the time when we meet again. Life is tough, but God only gives us what we can handle. Love to you all ----

03-12-2008, 03:06 PM	#21
Jennyl Way too much time on my hands! Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: calgary Posts: 22,282 Gallery: Jennyl Start Date: manana	yes

03-13-2008, 04:11 PM	#22
bilsan Junior LCF Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: illinois Posts: 34 Gallery: bilsan Stats: 233/172/150 WOE: started atkins , now more lc that fits me Start Date: 02/22/06	So sorry to hear about ur sil . A loss is a loss to the heart . We all seem to grieve different and who is worse to lose is whom evers pain . I do believe God does carry us through all . I am complete proof of this . And the end result is an ok feeling . Now to get ahold of my eating . Maybe I should say now to let go of my eating lol .

03-13-2008, 06:50 PM	#23
Su11 Big Yapper!!!! Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: Outside Perimeter Atlanta Georgia Posts: 7,564 Gallery: Su11 Stats: Total loss- 50 (since Sept 05) WOE: General lower carb	I believe God gets us through the bad times. I don't think he chose to have us suffer so, but evil is in the world and His help enables us to keep going and to be enriched with His comfort and His people. There's nothing wrong with questioning. How else do you have a conversation with anyone, even God? You are in my prayers. I am so sorry for you loss.

03-20-2008, 03:12 PM	#24
amhouse36 Senior LCF Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Virginia Posts: 300 Gallery: amhouse36 Stats: 240-231-140 Start Date: January 1, 2008	Victoria, I think its normal to question God when we're in intense pain....like 'if God loved me so much...why is this happening'....I don't think it's a sin to question God...but to 'shake a fist' at God or turn your back on Him. My boyfriend, Jeremy, died almost 1 year ago...March 22, 2007. He was a christian, coached softball at his church, loved his family, his mistake was going to work one day and falling several stories down an elevator shaft at his construction site. He was only 32. I'm not saying that to be depressing, but to let you know that others have gone through what your going through...and that you will see the other side of the storm you're going through. Jesus is with you every moment...and with your brother's wife. He care's about you and your family intensely. I think sometimes my boyfriends death happened so that I would lean on Jesus MORE....to help me grow spiritually. Give it time....and pray. __________________ Amber Amber's Journal

03-21-2008, 06:20 AM	#25
Susie Q Senior LCF Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 786 Gallery: Susie Q Stats: 165/140/135 WOE: Atkins by the Book	"Let God be true, and every man a liar." Everything else will pass away and end, but the Word of God never will. He's strong enough for you.

04-18-2008, 08:55 PM	#26
Charliehx Junior LCF Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: NYS Posts: 6 Gallery: Charliehx Stats: 153/146.5/130 WOE: South Beach modified Start Date: April 2008	I'm new to LCF and I truly appreciate these posts. The support and compassion shown are awesome. What would we do if we had to go through life's challenges without God? The human side of us questions....but the spiritual side knows that God does not make mistakes. I recently lost my mom, and my husband has some serious medical issues which necessitates full time caregiving. This was hardly the way we dreamed of spending our "Golden Years". It doesn't seem right or fair and I don't understand why, but I am thankful that He provides the strength for his children to get through difficult times. On another thread there were posts about favorite songs. One of my favorites is by the Gaither Vocal Band called "Through". When I saw what lay before me, "Lord", I cried, "What will you do?" I thought he would just remove it, But He gently lead me through. Without fire there's no refining. Without pain, no relief. Without flood, there's no rescue, Without testing, no belief. Through the fire, through the flood Through the water, through the blood Through the dry and barren places Through life's depths and maddening mazes Through the pain and through the glory You will always tell the story Of a God whose power and mercy will not fail to take us through.